Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

justmarried06

Hi Stormy - just wanted to check in before I leave work for the day as I'm not online at home. Hope today has gone as well as it can and that DD has been alright at school. You're constantly in my thoughts at the moment and I'm in awe of your strength at the moment.

Lots of love and hugs

JM xxxxx

justmarried06

Hi Stormy - just wanted to check in before I leave work for the day as I'm not online at home. Hope today has gone as well as it can and that DD has been alright at school. You're constantly in my thoughts at the moment and I'm in awe of your strength.

Lots of love and hugs

JM xxxxx

justmarried06

Oops. not quite sure what happened there, sorry guys...........

JM x

MSE_Martin

As discussed i have now started a special discussion just to get general hints and tips on bereavement issues, if you've posted any in this thread and think they are appropriate it would be great if you could repost them

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=344578


Martin

Stormybay

Thank you Martin, this is a great Idea,

Thank you to everyone else too, my DD3 went to school no problem this morning and arrived home quite happily. She said everyone was nice to her and didn't get told off one even thought she's left a book in another room! So all was pretty normal.

I was so happy that she survived her first day back that I burst into tears when she came back!!!!!

I'm going out for lunch with my work colleagues on thursday, I thought it would be a good idea so that I will have already seen them before I go back to work on Monday.

I moved John's glasses from the dash board of my car today, he had put them there when I had stopped to call and ambulance and a passer by was fanning him as he was hot. I couldn't move them before, but couldn't look at them either, so I put a piece of paper over them!!! anyhow, I've now moved them into the glove compartment so that he can watch over me whilst I'm driving.

Does this sound completely mad? I was sort of comforted by the thought of the glasses being there. I have not long taken his bags and shoes out of the car, but couldn't leave them there for ever, but the glasses don't take up much room and they are so personal to him.

I can't tell you enough how much this thread has helped me keep sane over the past couple of weeks, when my mind and body threatens to blow/breakdown/explode, I come on here and write a few things down. I end up feeling calmer....

Stormy

Kelinik

Lucifer wrote:

Stormy, Just read your thread from start to finish - made me cry my eyes out.

Me too Stormybay, don't know how I hadn't seen this before but I couldn't not tell you how so very, very sorry I am, what an amazing person I think you are and to THANK YOU because you're the reason I've just run and thrown my arms round my hubbys neck in floods of tears and told him how much I love him!

BIG hugs to you and the children, I'll be thinking of you and reading this thread from now on. xx

Gemmzie

You know that we are always here to listen.

And the glasses think definitely makes sense. I still wear my nan's ring sometimes and it has pride of place in my jewellery box, I like that it's there

bellsbells

Hi Stormybay, I am really glad your DD has been ok at school. I work in a school and I know that students often like going back after losing a parent as the bustle and noise and I suppose normality of it is comforting. Your DD will also get a lot of support from her friends and teachers - not because you are not giving her comfort, but because they are a little more removed from the situation. Your DD will be so aware that if she is upset, you will be too and I bet she will be trying to spare you that as much as possible bless her. School is a safe place for her to show just what she is feeling. Also the opposite might be true - she might feel that at school she can just forget about things for a while, and laugh and joke with her mates without worring about how that might seem to others.
The school will play it however your DD wants. Most schools have trained councillors or referal procedures to help young people who have suffered a loss see someone to talk too. If you think your DD might benefit from this I am sure your school will be able to sort it.

I don't think the glasses thing is strange at all by the way!

love bellsbells

highland

Hug's Stormy your dd has done so well today must have been a huge step for you both (well done you on letting her go, not easy). The glasses thing makes sense and it's a lovely thought to have, the silliest things help keep a connection. My dad gave me a ring of my mum's that she had wanted me to have. At first I felt a bit awkward about it ( graverobbing was the phrase that went through my mind ). Then one day I was washing my face looking in the mirror and the the light caught my mum's ring on my finger it sparkled almost twinkled and it felt like my mum was winking at me.:A I know she wanted me to have it and it makes me feel close to her.
Take care sweetie you are a star. x J :grouphug:

Pobby

Just sending out love to you.I think that the way you have copped is nothing short of amazing.I wish you and you loverly family the very best.