Am I going soft ? Or is he having me on ???

balletshoes

AmandaD28 wrote: »

The suggestion of insuring him to drive the car is a good one however doesn't solve the issue that we want rid of the car. I dunno quite how to get around it !

He wouldn't buy the car either I'd get the whole he has no money thing hence why I thought maybe gifting it to him would be better I also don't really want him to feel he owes us anything all I want is for the kids to be safe.

I haven't discussed properly with OH yet I don't think he will be too happy initially he thinks my ex is a loser but I am certain once I talk through the benefits of it i.e safety for our children he will do whatever. Thanks for all the advice am taking it all on board

I wouldn't gift him the car - because he clearly doesn't maintain the car he has (brakes, tyres etc are normal wear and tear, they need replacing, on any car). If you're sure he wouldn't buy the car from you, then you have lots of other options. If your megane has a valid MOT and runs fine, you could sell it easily by private sale. You'd get more than scrap value for it. Or you could offer it to your sister (she doesn't have a car does she - your ex does, one he is content to run around in without maintaining). If you gift your car to your ex, next year at this time he'll be moaning that this car failed its MOT for brakes/tyres, so it won't solve anything.

Sambucus_Nigra

Fleago wrote: »

I'm going to go against the consensus too and agree with choccyface. Going by what you've said in this thread, I would give him the car, primarily so that you can be reassured that your children are transported safely while with him.

Nope - there is no reassurance here at all.....

OP - If you give him a car then he could sell it the day after and you'd be no further forward.

delain

bagginslover wrote: »

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By all means offer to sell him the car (though as you already pointed out, he won't afford that either) and when he refuses, dispose of it as you see fit (totally OT, but SCRAPPING a 51 plate car?!)

I did wonder about that too

We have a 51 plate car, it's the newest we've ever had :eek::eek:

dark_lady

1echidna wrote: »

And I'm asking her to get a judge to tell her that when her children are with him it is his responsibility not hers. She will be worrying about the standard of his washing up next.

So if GOD FORBID they have an accident in that unsafe car which ends up with one of the children having LIFE CHANGING injuries it will be the ex stepping up to the plate to care for said child will it?
It will be the ex who will be willing to live on £55 pounds a week Carers Allowance indefinately in this caring role will it?

Of course it wont. It will be the child and Amanda who will be paying the price while the ex walks away. This is why your comment is so ruddy stupid and idiotic.

FatVonD

I'd give him the car, so what if he doesn't deserve it or if it reinforces that he can take you for a fool (I'm not saying you are!) your children's safety is paramount so do it for their sake and your own peace of mind. I'd be tempted to tell him your partner has taken up banger racing and would like to do a car swap so you can be sure he doesn't still have access to the illegal one by getting it scrapped yourself.

ifonlyitwaseasier

i'd report him for the dodgy car he has, and no i'd not give him your one, if he wants to come and see the kids he can get the bus

1echidna

Person_one wrote: »

Somebody needs an early night I think!

You're not wrong but I have a 1.5 litre bottle of French sparkly to open and celebrations tonight.

gillypkk

i defo wouldnt give him the car!

tell him unless he has a safe way to get the kids to and from yours and around while they visit he cant see them. end of the day he is a grown man and his kids safety is his responsibility too.

and scrapping the car?!? thats just nuts!!! sell it !!!!!!!!