Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

iceicebaby

((hugs)) for you xx

crawley_girl

Stormybay & others

I started this thread just before I headed out to work on Sunday at the day centre for people. A huge emphasis is placed on Christmas being a time for spending with family and this can be really difficult when you have no-one and this is why I chose to work over Christmas every year.

I was so very sorry to hear your sad news Sormybay and my thoughts are not only with you and your family but with everyone who did not have the christmas that most of us were lucky and fortunate to have.

:heartpuls CG :heartpuls

Dustykitten

Stormy lots of the steps you take in the coming days and weeks will be taken with such a heavy heart but you will make it through them all. I am glad you are finding posting here a release and hope you will continue to let us offer you comfort. Dusty x

miggy

Stormybay, you'll be in my thoughts & prayers tomorrow as you make the phone call.

jenchin66

Stormybay, my thought are with you and your family

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duncans-mum_2

Stormybay, I really don't know what to say. So, so sorry to hear of your loss, and wanted to add to the list of all the support you have here.

You must be heartbroken, but still in shock. Take care of yourself and your children.

x

Stormybay

Difficult day today, had to speak to the coroner and funeral director. Difficult times with older step children as well as our own. All I've done all day is try to make sure everyone else is ok.
I have decided tomorrow, that I will take DD3 out to do some normal shopping and be out of the house and turn the phone off. Total upheaval today and I feel emotionally drained.

I hate to say it, but I feel very angry with hubby today for leaving me and for me to sort out all problems. My close friend says it's normal to feel angry, but I hate feeling bad towards him and tainting my memories.

I hope I'll feel better after the funeral, but because of the PM etc, that wont be until 5th Jan.

Thank you all once again for all the support

miggy

Stormybay wrote:

Difficult day today, had to speak to the coroner and funeral director. Difficult times with older step children as well as our own. All I've done all day is try to make sure everyone else is ok.
I have decided tomorrow, that I will take DD3 out to do some normal shopping and be out of the house and turn the phone off. Total upheaval today and I feel emotionally drained.

I hate to say it, but I feel very angry with hubby today for leaving me and for me to sort out all problems. My close friend says it's normal to feel angry, but I hate feeling bad towards him and tainting my memories.

I hope I'll feel better after the funeral, but because of the PM etc, that wont be until 5th Jan.

Thank you all once again for all the support

I think your friend is right - anger is normal. I expect you've been angry with him in the past too, and it hasn't lasted. Rationally, you know it wasn't his choice, but that doesn't stop the emotional kickback. It's part of grieving and I think it will pass.
Normal shopping sounds like a good idea for you and DD.
So sorry you have to wait over the holiday for the funeral. That happened to me earlier in the year, though at least it gave me time to choose a lovely piece of music to play at the funeral. (My Dad's.)
{hugs}

COS

One day at the time sweetheart, every emotion will hit you and getting the business sorted today is one of such a degree. Waiting to put your husband to rest is another. Your anger is understandable as anyone who has lost a close one can relate too, one step at the time and not expect to much of yourself.

Love and bestwishes

Chris

Panic_Central

So sorry to hear about the loss of your husband Stormybay. I don't have anything original to say but don't feel "guilty" about any of the emotions you will feel over the coming months - they will all be perfectly normal.

Best wishes to you and your family.

PC xx