Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

Triker

Hi hun, still reading through your posts and checking up to see how you are going. A day at a time is all you can do, hope you sleep well and your daughter is ok, XXXXXX

smokybabe

Hi there Stormybay. I am glad that you and your family got through the funeral OK.

This poem gave me comfort on the death of my parents and I would like to let you see it too....






Take good care of yourself and your family. You are - and will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Smoky xxxxxxx

taxi73

Hi Stormy...popped over to see how you're doing....you're doing really well..you may just need to reassure your daughter that you'll be ok at home without her...she's probably trying to look after her mummy.
Glad to see you're not on here(at this time of night...meant in a nice way)...which hopefully means you are getting some sleep..take care love..I'm still thinking of you

twink

just sending love and hugs to you all i think it must be normal to feel you could have done more, i felt like that to, some weeks later i phoned the macmillan nurse with that feelings and he came to the house and read from his notes and reassured me, take care x

Stormybay

Thank you everyone, just to let you know that DD3 has gone off to school this morning and she seems fine, it's me who feels awful. She has been here all the time with me and now I feel lost!!!
Anyhow, I've phoned the school this morning to let them know I'm here all day if they need to contact me and that I will phone later to check that she's ok.
I'm feeling bad for my eldest step son too. He lives in San Diego and couldn't come to his Dads funeral as his wife is also very very sick. She has cancer, in the very late stages and we are just waiting for the inevitable I'm afraid, I feel so sad for him as he will shortly be going through even more agony. God, I wonder when it will end........

anniestar

Hi Stormy, You are in my thoughts and prayers A LOT. Just want to say what a remarkable woman you are and how very well you are doing.With regards to your DD you are doing exactly the right thing. I remember going into school after my dad died, but having time off a few weeks later. In situations like this it really is a matter of doing what feels right.There are no right or wrong's simply go with your instintics. Take each day as it comes and be aware of how much you are cared about from all of your friends on both here and the OS board. Take care and look after yourself.

miggy

Stormy, I know the house must feel too quiet now DD is back at school. If she settles back quickly, would you perhaps consider ringing your work and seeing about going back for a couple of hours a day? It will help you get back gently and besides it will put a little bit of pressure on your time, thus helping you to keep occupied.
I went back to work after a miscarriage - I didn't feel up to my usual standard of work but just being around people was good and my colleagues were lovely. I think I just eased back to normal work over a while.
I am so sorry to hear about your step son's wife too.

Lucifer

Hi Stormy, Sorry couldn't get back to you yesterday. Mum is doing ok. I had to do everything for her to start with. She had never had a bank account, paid a bill in her life or done anything - my dad had done it all!

We took it one day at a time. I opened a bank account for her, set up direct debits for all utilities, insurances etc and notified all companies of his death. The rest we just took 1 day at a time. For example I then changed her to a water meter, looked at window locks etc and taught her how to check her bank statement/balance a cheque book. Gradually she felt able to pick up the reigns.

My sister joined the W.I. with her and the Lions club (which my dad had been a member for 30 years) still welcomed her with open arms. We kind of forced her into the outside world again as I was very worried she would wallow in grief and lonliness. I also bought her a westie to keep her company, so the long nights when we were with our families didn't seem so bleak.

Mum was diagnosed with a brain and spinal tumour last year. The spinal tumour was removed and was benign and they believe the one in her head is too, although it is too risky to operate on. Through it all her inner strength and our unwavering support, we took the knocks and fought back harder. As I know listening to you, you share this enormous inner strength. You can do it and does get easier. I am not saying that a day goes by that we don't think of him, but with love and affection for his silly little ways and not out of grief and misery.

My one piece of advice though would be please don't shut out your family - you need them as much as they need you. And don't be too proud to ask for help if you need it. People love you because they love you and they just want to make your life a better place for you to be!!

If ever you want to talk you can pm me or I will give you my number and you can ring me.

Mrs(no)money

Hi stormy,

Just a little hello and to see how you are. Ive been reading this thread and sounds like you're coping remarkably well, you must be so strong. I hope you managed ok today (and tried to keep busy if that helps,) with your daughter back at school and she was ok too.


I feel i dont have many words of wisdom compared to others on here that have been through similar experiences, but wanted to let you know i have been thinking of you lots. Take care, x

justmarried06

Hi Stormy - just wanted to check in before I leave work for the day as I'm not online at home. Hope today has gone as well as it can and that DD has been alright at school. You're constantly in my thoughts at the moment and I'm in awe of your strength at the moment.

Lots of love and hugs

JM xxxxx