Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

Dustykitten

Hi Stormy, could not get to the pc before you left for work to offer my good wishes for the day. You will be there now and I hope you are ok. The time after the funeral when life around you starts getting back to normal is a real tough time and with all the other things being thrown at you to complicate things I'm not surprised you feel exhausted. I am glad Rosie's team won. DS1 scored a goal yesterday (not something that happens at all often) and he was so pleased, it is nice that such simple things can bring them such pleasure. Today was another step along the road for you DK x

seroxat_chick

Stormybay wrote:

Just as I thought things couldn't get any worse, John's son's wife passed away last night too. I don't know if I mentioned this before, she had cancer and has been so ill. God I feel so much for him, and he's so far away too, in San Diego, and all his family are here in North Wales. She was only 30, and the odd thing is I really need to talk to John about all that's going on, we would have been able to go out there and help, but now it's all a mess!

seroxat chick - I'm so sorry for your loss, you have had the worst ever loss I can imagine, it gives me hope that you are still here today, God know's how anyone copes with the loss of a child. Well done and thank you so much for giving me hope and support when reading this thread must be heatbreaking for you and for anyone else who had lost someone close

Stormy

Hi Stormy :hello:

Thinking about you, and hoping that all is going well at work.
So sorry to read about your DIL - sometimes it really does feel that only bad things are happening and we wonder when it is all going to end. It did warm my heart to read that I've given you hope - that was a lovely thing to say.
I'm in for a couple of weeks of emotions myself at the minute. I'm having my last session of chemo on Wednesday, which will be a huge relief. I've been having it every other week since the beginning of August and my veins have about had it! Then next Monday I've got my final CT scan to see if all the disease has gone, the results of which I'll be getting on the 31st. Such an important day, but I have such mixed emotions about it.
This thread is so full of positivity, and lovely, genuine people who care. It kind of makes for a safe haven to come to when you need a bit of a boost.
Some days I do get bogged down with thoughts of 'why me?' and how unfair life is - to lose a child suddenly, and get cancer, and still be only 37, it's hard not to, but somehow we learn from these experiences and grow stronger.
I know it's a cliche, but we really must take one day at a time at the moment.

Huge hugs to you,

s_c

twink

big hugs to you seroxatchick, we would love to see you on the daily thread too, everyone is lovely there and very supportive, why dont you just pop in and see for yourself x

LookingAhead

Hi stormy....have been thinking of you and hope you don't feel sick anymore.

Hope your day went as well as it could have done.

xx

Snaggles

Hi Stormybay, hope work has gone okay for you, don't be too hard on yourself or expect too much of yourself, just take things slowly and look after yourself.

Seroxatchick, my thoughts are with you too, I really hope the CT scan comes back clear xx

I lost my Grandma yesterday, I was with her when she died, I miss her so much. I just can't believe she isn't here any more. She was 92, and until the last few weeks was so full of life, still mentally alert and physically strong.

She got breast cancer at age 89, and because she still had such good quality of life, they agreed to carry out a mastectomy (I think it's quite unusual at that age). She recovered well, and even had a subsequent operation on a gall stone that, again, she recovered from. But a few months ago, she had some breathing difficulties, and they found the cancer had come back, and spread to her lymph nodes, her lungs, liver, possibly her bones too.

She has been gradually getting weaker and weaker, but really started deteriorating at Christmas, and passed away yesterday afternoon with her daughter and 3 Granddaughters (me and my 2 sisters) at her bedside (and her Great-Grandson, my 6 year old son, who she adored, and who loved her to bits, playing outside). Her breathing was laboured and raspy at the end, but she seemed peaceful and didn't appear to be in much pain.

Sorry to go on about it, but I haven't really got anyone to talk to about it, Mum is obviously devastated at the loss of her Mother, my hubby is cut up too, because he adored her, and it also brought back memories of his Dad dying of cancer when he was younger. DS keeps asking me questions that I don't know how to answer. I know it wont always hurt this much, but I feel like someone has driven a knife into my heart.

Take care, and love to all of you who are struggling to cope with bereavement xxx

anniestar

Seroxat _chick My thoughts and love go out to you. You will be in my prayers. SnagglesI wish you all love in the world. I'm so sorry for your loss its really important that you keep strong and look after yourself especially when you are looking after "our DFW" baba. Do come on to the OS board Seroxat & Snaggles I haven't been there very long but it's like having a hunderd best friends to share things with. Look forward to seeing you both.

justmarried06

Just to add in some more big ((((((((HUGS)))))))) to Seroxat and Snaggles, my heart goes out to you both. Stormy, I hope today goes as well as it can for you, will be thinking of you

JM xxxxx

twink

i agree with anniestar, come along to the daily thread snaggles, you will have lots of friends to talk to and get a hug from, sorry to hear about your grandma, its so hard to bear, my granda was ninety six when he died and he had been in my life forever, likewise gran who was eighty nine, the pain will go and you will be left with so many lovely memories to store in your heart x

Snaggles

Thanks for the lovely comments - I read the daily thread but have always felt a bit too shy to join in - but I will pop across and say hi today.

mandymoo

Stormybay wrote:

Thanks all,

Well, Hi Ho, Hi Ho, it's off to work we go!!

I feel SO SICK!!!

Will update you guys later, I'll be thinking of all your words of encouragement.

thanks
Stormy
xxxxxx

Hi Stormy
Hope everything went well today.
Thinking of you and yours
Best wishes and hugs. Amanda