Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

AnW'sMum

The woman must be unhinged to do something like that, she obviously does not care what DS2 would think about it or she would not have taken this action. You are so right not to sink to her level. I would be inclined to speak to the police if she keeps coming round (breach of the peace for starters).

Glad lunch went well with your workmates today.

Sending BIG HUGS from us 3 to all of you.

taxi73

Hi Stormy and big hugs to you and your family...you poor love... life can be so cruel you are a wonderful patient and strong person...as if you need any more trouble...you are so right not to stoop to that level and if she persists please phone the police for all of your sakes and get her charged..she is an evil ,evil person...and has no regards even for DS2...if she loved him ..she wouldn't put him throught it!!!...God I'm mad ...I'd smack her myself if I could!!!
On to the nice things ...thats lovely bringing Johns tools in ..he will appreciate that....the little break in feb will also be nice for you all...just what you need!!
Glad the meeting went well with the boss and that you enjoyed your lunch...term time working may work as someone said check the tax credit situation with both figures and you may find you are no worse off than working full time and..sorry to mention this you will be entitled to 25 % off your council tax...but no rush only do these things when you are ready...big hugs againxxx

jumpingjackd

Hi Stormy......just popped into this thread to see how you are doing. You are being very strong and certainly dont need the hassle from John's "ex". I'm so sorry you have to carry this with you, and for you son too. Hope for all your sakes she disappears and gives you some peace.
I still have my mum's clothes from the hospital the night she died, in my car. I can still smell her perfume sometimes and that is a comfort. It would be her birthday on Monday, so have decided after a visit to cemetry I will take the kids out for a meal as we would have done if she were still here and have a toast to her.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

twink

sending big hugs again for today, can you believe some people, glad you dont let it get to you, it will be good for you and dd to have a trip away to look forward to, i had a holiday with my dd and family two months after and i did enjoy it but was what i class as bitter, sweet, ie enjoyable but missing dh, hope today is more peaceful for you and we are all here for you, take care x

MinnieSpender

Morning Stormybay

I'm pleased that your lunch went well yesterday and that you got such a lovely offer from your stepdaughter - you seem to have some good people around you in the real world as well as on here! And it's exactly what you deserve.

I'm with the others on being angry on your behalf about John's ex. She's being completely spiteful to you and do consider the police if this carries on. It may be that a quiet word from the local bobby is all it takes. Dare I say that she may be grieving too and this is her way of coping with it? Not that that excuses her behaviour one little bit, but it's just a thought. But whatever, don't let her get away with it.

I'll be AWOL for a day or two (having to sort out some paperwork for a bereaved relative) but you're in my thoughts.

Take care x

Dumyat

glad you had a good lunch..both the company and the food

its at times like this when people show their true colours. concentrate on the good things like the fab trip to london!

anniestar

Hugs as always, You are doing an amazing job. Lots of love.

Fritha_2

Gaaaahhhhh! That woman sounds completely bonkers! You could always try out crazying her, just smile sweetly and wave and pretend that she really isn't bothering any of you in the slightest, it'd drive her mad(der)!

Your poor son though, it's really not nice having a parent who's useless, he does have you though and he's very lucky to have you, you're doing a wonderful job with all of them (and with yourself).

The trip to London sounds lovely as well, something to look forward to, and time to enjoy being together. It's lovely of your step daughter to have thought of it and be making such and effort to help you and your youngest. It sounds like you and John have brought up some wonderful children you should be very proud.

dotchas

Hi Stormybay

I'm glad that you had a lovely lunch and managed to eat it!!
You must remember to look after yourself even if its just along soak in the bath.
I am sorry you have such problems with Johns ex.I think a previous poster is probably correct in that she is grieving too and will be jealous of your place as his widow. I know it sounds sad but its probably true!
I hope her son is coping OK with her behaviour ,it sounds like hes seen the like before.
You are very strong (remember that doesn't mean never feeling weak or never showing weakness,it means being able to recover and carry on),so you are much better person than she is,its vital that you do not get down to her level.
Look forward to your trip to your stepdaughter ,maybe treat yourself to a hairdo or something girly to perk you up.
John would be so proud of you!
Good luck on Monday with work,just do your best and have a mini make-up kit handy for any smudged mascara,people will understand.
A friend of mine lost her husband at 25 ,being the same age then, I didn't know what to say,I used to just let her talk .I remember one day when she was back to work she got upset so we both went outside and sat on a wall and we both bubbled,It must have been a strange sight but it was a release that she must have needed.
If you need to cry you need to cry!
Anyway we will all be sending support to get you through the day.
Take care,I will keep an eye on this to see how you get on.
BIG HUG
Dot

highland

Hi Stormy I do hope thing's are a bit better today, I was so annoyed when I read your post I managed to miss that the lunch went well, that is great, it will make things less hard on Monday when you go back to work.
I do hope you realise I was joking when I said about posting the nappies to THAT WOMAN, (even if she does deserve it!).
Take Care hope the weekend is nice and peacefull and try not to stress re going back to work. x J