Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

nickyhutch

QuackQuackOops wrote: »

I wonder how many of these 'mistresses' would use the exact same words if it were their daughter who came home one day crying because the married man had still not left his wife after 2 years.
I admit I would be staggered if any of you would be happy for your daughter to be in that situation.....or, tbf, happy with your son cheating on the DIL that you adore so much too.

Did any one of us "mistresses" say we would?

I wouldn't but I'd be well placed to give advice and actually understand, wouldn't I?

QuackQuackOops

nickyhutch wrote: »

Did any one of us "mistresses" say we would?

I wouldn't but I'd be well placed to give advice and actually understand, wouldn't I?

You are not very good at seeing the points of posts or so Ive noticed.

Would you want that situation for your own daughter?

VestanPance

Person_one wrote: »

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If there's one relationship that you should expect (and hope) to last the rest of your life, its your children!

Maybe you should apply that logic to your partner too, as they should with you.

It seems to me many people take on relationships very lighty, as well as choosing to bring children into the mix during these relationships.

nickyhutch

VestanPance wrote: »

Maybe you should apply that logic to your partner too, as they should with you.

For God's sake! If you want to live like that, that 's fine, get on with it. Stop bloody preaching!

Taadaa

QuackQuackOops wrote: »

I wonder how many of these 'mistresses' would use the exact same words if it were their daughter who came home one day crying because the married man had still not left his wife after 2 years.
I admit I would be staggered if any of you would be happy for your daughter to be in that situation.....or, tbf, happy with your son cheating on the DIL that you adore so much too.

No daughter of mine would ever be so naive to make the assumption that a bloke will leave his wife for her, and she would have the judgement to know whether he was being genuine or not if he did say that.

(and that is not an opinion on PTN - sorry but none of us really know what has been said behind closed doors to be able to form an opinion).

As for my son having an affair, it would depend on the circumstances; is it a case of him dipping his wick because he could, or is it deeper than that? Of course if DIL was to find out and be devastated (and there is a bold assumption that would be the case!), then that is certainly not to be applauded, or encouraged, or take pride in.

But would like to think that children are humans capable of making mistakes and getting into mishaps rather than programmed robots who always know the 'right' thing to do.

nickyhutch

QuackQuackOops wrote: »

You are not very good at seeing the points of posts or so Ive noticed. I see them, I@m perhaps not very good at replying.

Would you want that situation for your own daughter?

I asked before, did I say I would? Of course not.

Person_one

VestanPance wrote: »

Maybe you should apply that logic to your partner too, as they should with you.

It seems to me many people take on relationships very lighty, as well as choosing to bring children into the mix during these relationships.

Hey I'm single, leave me out of it!

Would you really want to see a return to the days of people locked into miserable existences waiting out their brief years on this Earth basically miserable? Suffering through abuse and indifference for the sake of a promise made years earlier? Children growing up with a loveless marriage their primary role model for adult relationships?

Taadaa

'Mistresses' :rotfl:sorry that phrase amuses me

What a derogatory term to use against an woman.

For the record, I am not anyone's mistress. He is mine

VestanPance

Taadaa wrote: »

But would like to think that children are humans capable of making mistakes and getting into mishaps rather than programmed robots who always know the 'right' thing to do.

You'd need to be fairly dumb not to be able to figure out simple rights and wrongs, not a complex robot (which would have to be programmed and built by those humans that can make mistakes!).

QuackQuackOops

Taadaa wrote: »

No daughter of mine would ever be so naive to make the assumption that a bloke will leave his wife for her, and she would have the judgement to know whether he was being genuine or not if he did say that.

(and that is not an opinion on PTN - sorry but none of us really know what has been said behind closed doors to be able to form an opinion).

As for my son having an affair, it would depend on the circumstances; is it a case of him dipping his wick because he could, or is it deeper than that? Of course if DIL was to find out and be devastated (and there is a bold assumption that would be the case!), then that is certainly not to be applauded, or encouraged, or take pride in.

But would like to think that children are humans capable of making mistakes and getting into mishaps rather than programmed robots who always know the 'right' thing to do.

That makes you so naive yourself. :eek: