hi need to vent

Tropez

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

maybe hes deleted them for space? if hes only got a normal phone as you say then he might be in need of it. if hes deleted every text and not just the ones to her then maybe its not as sisnister as some bitter posters would have you believe.

That would make sense.

On my old Nokia 6300, deleting messages one by one was a chore. It was much easier to just set the phone to delete every message in the inbox and leave it to it.

shellsuit

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

yes it is. one is a written message the other is a spoken one. its exactly the same. lost your moral highground there havent you!:rotfl:

Lost my moral highground? What planet are you on?

I've logged into phone/email accounts of my partner in the past, so if it's illegal, why haven't I been reprimanded?

Infact I've just logged into his facebook account 5 minutes ago ~ do you want to call the Police?

I've done digging in the past and I'd do it again for my own peace of mind.

dirtysexymonkey

shellsuit wrote: »

Lost my moral highground? What planet are you on?

I've logged into phone/email accounts of my partner in the past, so if it's illegal, why haven't I been reprimanded?

Infact I've just logged into his facebook account 5 minutes ago ~ do you want to call the Police?

I've done digging in the past and I'd do it again for my own peace of mind.

because youve not been reported to the police/sued in the civil courts?

what planet do you live on? this isnt 1984. big brother isnt watching your every move to see when you break the law.:rotfl:

just because you havent been caught doesnt make it any less illegal.

danielley

For the record, I think BlueBook is being discontinued in the current form of storing messages, it probably caused too many relationship break-ups.

paddy's_mum

Tropez wrote: »

why would you be with him?

I think that tiny little factlet of four children might be a teensyweensy bit to do with it

Tropez

paddy's_mum wrote: »

I think that tiny little factlet of four children might be a teensyweensy bit to do with it

Only if the children were being used as an excuse not to face up to reality and responsibility.

No child psychologist worth their salt would ever suggest that two people remain together solely because of the children because statistically it causes more damage than good. Heck, you could ask my partner about that one.

If she doesn't trust her OH and is looking to catch him cheating on her, which she essentially is, then where is the benefit for the children in this situation? Where is the benefit that these four kids are going to have with a father, who if we take the OP at her word is some sort of clothing fetishist pervert desperate to have his end away elsewhere, and a mother playing Inspector Clousseau trying to catch him at it?

tinktinktinkerbell

i easily sent 100 texts a DAY when i first met my OH

i had to delete texts because of space, maybe thats the case here?

i have to say i wouldnt be too happy if my OH was in touch with an ex but i wouldnt automatically thik something was going on between them

and i would never snoop on my OH either

make_me_wise

emmaBZ wrote: »

hi im so unbelievably fked off.... OH was chatting to an old friend on facebook (female) anyway ok fair enuff im not sure what sort of friend i.e EX ect, but shes now seperated and lives local, anyway i noticed hes been deleting his texts over the last week and today his itemised bill arrived and he texted her on wed thur and fri over 100 times, i know its her cuz she got her number on facebook, im so !!!!ed off. im shaking and so close to tears i wont call him at work cuz i want to see his face when i ask him but got all 4 kids at home as school hols,
so why delete messages if your not hidding something and over 100 texts in 3 days, ( only in work time ?!!!) :(:(:(:(

part of me wants to tell him to do one, part of me wants to curl up and cry

Could he be arranging something (nice) as a surprise for you, with an old friend. Is your birthday coming up?

Okay it is a long shot but this may all be innocent. I hope so for all your sakes.

relic

tinktinktinkerbell wrote: »

i easily sent 100 texts a DAY when i first met my OH

i had to delete texts because of space, maybe thats the case here?

i have to say i wouldnt be too happy if my OH was in touch with an ex but i wouldnt automatically thik something was going on between them

and i would never snoop on my OH either

There's always an exception to the rule.

If I were you, i'd be snooping.

tinktinktinkerbell

relic wrote: »

There's always an exception to the rule.

If I were you, i'd be snooping.

nope, i have no need to snoop