Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

Bogof_Babe

1echidna wrote: »

If anyone here really knew about universities they would know that extrapolate yes, but do it with caution and know that there is no certainty. This is the case with the OPs relationship. Applies in the university of life too;)

I don't know that anyone on this thread has said their own experience is identical to that of the OP, more an illustration of what CAN happen and what CAN cause upset/hurt/devastation.

1echidna

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

I don't know that anyone on this thread has said their own experience is identical to that of the OP, more an illustration of what CAN happen and what CAN cause upset/hurt/devastation.

I leave other people to make their own judgements as to who has been saying what 'can' happen and who has been saying what 'will' happen.

neverdespairgirl

Fritillary wrote: »

Your post made me so sad.
My OH had an affair on and off for four years without my knowledge. In the end she tried to force his hand by contacting me and telling me everything and I mean everything.

I wonder if you realise the damage you did to his wife or even care?

Nope, she doesn't care. Remember, she'd "do it all again"

Bogof_Babe

AMIDAFT wrote: »

can any affair end in happy endings im going through this yet again with my partner n i dnt see one happy bit in all this.

Have you tried threatening to leave him? It's marvellous for concentrating the mind on what they stand to lose.

erdd2

1echidna wrote: »

If anyone here really knew about universities they would know that extrapolate yes, but do it with caution and know that there is no certainty. This is the case with the OPs relationship. Applies in the university of life too;)

Are you intimating people should not be posting of their experience or should do so applying certain principles?

The posts have provided much food for thought from a wide and varied sample, some rather harsh yes, some perhaps not applicable but all have exercised their right to an opinion whether liked or not....and imo the OP has demonstrated great ability to "handle" the lot and a "staying" power in the face of adversity that, again imo, is commendable.

As to the original question...."can an affair have a happy ending", I stand by my original statement of..."not for all parties involved" and have learned somewhat from the viewpoints expressed in this thread!

1echidna

erdd2 wrote: »

Are you intimating people should not be posting of their experience or should do so applying certain principles?

The posts have provided much food for thought from a wide and varied sample, some rather harsh yes, some perhaps not applicable but all have exercised their right to an opinion whether liked or not....and imo the OP has demonstrated great ability to "handle" the lot and a "staying" power in the face of adversity that, again imo, is commendable.

As to the original question...."can an affair have a happy ending", I stand by my original statement of..."not for all parties involved" and have learned somewhat from the viewpoints expressed in this thread!

It would be very hard to prove you wrong on the "not for all parties involved" as you would always dispute that someone knew what every party thought. I would find it very stange that such instances have not occurred given the millions of times this has occurred. I believe also that the OP would have found it very much more difficult to stick with this thread if she had not received some positive vibes from the thread.

erdd2

1echidna wrote: »

I leave other people to make their own judgements as to who has been saying what 'can' happen and who has been saying what 'will' happen.

But do you do this quietly

erdd2

1echidna wrote: »

you would always dispute that someone knew what every party thought

Would I? What did I post to warrant this judgemental assumption?

erdd2

1echidna wrote: »

It would be very hard to prove you wrong on the "not for all parties involved" as you would always dispute that someone knew what every party thought. I would find it very stange that such instances have not occurred given the millions of times this has occurred. I believe also that the OP would have found it very much more difficult to stick with this thread if she had not received some positive vibes from the thread.

Let me finish MY sentence with MY views

"It would be very hard to prove you wrong on the "not for all parties involved".......... MY view....... as there will always be one party/person involved (eg child) that does not have a happy ending.......I did not spell this out as I did not feel the need to given my previous posts...but hey ho.....

Bogof_Babe

1echidna wrote: »

It would be very hard to prove you wrong on the "not for all parties involved" as you would always dispute that someone knew what every party thought. I would find it very stange that such instances have not occurred given the millions of times this has occurred. I believe also that the OP would have found it very much more difficult to stick with this thread if she had not received some positive vibes from the thread.

I've told you trillions of times not to exaggerate! :rotfl:

What's the point of dissecting the flow of the discussion 1echidna? It's an open forum and we can post what we want, within reason and the site rules.