Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

Imelda

I have just read this thread from the beginning, and have cried my eyes out.

Stormybay, words cannot express how desperately sorry I am for your loss, I am overwhelmed but the messages of support you have received here and wanted to add mine too.

Hugs to everyone who has lost someone close to them, whether recently or not. This thread has really brought home how fragile life is, I have called my partner, parents and sister (who I fell out with over 6 months ago) this morning just to tell them that I love them. They think I am odd anyway!

dotchas

hi Stormy,

I am a newbie to these boards but have read this thread from the beginning and am so heartened by all the love and support that is around.
I have shed so many tears that I may have to start a thread to find out who does the cheapest tissues.;)

I am not very good at comforting words and am always terrified to say something naff,but I want to send hugs and support.

I lost my Mum 3 years ago and dreaded the funeral but on the day I managed OK ...I could almost feel my Mum supporting me, I'm sure she was there!

Lunch with your colleagues is a great idea ,so you will have seen everyone before Monday.

You are doing so well ,some days will be better than others,but it will get better.

Hugs from me!

Take care and remember to look after yourself!

katierose

Sympathies to you and your family.

victory

how are you today stormy ? My thoughts are with you xxxxx

babyangel10

Hi Stormybay,

I've also just read this thread right through and want to pass my best wishes and hugs on to you and all the other posters who have lost loved ones.

It's taken me over an hour to read it all and after reading up to about page 5 I thought, 'I must get on with my housework' but then thought how selfish that was.

I'm fortunate not to have lost anyone really close for many years, but know that it will happen. (i'm expecting it fairly soon TBH, with either Bi-polar suffering dad or alcoholic mum :rolleyes: ) So when it does, then at least i'll know that i'll have fantastic support and advice from you lovely people on here.

For those who have lost loved ones, I personally get a great deal of comfort from watching the medium called John Edward on Living TV (6-7pm I think it's Livingtv2 channel?). I do have the belief that we carry on 'somewhere' after we die, and from watching this guy it really does confirm that. I've read his books too and it does seem that he has some sort of 'gift' to be able to communicate with 'the other side'.

I don't like any of the other mediums on TV - I think most of them manipulate the people into making them believe that it's their loved one that has 'come through', by asking them certain questions and adapting their answers to fit, but John Edward (IMO) seems genuine as he TELLS people who he's connected with and doesn't actually want them to offer any info or answers.

Worth a look, especially if you are sceptical about this process, as I used to be. You just have to see through all the American-ness of the prog though (it's a bit OTT sometimes with all the 'oh my God' etc!)

I feel that it's nice to know that the person who has died is actually OK and is with other relatives who have died too. Although I do wonder what happens if they meet up with ex-partners etc!:eek:

Also, for Stormybay, if you are still having trouble sleeping, why not try a week or two's worth of Nytol tablets? They are non habit forming and contain a mild anti-histamine to make you drowsy and hopefully nod off. Even better, if you have an Asda with a pharmacy, or Boots near you ask them for their own version of Nytol as it's much cheaper. (Asda's is called Sleep Aid, I think Boots is Sleepeaze or something)

It helped me loads through some recent troubles.

Love and hugs to you and anyone else suffering with loss.

T x

JennyW_2

Stormybay. I have just come across this thread and too am deeply sorry to learn of your loss

I lost my father very suddenly 2 years ago so can honestly feel your pain. I know there is nothing anyone can say to take away the pain but just to say we're all here if you want to talk. I wish I was a member of this site when my father died, it may have helped me a bit more

skipkoo

Stormybay, I have just read this posting from the start and am sitting here thinking there must be something to say to you, but I cannot think what it could be. I send my best wishes to you and to your family. Take care of each other.
Skipkoo

Stormybay

Thank you thank you,
I did sleep last night for 6 hours!!! I couldn't believe it, I think my body said ...Right, here we go, I've just been so exhausted, I think it's my mind that wont switch off, certainly my body wants to.
I have been to JJB sports this morning as DD3 has a sort of school camping trip next week and her coat was looking a little worse for wear, I managed to pick up a bargain for £12.00.
I seem to have to go out of town for the shops as locally I still seem paranoid that people are looking at me. This does scare me, as usually I'm a very confident person and nothing phases me.

Imelda, I am so pleased that you had made contact with your sister, I know for sure that life is far too short for grudges and petty fall outs, if you could all do something for me, that it to tell your loved ones that you DO love them, then some more of my pain may go towards making other people realise how precious life is.

Gertybertyangel, I do feel for you too, I lost my Mum 7 years ago to the dreaded alcohol, it is the most awful thing to watch, byt she has no more pain now.

When my dad died only 6 months ago, I came on here for practical advice with regard to IHT etc, but I can honestly say that being able to poor my emotions out on here after the devestation of 22nd December has truly helped me. I know there will be more traumatic days to come, but the comfort I felt when the funeral was held last friday was overwhelming and I can thank everyone enough.

My Boss is due around shortly, so I'd better go and get the hoover out, as good excuse as any I suppose.

Take care

Stormy

Caz2_2

Hi Stormybay, having just read through this thread I feel you are doing remarkably well in dealing with such a sudden and devastating loss although you probably dont feel that way. Your courage and strength is amazing especially when you consider how many kids you have to watch over and care for, although some of them are older you are still there for all of them. I feel quite humbled and in awe of your strength as i am sure others are reading through this. Just remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve, no time limits and every one grieves differently. Sometimes pure survival kicks in as the only way to function until we feel in a safer place. You are doing a wonderful job and I am sure your husband wherever he is now, would be very proud of you.

victory

stormbay great to hear from you, you are doing fantstically well and great news about the sleep!! xxx