Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

malvena_2

Dear Stormbay

I just want to send you and you children my deepest condolences. I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

Alison x

malvena_2

C G. Thats a really kind and thoughtful post.

miggy

Stormybay wrote:

Yes, I think I will go and see him. I did see him afterwards as I was with him at the time and after the fantastic A & E people tried so hard to save him. He was brought into the side room I was in and I stayed with him for a while. I'm so glad I did. After New Year I can bring him closer to home and will see him again one last time.
I need to say, more to myself than anyone else really, but saying to you guys is like saying it out loud.................I LOVED him so much and will miss him so much it hurts..............
Another day almost survived, will carry on again tomorrow.
Thank you all so much..............

Dear Stormy,
Reading what you have written is so sad but such a testament to your love... although he isn't there physically it's clear he left much of himself with you, in who you are, in your life and children and in your memories. Nothing can change that and as time goes by maybe you will see more and more ways he has left his imprint in your life and that of your children.
I was thinking about support for you and remembered this: http://www.careforthefamily.org.uk/services/services_menu.asp?cat=14 which is support for those who have lost partners. It's a Christian-based group (don't think it's exclusively Christian though) but if that's not for you then I am very sure there will be others.
There is also some info about bereavement here: http://www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/about_bereavement.htm
which I thought helpful as it puts reactions into context.
Oh dear, this has tuned out longer than I meant. I hope you can get some sleep tonight.
{hugs}

sophiesmum_2

Stormybay , I just wanted to send you a virtual hug,and let you know that all over the country there are people who are thinking about you,and sending you love and support.
Take care
sophiesmum

looby75

Stormybay, I know there is nothing I or anyone else can say right now to make this easier but you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

you have coped so well today, you are are a strong lady and your family are lucky to have you.

Stormybay

Made it thorough Christmas Day, had only a little cry and a little laugh about a recent memory...............Thanks so much, I will now try to sleep

COS

Stormbay, my thoughts are of sadness and also of how brave you are to have the strength and courage to tell friends of MSE of your loss, friends we are, here to help one another in moments of difficulty and to comfort at times of loss. I am sure others will agree, someone will always be willing to chat and give a shoulder of support and help you through this difficult time.

Your children are your strength and together you are allowed to cry, i am sure your husband and farther will be smiling with you . I remember my loved ones past with sorrow and tears and try and gain strength from the thought of how they would comfort me and still do in a strange sort of way, I like to think mine are having a good time.

Godbless

Chris

Dumyat

Stormybay I am sorry to hear of your sad loss. the pain in your posts is just so clear and I like everyone here wish we could say something to ease it.
I wish you and your family strength for the days to follow as I know it will be so hard for you all. x x x

Dustykitten

Hi Stormybay, nothing new to say to you but did not want you to think that we had all forgotten your pain. I have just come back from Mum's house and thought of you there. All of Dad's stuff is where it was - shoes on the rack, coat on the back of the door. I know some will think that odd but to all of us it is how it always was and there is no reason to move it. I actually found it comforting that it was there today as we played christmas games with the kids. Another hug for you and yours Dusty x

Stormybay

That's lovely Dusty, I can't even bare the thought of moving anything. I still have all his stuff in the car from when we were driving (we think, but are not sure, that he had a blood clot to the lung). Darling Hubby took his glasses off and put them on the dash board of my car, they are still there in exactly the same spot, at the moment I feel that they need to be there for ever.
Tomorrow will be awful as I have to phone the coroner.............It feels good to share this with all of you, it keeps me focused on the moment.
Thank all of you again for your kind words and support, it's awful, but I find it hard to talk to the people close to me because they are as upset as I am.

Stormy