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Are these what you would call red flags or warning signs?

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  • Clearly the people who don't want to be friends with him are intimidated because he's so very perfect and can do no wrong.

    Or maybe it's just because he's a !!!!!!. RUN AWAY!

    He hasn't mistreated me yet but I think in time it's possible he would. Yikes!
  • Person_one
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    Did you put a profile on a dating site specifying that you'd like to meet somebody who embodied all the worst characteristics you could find in a man?
  • poet123
    poet123 Posts: 24,099 Forumite
    Person_one wrote: »
    Did you put a profile on a dating site specifying that you'd like to meet somebody who embodied all the worst characteristics you could find in a man?

    If so, she hit the jackpot!
  • SandC
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    I'm not sure why you are even having to ask. Red flags, er yeah just a few.
  • marywooyeah
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    from what you've said it sounds like he is the one who is racist - racism works all ways!

    sounds like he is also very blind to his own faults eg it was always the girl's fault.

    I'd run while you still can!
  • *Louise*
    *Louise* Posts: 9,197 Forumite
    I've met this guy and on the surface of it he seems perfectly reasonable - intelligent, able to hold a decent conversation, responsible etc. But things keep popping up that make my skin crawl. I've known him for about 5 weeks now and he wants to have a relationship.


    That would be it for me. Gut instinct, if you don't like it now you're a) Not going to like it any more in a year and b) Not going to be able to change his attitude.

    You've given him 5 weeks, it's obviously not going to work so my advice would be to move on now.

    Hope you have better luck next time :)
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  • *Louise*
    *Louise* Posts: 9,197 Forumite
    He hasn't mistreated me yet but I think in time it's possible he would. Yikes!


    Ahh there we go, you've seen the light ;)
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  • marywooyeah
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    *Louise* wrote: »
    Ahh there we go, you've seen the light ;)

    hallejuah! hallejuah!!!
  • CH27
    CH27 Posts: 5,531 Forumite
    Get out & stay out of this man's life. He sounds very dangerous.
    Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.
  • He also said he doesn't like "white people's lifestyle" where women can "divorce a man just because she doesn't want to be with him anymore."
    Wow, so what exactly would be a good reason for a woman to divorce a man then?
    I'd like to join the chorus of "Run! Save yourself!"
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