The Ultimate Incentive Threadies go all out!

wendz86

It is a good job they have changed the parental rights thing, they just have to go when baby is registered. I must admit it is confusing that Poppy has a different sirname to me although most places are used to that now. Hopefully one day i will have the same sirname anyway! Her red health book has my sirname on it as in the hospital the baby has mums sirname but i registered her at the doctors with OHs sirname.

There is a man in our hallway fixing the ceiling where there was a leak upstairs so not really doing much today. Might venture out when he eventually goes.

zigmeister

Cinny91 wrote: »

Stubborn is an understatement! Her excuse was "We're getting a horse" B*tch, please!

:rotfl: She sounds like a brat.

Cinny91 wrote: »

I really want to see Bridesmaids.

Do it! It's brilliant. I'm gonna go and see it again with my mum cuz I laughed so much that I cried. :cool:

Good deal on the Body Shop stuff Shrimpy! I have an insane amount of toiletries. I'm going to be using Soap and Glory til I'm 80..

Dinah I've PMed you my ticker thing, did it work?

Happy 3 Months Poppy! Can't believe how quick that time has gone!

I'd love to get married. I want my family to have the same surname. And I'd love to say 'this is my husband' I know how you feel Tete, but I'm holding out hope that we'll meet people who can't wait to marry us! Instead of pratting about for years..

Birdie85

For me the marriage was the legal stuff and the ingrained belief that we 'should' be married especially as we want children but if it's not for you then that's fine! We went to a friend's wedding night do on Saturday night and they'd had a small wedding in the registry office, back to the rugby club for a sit down meal of fish and chips (!!!) then a party in the evening. Whole thing probably cost them about £1000 but it was great, they just wanted to get married without the fuss and the massive cost. Of course the girl who got married in the Cathedral last month was looking down her nose at everything and was desperately trying to include me in a b1tchy conversation about the fact that the bride had sunflowers as her bouquet but I was having none of it, mainly because I really liked all of the quirky little touches but also at end of the day this couple were really happy and they're just as married as the couple whose parents spent thousands on one (pretty blinkin' dull) day.

I'm another for whom the guilt kicks in on an afternoon. I like to have a coffee and catch up in the morning (whilst I wake up!) and I do pop in over the course of the afternoon depending on workload but I do usually find that it's suddenly 2.30 and I have to have a whole day's work finished by 4.30 so I must actually get cracking! Bit peeved today though as I'm getting too much work and not enough time to do it in... so I'm just avoiding it and hoping it'll go away!

You remember my friend and the dirty dog ex she's carrying on with? I just asked if she could come round one night for tea since I've not seen her in ages (last couple of times she was meant to see us she cancelled for one reason or another, basically because she's been going round to his instead!) and she's 'too busy' this week so sent her a not too subtle reply saying, 'Well if you do happen to be in town for whatever reason please drop by as I've forgotten what you look like!' Hoping she'll cotton on that I know exactly what she's too busy with!

Dinah93

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

As for the marriage question - I wouldn't wait as long again before demanding a ring - I would want some security in my next relationship. Being a laidback easygoing girlfriend gets you nowhere.

I've always made a point to speak about it within the first few months, just to see that we both want to go in the same direction. After that at about 2 years I start questioning if this is the person for the rest of my life, in one case when he pointed out an engagement ring in a shop window I just had this flash of clarity and realised I needed to get out. Are you thinking about dating again soon?

Dinah93

Dinah93 wrote: »

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This weeks To do list
See if there are any comps I want to enter for the 19th
See if there are any comps I want to enter for the 20th
See if there are any comps I want to enter for the 21st
See if there are any comps I want to enter for the 22nd
See if there are any comps I want to enter for the 23rd
See if there are any comps I want to enter for the 24th
See if there are any comps I want to enter for the 25th
find new fixed price energy provider
find past payslips for tax codes
Wrap all parcels from amazon sold Monday
Book courier for curtains
Do the ironing
Finally sort out locked in TAB funds
Find out how much we made in extra income in the entirety of June and 1st July to now
Book trainline tickets and London hotel
Create a business finances spreadsheet
Sort out business banking for both accounts
Tidy NIMs study
Finish the last 30 pages of my book
Apply to be a sloggi knickers tester
Cross something off my day zero list
Find out who supplies our life insurance, and when its due
Email about packaging
Check if breakdown cover is Eu or UK
Book car in for service next week
Skin NIM alive if he hasn't sorted the ehic cards already
Make a holiday packing list and start sorting out important documents etc to take.
Do Julys budget taking into account SOA comments from nice threadies.
Try to work out the numbers needed to submit a Dell query to Quidco
Work out how to BT money onto new card
Find washer drier

Updated to cover the week. Hoping NIM will help me as he doesn't have that many MSs this week.

Tete_en_l'Air

Thinking about it but my heart's not really in it Sometimes you just need to jump in though don't you?

It's silly really because being married doesn't make you immune to affairs/mid-life crises/just falling out of love ... I didn't bring up marriage in the first few months because I wasn't thinking about it myself then. And because we were always talking about our future together I kind of thought we had one.

Birdie, seeing as that girl's parents paid for her 'amazing' wedding do I don't think she has any right to btch about anyone else's! Wish I was brave enough to say something like that to my friend! NIM is rubbing off on you obviously!

Right back to work - having the guilts!

Birdie85

Totally agree that it's important to make sure that you're both on the same page re: marriage! And kids! OH's friend who is engaged hasn't even had a proper kids talk with his fiancee, I asked her about babies last time I saw her and she says absolutely not, never ever... he wants 2 boys! :eek:

I do think I'm getting more like NIM, clearly I have less patience with people as I get older! Although what's his excuse as he's younger than me?!

Just had a really random text from SIL asking me to buy her Fizzing Whizbees from Honeydukes in Harry Potter World! At least that'll cost less than the Nimbus 2000 that OH really wants (why?!?!), a snip at $250! When I told him he said, 'Oooh that's not as much as I thought it would be!' I have a feeling I'll be dealing with a tantrum in the shop when I tell him we can't buy a broomstick! :rotfl:

Dinah93

Does he realise it won't actually fly?

If you're not ready then don't push it hon, you'll know when you're ready to date again. I guess the first time you see a guy and wonder what it would be like to be with him as a couple rather than just thinking 'oooh he's hot' or just thinking of him in dirty, uncompromising positions, thats the time to push through the fear and try dating again.

Eeek to your friend Birdie - I can't imagine feeling ready to commit to someone if I don't know them well enough to know what they want out of life. I guess maybe sometimes you think you can tell if a person is a family type or not, oryou hope they'll change. I knew straight away NIM was a family type, but then again aftera while you should know anyway as there is always the 'when I have kids' sentences.

On that note, my grandad was so sweet last night, said he has a tin of cars ready to give his great-grandchild, but he doesn't think he'll be around to do it himself. Made me really sad but touched at the same time.

N.I.M

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

Birdie, seeing as that girl's parents paid for her 'amazing' wedding do I don't think she has any right to btch about anyone else's! Wish I was brave enough to say something like that to my friend! NIM is rubbing off on you obviously!

One down, now then Ms Tete, time to start having an effect on you.

Birdie85 wrote: »

I do think I'm getting more like NIM, clearly I have less patience with people as I get older! Although what's his excuse as he's younger than me?!

I'm Irish...nuff said

Birdie85 wrote: »

Just had a really random text from SIL asking me to buy her Fizzing Whizbees from Honeydukes in Harry Potter World! At least that'll cost less than the Nimbus 2000 that OH really wants (why?!?!), a snip at $250! When I told him he said, 'Oooh that's not as much as I thought it would be!' I have a feeling I'll be dealing with a tantrum in the shop when I tell him we can't buy a broomstick! :rotfl:

Buy him a regular broom and tell him when he's learned to ride it properly he can have a fancy one, why doesnt he want a firebold though?

Dinah93 wrote: »

I knew straight away NIM was a family type, but then again aftera while you should know anyway as there is always the 'when I have kids' sentences.

I think the clue was in the fact that I'd told you I wanted to settle down before we met

Birdie85

N.I.M wrote: »

Buy him a regular broom and tell him when he's learned to ride it properly he can have a fancy one, why doesnt he want a firebold though?

Because I haven't told him you can get a Firebolt... that's $300! He also wants a wand, which is another $40... can see our trip to HP World being very pricey indeed! We may have to have the conversation that it's not actually real... but I haven't got the heart!

That's really sweet of your Granddad Dinah