How Did You Afford/Pay for Your/Your Daughter's Wedding?

marywooyeah

VfM4meplse wrote: »

Total child abuse .

Seriously, you have my sympathy. I'm sure your experiences with your family will shape how you choose to raise your own, in a positive way.

:rotfl:actually my father was very physically abusive with all of us, not so funny now eh!
lol I know what you mean and yes, they certainly have. I always try to see things from my son's point of view and imagine how he feels rather than barking out orders at him!
I invited my dad to kind of have the moral high ground eg even though what you did to me I will allow you to share the day, but also to show him what a good life we have built despite our respective childhoods.

~Diamond~

When I get married I will not expect my parents to pay anything towards it. If they wanted to give us anything I would put that towards living costs of renting as I doubt we will ever be home owners.

To me getting married is just one day and so not worth spending every bit of money you have on/or getting into debt like some do. You can make it really nice for low cost and I wouldn't have that many people at my wedding anyway. But I would not spend thousands and thousands on just one day in our lives, I would rather put money towards living happily every day of our future.

scooby088

What is so wrong with a register office wedding can be done cheaply and no need to worry about the cost.

CH27

VfM4meplse wrote: »

Maybe you can get your own back by not buying flowers for her funeral .

Fab idea:rotfl:

jcr16

we paid for our own. we had our own mortgage, we both workled. didn't even cross my mind for my parents to pay.

we didn't really set a budget but after working out what we thought we first wanted the food alone was over £2.5k !! for 100 people. we cut back. we had a small wedding 30 at service and 20 for a meal. i had a gorgeous dress. as it turned out when we got to the recpetion venue both our sets of parents had agreed they were gonna share the food bill between them. something we were expecting but was a fab surprise.

DaisyFlower

Even if I am financially able to pay for DS's wedding I dont think I would. Its just one day, its the vows and the marriage itself that are important not an expensive dress and party. Plus he would be an adult and should be working to pay his own way in life.

I'd rather pay for something more useful like uni.

*Louise*

OP - you have quite an old fashioned view of it all Save up, contribute, but please don't assume you will have to bear the burden of the full cost.

I am one of three daughters and never for one second expected my parents to pay for my wedding. We were lucky that both sets of parents gave us £500 towards the reception as a wedding gift, and my parents paid for a honeymoon for us as a surprise - everything else was saved and paid for by us.

A lot of couples pay for it themselves these days, and rightly so.

One family I know paid 25k for their daughter to have her dream wedding and they split just after a year together. If they paid for it themselves I bet they wouldn't have been so keen to go to such extremes!

heretolearn_2

I think most people pay for their own weddings now, anyone who expects someone else to foot the bill is being blooming cheeky!

Parents can offer something towards it if they want to, but you don't have to.

shellsuit

Brighton_belle wrote: »

We got engaged last week and are marrying in Sept. It has really suprised me that it is
£520 just for the registrar to marry us
£66 to register our 'intent' to marry' (legal requirement) and
£500 for the registry office. So that's £1,086 without anything extra just to get married.

So not quite as cheap as all that, depending which part of the country you live in maybe?

Are you sure?!

Normally it's only that expensive for a registrar if you are getting married at a venue and not in the reg office.

katkins78

Gosh that's expensive! I got married in a registery office in December last year and paid less than £500 for the room (seated 40 people), registrar, notice of intent and certificates.
Does cost differ with location? I am in Kent for what it's worth!

Oh and we paid for our own wedding and reception, wouldn't have had it any other way