Nice people thread part 4 - sugar and spice and all things

PasturesNew

Picking one up is doable as my daily journey is across the county, so opportunity there potentially ... but it's the time/hassle factor of the detour, parking, get in, find it, pick it up, get through the tills, out to the car, then get it into the house, unbox it, read destructions, put it into place, remove the old one and put that somewhere else, dispose of packaging. Overall it adds about two hours' work that I don't have time for - and it'll have limited usage as the well old will be shuffling off to be cared for shortly (with full catering).

LydiaJ

Pastures - thanks for posting. Even if all we can do for you is to be here to read what you write and think of you, at least we can do that. (Oh, and it's nice to find somebody else who refers to the "destructions" in that way. My family have always said that.)

lir - Tidying for visitors is a strange thing. I do it lots, but I never think of myself as the sort of person that other people need to tidy for. Then I suppose I get the impression that what I see when I visit other people's homes is how they are all the time, and then I feel even more inadequate because I see mine at its worst, and compare.

misskool

PasturesNew wrote: »

Picking one up is doable as my daily journey is across the county, so opportunity there potentially ... but it's the time/hassle factor of the detour, parking, get in, find it, pick it up, get through the tills, out to the car, then get it into the house, unbox it, read destructions, put it into place, remove the old one and put that somewhere else, dispose of packaging. Overall it adds about two hours' work that I don't have time for - and it'll have limited usage as the well old will be shuffling off to be cared for shortly (with full catering).

You really need some help now PN, another relative, another person. You can't keep this up. Please.

PasturesNew

misskool wrote: »

You really need some help now PN, another relative, another person. You can't keep this up. Please.

There is nobody else. It's just me now. And I have a huge list of essential stuff to do first thing in the morning that must be done. Days are ending at midnight, tomorrow starts at about 6am. Essential stuff that shouldn't be put off another day. One of them though is organising a trial trip to daycare, which is all well and good but I'll have to go too and sit with biddies drinking tea and listening to war stories

Last week had to decide which nursing home would receive the ill old (even though I don't think they'll be moved on to that stage as they're too far advanced for a move, but I still had to visit them all and 'interview' them etc). So tomorrow morning I need to speak with the owner (at 7am) to confirm details/costs. Then I need to inform the place who has the ill old that a decision's been made so it's on file for if/when they reach the discharging stage.

I need to find something the ill old wants to see, an old piece of paperwork from 60 years ago that's suspected to be in a big pile of their entire life's important random letters/qualifications/memberships - and probably hasn't even been touched for 20 years; but I want to find it and take/show it to them.

I've got banking stuff I can put off for awhile, need to photocopy the will for deciphering and go through some other paperwork as I'm sure there was a newer one written 16 years ago that's been forgotten and is at a solicitor's, so need to find out who they dealt with back then and contact them.

There's a trip to the pharmacy to fit in and a whole raft of washing that's essential (unless I take the well old out in gravy stained clothes again .... everything is gravy stained within 10 minutes of the well old wearing it so they run out of stuff quickly ... I'd get a pinafore but that'd be another job). The well old has no shoes that fit, and I can't get them to any shops to get some - they also really need a trolley to hold onto (nearly nicked one from Asda the other day for now - bargain at £1).

I've been phoning the ill old's ancient mates - and a local acquaintance who will be visiting them maybe tomorrow (so that was a win). I'm doing all this as the well old can simply sit in the chair and stare at me ..... I said "you should be doing this" and they just said "I can't".

And all the time people are emailing me more !!!!!! to do; typical example is tonight - had an email to say there was something on the telly the ill old would like, but it'd be on iplayer ... there is no internet where the ill old is - and even if I dragged out my laptop/dongle there's no power sockets to plug that into - and even if the battery didn't run out there is zero mobile signal in the area so probably wouldn't get a dongle signal at all.... and people with nothing better to do than make up this !!!!!! are emailng me these 'great ideas' of more work I can do .... grrrr.

fc123

PasturesNew wrote: »

There is nobody else. It's just me now. And I have a huge list of essential stuff to do first thing in the morning that must be done. Days are ending at midnight, tomorrow starts at about 6am. Essential stuff that shouldn't be put off another day. One of them though is organising a trial trip to daycare, which is all well and good but I'll have to go too and sit with biddies drinking tea and listening to war stories

Last week had to decide which nursing home would receive the ill old (even though I don't think they'll be moved on to that stage as they're too far advanced for a move, but I still had to visit them all and 'interview' them etc). So tomorrow morning I need to speak with the owner (at 7am) to confirm details/costs. Then I need to inform the place who has the ill old that a decision's been made so it's on file for if/when they reach the discharging stage.

I need to find something the ill old wants to see, an old piece of paperwork from 60 years ago that's suspected to be in a big pile of their entire life's important random letters/qualifications/memberships - and probably hasn't even been touched for 20 years; but I want to find it and take/show it to them.

I've got banking stuff I can put off for awhile, need to photocopy the will for deciphering and go through some other paperwork as I'm sure there was a newer one written 16 years ago that's been forgotten and is at a solicitor's, so need to find out who they dealt with back then and contact them.

There's a trip to the pharmacy to fit in and a whole raft of washing that's essential (unless I take the well old out in gravy stained clothes again .... everything is gravy stained within 10 minutes of the well old wearing it so they run out of stuff quickly ... I'd get a pinafore but that'd be another job). The well old has no shoes that fit, and I can't get them to any shops to get some - they also really need a trolley to hold onto (nearly nicked one from Asda the other day for now - bargain at £1).

I've been phoning the ill old's ancient mates - and a local acquaintance who will be visiting them maybe tomorrow (so that was a win). I'm doing all this as the well old can simply sit in the chair and stare at me ..... I said "you should be doing this" and they just said "I can't".

And all the time people are emailing me more !!!!!! to do; typical example is tonight - had an email to say there was something on the telly the ill old would like, but it'd be on iplayer ... there is no internet where the ill old is - and even if I dragged out my laptop/dongle there's no power sockets to plug that into - and even if the battery didn't run out there is zero mobile signal in the area so probably wouldn't get a dongle signal at all.... and people with nothing better to do than make up this !!!!!! are emailng me these 'great ideas' of more work I can do .... grrrr.

Just a quick post to say thinking of you.......sounds like it's full on 24/7. Sorry to hear the end is due too.
Any more sibling assistance available?
Good luck finding the 60 yr old document. Was the whirlwind you referred to a sibling and did he/she help with the house de-cluttering?

Anyways....my day off was more exhausting than it should have been but I feel de-cluttered, organised and set up for the week. I also weeded out the salad garden and stared in awe at all the tomatoes that I have managed to grow from just 3 plants that I planted and then ignored for 3 months.
Unfortunately, I think they will ripen when we are away.:(

These places that charge a fortune to visit do make me wonder if they actually don't want too many visitors in the 1st place........very strange or perhaps I am out of touch with leisure costs nowadays.

neverdespairgirl

JonnyBravo wrote: »

London - lovely place to visit.
Not so great to live there.

I love living in London - it's a fantastic place. Everywhere has its downsides, of course, but I love it anyway.

neverdespairgirl

GDB2222 wrote: »

Depends whether your meeting is in central London? There is no congestion charge on sundays, but parking is still an expensive nightmare.

Not necessarily. Parking in Holborn and bits of Bloomsbury is free and easy to come by on Sundays (and Sat after 1.30pm, too).

neverdespairgirl

lostinrates wrote: »

Is no where free on sundays any more? Parking somewhere thats free and hopping on tube or suitable bus is/used to be a good option.

Lots of places are. Camden, for example, has a few bits with 24 hour parking control, and quite a few bits which are Mon to Fri and Sat mornings only.

King's Cross (CA-D) which covers bits of Bloomsbury and Holborn too, is controlled from 8.30 am to 6.30pm Monday to Friday, and 8.30am to 1.30pm on Sat. That's it.

Bloomsbury and Fitzrovia (CA-E) is Monday to Sat, 8.30am to 6.30pm.

neverdespairgirl

PasturesNew wrote: »

Well old was hoping the tomatoes they planted together would be red so ill old could at least see them (isn't eating, so won't eat one), before they departed.... it's not looking good unless they ripen tonight by some miracle.

Buy a couple of cherry toms in a good cause and "pick" them?

neverdespairgirl

Back from Devon. Dawlish was great - red sand! We swam in the sea, and in a pool at the hotel, and made sandcastles. We also went to a fair, and Isaac and I did a spinning round fast thing, while OH and my mate watched in disbelief that someone would pay actual money to do something like that. I loved it (-:

This evening, we got the train back to London (via Exeter) and then Isaac and I drove down to my parents' house in Kent. Here for a couple of days only, because I'm in court in Newport on Wednesday.