How Did You Afford/Pay for Your/Your Daughter's Wedding?

Caroline73_2

My mum paid for my first wedding. She had made a promise to my father on his death bed so I felt obliged to accept. I was a bit naive and felt railroaded into having things I didn't want because she did. My fiance felt the same as me. His parents also chipped in and paid for the evening do. I wouldn't have spent as much as they did. I didn't enjoy my wedding at all as I didn't feel like it was mine.

Give her the money as wedding present instead.

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

Normally i wouldn't have been interested in threads like this. Been with my girlfriend for 7 years and always intended to marry her but been putting it off and off and so on. At the start of June on a Saturday morning i was laying in bed just thinking how nice i've got it and she came back from the doctors (she said she was going because she had a headache or something minor). And that's when she told me she's pregnant.

Now we are getting married in October. Luckily our families are helping out, mainly with the idea that early next year we'll be paying for a baby. Old fashioned, i suppose, but we are having a smallish wedding. Anyway, just thought i'd contribute.

RubyRue

We got married last year. We were fully expecting to pay for everything and didn't ask for any contributions however my parents said they wanted to pay. OH parents also wanted to contribute and my grandma and grandad wanted to buy my dress. We paid for our rings and the suits for the men.

absolutebounder

When my daughter told me what she wanted for her wedding I choked then laughed and we compromised;)

teacherandmum

we paid for our own wedding - just over £5k 6 years ago including rings, honeymoon, dress and suit, food, venue, disco, flowers, photography. I didn't expect my parents to pay and knew my husbands parents would not offer anything (they never actually came tothe wedding in the end).
Offer to pay for one particular thing - perhaps the cake etc. but don't think that because you are paying for it means you can dictate what they must have. I've had friends who've had cakes/photographers/discos/food etc that they did not like as someone else was paying for it and made the decisions!!!

Js_Other_Half

We paid for it ourselves, again somewhere around 5K for everything, including honeymoon. We got presents of money from both sets of parents, but that came to about £1200.

Person_one

My parents did save a bit for my hypothetical future wedding, but in the end it went towards a house deposit, much more sensible investment than a one day party!

onlyroz

Brighton_belle wrote: »

We got engaged last week and are marrying in Sept. It has really suprised me that it is
£520 just for the registrar to marry us
£66 to register our 'intent' to marry' (legal requirement) and
£500 for the registry office. So that's £1,086 without anything extra just to get married.

So not quite as cheap as all that, depending which part of the country you live in maybe?

Wow that's expensive. I didn't pay anything like that for my civil wedding. Admittedly it was 9 years ago but I thought it only got expensive if you wanted the registrar to leave their cosy office and marry you in some other building. I seem to remember paying the Richmond registrar a few hundred quid to cross the river and marry us in Twickenham.

Bunny

my dad insisted on paying for our wedding (we paid for a little, such as the photographer), we were fortunate however, he took voluntary redundancy about 6 months prior or so (he'd been waiting for it, and had been at the company some time)

Our wedding totalled £6k that includes the hair clips in the bridemaids hair.

Tygermoth

I asked my mother if the money left to me by my Grandmother for my wedding could be used instead for a house deposit. (Partner and I had been together for years)

My mother calmly stated that when I had turned 30 she decided I was unlikely to get hitched so had spent the money getting PVC windows put in her house.


Several years later we were all at a family dinner party and I was asked if my long term partner and I would ever consider getting married. I said if we did it would just be the two of us on a beach somewhere. In wades my mother full of righteous indignation saying we couldn’t do that as my mother she had a right to be there. I very calmly stated ‘you lost that right when you bought PVC windows’ much to the confusion of the guests lol.


So yes, we would self fund. I would not let my mother near my wedding at all she would rail road it. In fact due to major family issues on both on my side and the In-laws (people who would refuse to go if other people were there, feuds and some attention seeking drama queens) we would not EVER consider wedding with family.


Him, me by the sea.



Beautiful... ours and no drama. Perfect.