Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

jacey45

I am so sorry you are having to deal with the sudden loss of your husband. I know it shouldnt make any difference but being so near Christmas must make so much harder for you and your family. My husband also died very suddenly 2half yrs ago so can understand a little of how you are feeling. A site that really helped me is called the WAY foundation. That stands for Widowed and Young. The people there are all going through the same thing and are able to give lots of advice about lots of things concerning the death of a partner. Some of the worst organisations I have had to deal with has been the insurance companies. Surprise surprise. Hope this helps. My thoughts are with you. Be kind to yourself. xx

taxi73

Hi Stormybay...I'm so sorry to hear your sad news even though you were expecting it and when your SIL comes over ...you'll be able to share those lovely memories...I hope the football went well and your daughters team won...John will have been there smiling and proud and he'll also be proud of you when you go to work tommorrow and you're boss and colleagues seem very nice and will let you take it at your own pace...it's nice that his son will be taking some of his treasured tools and a friend of John's is taking the car and as you say is going to look after it..
The journal is a lovely idea and also talking to his photo is as well...I'm sending you all a big hug xxx and please take care of yourself and your lovely daughter and family

Stormybay

Thank you everyone, the match was quite poignant, with the black armbands, Rosie played like a Demon and the team won 2 - 0

I'm having a bit of a bad day today, feel like crying all the time and I'm so so tired. I think it's because I've not been doing too much and I'm feeling SIL's pain too.

I have started my journal, but am too tired to think.

Gertybertyangel, I'm a manager in a company called Working Links. We are a company who help the 'hardest to help' people back into work. It will do me good to get back, talking to some of my clients, they have horrenous lives and backgrounds, I must say my family is a happy, all be it an incomplete one.
At least I know we love each other and John loved us. Some off these people's lives are horrific and how they survive is uplifting, it is so rewarding to help these people.

Jacey 45, I'm so sorry for your loss, it give me inspiration to here of other survivors a little longer down the road to me.

Thank you for your support, I'll report in tomorrow to let you know how I'm getting on.

Stormy
xxxxxx

Mrs(no)money

Hi Stormy,

I'm pleased your daughters team won - i was thinking of you this morning as my DS3 team played and won too!

Just wanted to say i'll be thinking of you tomorrow as you go back to work, and hoping you have a good a day as can be expected. Remember, no-one is expecting miracles so soon!

Take care, and try and get some rest now. x

MinnieSpender

Stormybay

All the best at work tomorrow. Your colleagues sound fantastic and I hope that having a focus will help you.

A close relative lost her husband just after Christmas and I've been doing what I can to help. The hardest thing for her is that she feels that she now has no sense of purpose (retired, family all grown up, no husband to look after anymore). She's desperate for something to do - a way for her to feel needed again. She's considering voluntary work at the moment but has so much else to do that now is not a good time. I wish I could do more for her. Anyway, I'm sure in time she'll find something.

Baby steps for now, Stormybay. All the best xxx

sarymclary

Good luck for tomorrow Stormy. Another step back into 'normality', whatever that is now, eh? Take it easy on yourself, and don't expect more than you would of anyone else in the same situation.

I agree with you that the journal is a great idea. I have all manner of conversations with my DH, some of them general rants about him just not being here and leaving me in another fine mess when the chips are down, or the children are being more difficult than usual. Other times I just like to remember our good times, and the times only we shared.

Remember I told you the path now will be like wobbly stepping stones. Some days will feel less wobbly, others will be worse. If you think of the emotions you've been enduring during these past few weeks, is it any wonder you're feeling so exhausted, and the sad news about your DIL has probably been the final straw for you. I know you're feeling your SIL's pain too, but that's because you're such a lovely person, and the reason why your John loved you so much. Just imagine what he would be saying to you now, and go with that advice.

All my very best to you, and don't worry, it will be OK, it just doesn't feel like it right now.

smokybabe

Hi Stormybay, I am glad to hear the team won 2 - 0, I,hope it was not too much of an ordeal for you.

I just popped in to wish you well tomorrow. (ahmen - I mean today)

Take care, thinking of you, Smoky xxxxx

twink

big hug as ever, well done on the footie yesterday and i will be thinking of you today, your job sounds a very interesting and rewarding one, take care xx

anniestar

Hi Stormy, glad the football went well. Was thinking of you all. Good luck for today hope all goes well sure it will. Look after yourself, and remember we are all with you. Loads of love, Annie XXXXXXXX

Stormybay

Thanks all,

Well, Hi Ho, Hi Ho, it's off to work we go!!

I feel SO SICK!!!

Will update you guys later, I'll be thinking of all your words of encouragement.

thanks
Stormy
xxxxxx