Nice people thread part 4 - sugar and spice and all things

PasturesNew

silvercar wrote: »

Hi I'm PN, I've phoned you before. I need your help in getting services in place for old. Recently bereaved she is now going to be living on her own and I don't know how to get the necessary support in place for her to be safe in her own home. This is urgent as I am leaving on XX and she can't properly manage herself.

I think I do know what's needed... it's not really a lot to be honest and need to keep it to a minimum at first to see how it goes.

Could have done with help sooner I guess in understanding the options - but the biggest problem has been the 0 input from the old. You can't easily pick somewhere for somebody if they give you 0 input or feedback and don't engage in the conversations/discussions or research or thoughts.

PasturesNew

Generali wrote: »

Hi All,

Am back for a bit. Part 1 of my plan came through a bit quicker than imagined or even hoped for!

I'm not sure of the problem but this lot are brilliant at helping carers:

http://www.crossroads.org.uk/

I very strongly urge fellow posters to consider a donation if they can afford it.

They'e more London and big city and oop North based. Map shows just one marker 60 miles away and beyond that nearly 200 miles.

I am not a carer ...... I won't be called that... and don't want to be sucked into the whole "I am a carer" vortex .... I have no room for elasticated waist skirts either.

PasturesNew

Generali wrote: »

...as it'll involve digging 2,500 holes.

So long as you spread your money/risk out it's perfectly safe in most banks... no need to hide it under your mattress or bury it!!

PasturesNew

Generali wrote: »

Well I agree frankly. I'm looking at starting a farm in a couple of years maybe. The thing is, the more sweat I put in the more cash I can take out.

But then digging in Aus is a fugging nightmare. It's all clay. How can you make a continent out of clay!:mad::mad::mad:

Start a Bootcamp Farm for badduns..... digging is part of their process, journey and therapy

Then close the Bootcamp once the digging's done.

Generali

PasturesNew wrote: »

So long as you spread your money/risk out it's perfectly safe in most banks... no need to hide it under your mattress or bury it!!

I need to put down roots. Lots and lots of roots.

sss555s

Generali wrote: »

I need to put down roots. Lots and lots of roots.

Red or white? :beer:

michaels

I assume the comedy aspect of your latest interview didn't go as well as planned - congratulations on the promotion.

GDB2222

PasturesNew wrote: »

I think I do know what's needed... it's not really a lot to be honest and need to keep it to a minimum at first to see how it goes.

Could have done with help sooner I guess in understanding the options - but the biggest problem has been the 0 input from the old. You can't easily pick somewhere for somebody if they give you 0 input or feedback and don't engage in the conversations/discussions or research or thoughts.

Like I said before, you can't expect somebody grieving to be able to take big decisions, or even discussing big decisions. Same applies to you, PN. I'm amazed how well you seem to be coping with your loss. Give it a few months, and mum will be better able to say what she wants. Of course, you may not feel able to support her until then, but then we've all said all along that you're not the only child and this needs to be shared more.

lostinrates

I bought expensive shop cup of coffee. I think coffee and I might be done. I feel a bit sad. Coffee and I have had a relationship most of my adult life....when men and I weren't on speaking terms, coffee and I were, when men and I were on speaking terms coffee and I maintained our relationship...in the way only best friends can. Coffee has been there when I do eat and when I don't, when I smoked and now I don't, when I'm ill and well. I feel like coffee has dumped me when all I wanted was some space for a while.

GDB2222

lostinrates wrote: »

I bought expensive shop cup of coffee. I think coffee and I might be done. I feel a bit sad. Coffee and I have had a relationship most of my adult life....when men and I weren't on speaking terms, coffee and I were, when men and I were on speaking terms coffee and I maintained our relationship...in the way only best friends can. Coffee has been there when I do eat and when I don't, when I smoked and now I don't, when I'm ill and well. I feel like coffee has dumped me when all I wanted was some space for a while.

A lifelong relationship with coffee, and you dump it because of a couple of bad cups! How fickle can you get?

Maybe you need a cooling-off period. Try for a reconciliation in a couple of weeks.