Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

VestanPance

Taadaa wrote: »

And you just like being inflammatory.

While posting comments like this was obviously done in some sort of UN Peace mission!

VestanPance

nickyhutch wrote: »

Love for a parter and love for a child are two very different things. What a ridiculous comparison.

Love for a partner you've made a commitment like marriage to should be as absolute as love for a child.

QuackQuackOops

I wonder how many of these 'mistresses' would use the exact same words if it were their daughter who came home one day crying because the married man had still not left his wife after 2 years.
I admit I would be staggered if any of you would be happy for your daughter to be in that situation.....or, tbf, happy with your son cheating on the DIL that you adore so much too.

Person_one

Taadaa wrote: »

I think this is an excellent point that has not been raised before. Quite a few people have said they should end the relationship (and have disregarded all arguments for it not being possible), but no one has considered how hurtful that is, as well. Perhaps the answer is to spend the one life you have being miserable in order to avoid hurting anyone else.

I know its a long thread, but that was discussed weeks (months?) ago. There were a variety of opinions but a lot of people who've experienced both found it far more hurtful to be left for someone else rather than just separating because it wasn't working.

I would always prefer that an unhappy partner faced up to it and ended things rather than carrying on a pretence and cheating, always. The betrayal of an affair adds insult to the injury of a breakup.

whitewing

I expect to spend the rest of my life with DH. I expect that my children will grow up and move on. The love may be different but each enhances the other. I would love my husband without my children, and my children without my husband but it is enriching and ever-growing because I have them all.

nickyhutch

VestanPance wrote: »

Love for a partner you've made a commitment like marriage to should be as absolute as love for a child.

*sigh*

In your opinion.

VestanPance

whitewing wrote: »

VP that is the bit that puzzles me. WW has just been on another thread slating a man for 'abandoning' a baby that was unplanned, and yet she can't commit to a partner for life.

Yes, I saw that.

Taadaa

VestanPance wrote: »

While posting comments like this was obviously done in some sort of UN Peace mission!

Very odd use of 'bold', 'italics' and 'underline' you chose there.

Just stating my opinion (on use of different font and that you are deliberately being inflammatory). Just as you have stated your opinion that anyone who has an affair should burn in hell or whatever it was.

The bottom line is, you can think what you like; it makes no difference to me.

QuackQuackOops

Welshwoofs wrote: »

Thatcher's children? That's quite some assumption you've jumped to. I was born in the 60s sweetheart.

Oddly the phrase that's springing to my mind at the moment is pompous git

Thatcher's children were the kids who turned 18 during her time in office as far as I knew. If you were born in the 60's, you would be one of them.

Person_one

whitewing wrote: »

VP that is the bit that puzzles me. WW has just been on another thread slating a man for 'abandoning' a baby that was unplanned, and yet she can't commit to a partner for life.

You create a baby, it wouldn't even exist without you and is utterly dependent on its parents for its every need, its the ultimate responsibility. I see no contradiction.

If there's one relationship that you should expect (and hope) to last the rest of your life, its your children!