Mad with ex husband

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hermoine wrote: »

I would suggest that no one posts anything on here when they are at a low ebb as the replies could tip them over to suicide, some of you are just plain nasty and some want a joke at the OP expense and some of you are just so nice that it makes you cry anyway.

Oh dear what a drama queen you are, how completely over the top is the above. If you post on an open forum you are going to get a wide range of opinions expressed. Not all of them agreeing with you or approving of your reaction to things. Thats life.

Read back over your first post OP, try to find somewhere in it where you were more concerned about your daughters health, than whether she would fit in her bridesmaids dress. Then come back and criticise people on here for saying what they felt.

Thankfully we are a mixed bunch on here. It would be very boring and a bit pointless posting if we weren't

abacus73

3v3 wrote: »

Try not to completely dismiss comments you did not like; sometimes, because we are so wrapped up in our own issues, we can't see the wood for the trees. While I do agree some are very blunt (my own included) it doesn't mean they are not without worth - to an open mind

I agree with this completely. I dont think any of us who have responded to this thread have been responding to someone with an open mind.
It comes across very clearly that the OP only listens to what she wants to hear and gives patronising, sarcastic responses to people who dont agree with her and have the audacity to say so.

Hard_up,_not_happy

hermoine wrote: »

Someone did call me an unfit parent but seems to have removed the post so maybe they changed their mind! A couple of folk called me a bully and one nagging, none of it founded.

I didn't change my mind. The MSE team saw fit to remove it. But not till after my views had been thanked by other posters on here!

3v3

Fire_Fox wrote: »

Try not to completely dismiss everyone with moderate to severe depression from the entire internet, hardly open minded!

I did not say that.

Fire_Fox wrote: »

You clearly know very little about clinical depression, the links with a wide range of chronic health conditions, lack of mobility from aging or disability, the links with social exclusion, the links with serious financial difficulties.

Really? I think what is even more clear is, you cannot know that; you don't know me.
I shall be clearer: if the intent behind my words were to completely dismiss everyone with moderate to severe depression, etc., etc., from the entire internet, then I would have said so.

Fire_Fox wrote: »

Quite often online 'friends' and support networks are all someone with chronic depression has. Quite often they find it extremely difficult to communicate face-to-face or on the telephone.

The internet has only been a communication medium for the majority of people in the last 15 years or so. Perhaps, as I "clearly know very little", you can enlighten me how they overcame these difficulties prior to this?

Millie2008_2

OP, you sound like a loving parent, with nothing but your childrens' interest at heart. Weight is an emotive subject, teenagers and weight even moreso, throw in the other stuff and you are bound to get some emotive replies.

Could you do one thing for me and throw away your scales? Or just keep them somewhere so they are just for your own use. Then if you are worried about your childrens' wellbeing, address it slowly with increased activity and diet tweaks if need be.

I say this as someone in your daughter's shoes, with a lovely and very well-meaning Mum who unfortunately had her own eating issues. Mum was very, very careful not to project her issues on to me, except she did, without saying a word. What followed was years of eating disorders that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. I only wish Mum had chucked away the scales way back then and focussed on doing more and eating more healthily and not given a toss about dress sizes (size 8 in her case)

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If she is a lard bucket then you are the responsible one for feeding her all manner of crap and probably not encouraging her to take any exercise.

Kids don't just get fat by themselves you know, however much you want to bury your head in the sand. Change her diet now and probably yours as well.