Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

AnW'sMum

Smoky

So so sorry for your loss. I can't begin to imagine how you coped whilst your DH was in hospital and since. Our children were the same age as your youngest two when my DH died, it is amazing how looking after them helps us get through this.

You have so incredibly strong already, we are all here for you.

Hugs xx

cornish_lady

Smokybabe

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending love and hugs your way.

mandymoo

Smokybabe and children,

My thoughts are with you all. Please remember there is no right/wrong way only the way that feels right to you and little steps at a time.
We are here for you, even when there are no new posts I`m sure we all pop in to check.

Love and hugs to you and your children
mandymoo xxx

mandymoo

Is Stormybay ok ? as not seen her on here for a while.

Shelanne

Smokybabe - my thoughts are with you at this terrible time. I know the pain is unbearable at times. Loving your children will help enormously, but it is still incredibly difficult. Do whatever helps to see you through, if it feels OK, it IS OK. Hugs.

Hi & thanks mandymoo, AnW's mum, cornish lady, sary and all.

Lets hope Stormybay is off enjoying her holiday home!

Stormybay

Oh Smoky, I'm so, so sorry for your loss, I hope you are bearing up ok, it must be so awful for you, please keep posting here, I know that this thread was the only way I could vent in those early days, weeks and months of the dreadful situation I found myself in.
I too, initially took my John to Glan Clwyd Hospital, after the heart attack, although he ended up in Broad Green in Liverpool, but I actually only live about 20 minutes away from Glan Clwyd, Please feel free to pm me and I will give you my number, if you would like to meet up at anytime (that goes for anyone by the way!! ), I'll give you my number.
Please Smoky, shout us on here at any time, we are here for you, the strenghth of the people on here is amazing, I am constantly in awe.

Hi to everyone, and I'm sorry I've not been around, probably the main reason is that Rosie has discovered MSN, and seems to have completely taken over the PC. Also I've been so tired recently, I just collapse into bed of a night time, as, I suppose, being a lone parent 'again', is taking it's toll. My daughter, also has not been too good, so have been spending time making sure she is ok with my Grandson, who has been in hospital with a bad asthma attack. My daughter is due to have her new baby (as son) on the 15th May, so I'm really looking forward to that, athough, as usual, tinged with sadness and he wont have the benefit of his lovely Grandad.

I've not been over to Turkey, to be honest, I'm just working, and been with Rosie at the weekends, as the football season is in full swing, and I've been taking her all over the place. So, loads of apologies for not being here, and, actually, I'm glad to have come back tonight.

As I read earlier (sorry, I can't scroll up, so I can't remember the name!!), by a counsellor, things come at you, just when you think you are doing so well. (I can't imagine how hard it's been for you AnW'sMum), I've had a letter from the solicitor dealing with the liability issue, on Friday. In the letter was a time line of all the events that happened, and also, they had looked at John's medical records, and events with regards to this where also listed. To be honest, seeing everything down in black and white, just brought everything back to me, in the most harrowing way. It affected me badly, and I just wasn't expecting it. So, I've had quite a difficult time just reading about it. Which is probably why, I now can't sleep and have come back to my virtual family for their unrelenting support - Thank you guys.

But, having said that, to read that you, Smoky, are now going through this tragic time, I know I'm so lucky to have survived so far, and I'm sorry I'm letting off steam, when I know that you are suffering so badly. Please, Please, keep writing on here. It doesn't matter if you are ranting, or if you don't make sense, it really does help, and please call me, anytime, I don't sleep much anyhow.

Well, I'm going to go in the bath to see if I can relax, I hope you are all ok , I miss you guys, and I'm sorry it's been ages.

Take care and love to all

Stormy

xxxxx

Stormybay

Shelanne - How are you doing??

Shelanne

Hi Stormybay,

How lovely to hear from you, sympathise with the MSN thing! I'm totally addicted, spend most nights on there to wee small hours to avoid having to go to bed and not sleep!! Means I don't have a leg to stand on when eldest dd wants to be on for hours at a time with her pals!!
Keep thinking, this is a physical impossiblilty, I have to sleep sometime!!! Went to bed with too much drink in me last night, sure I would HAVE to sleep but had to get up at about 4.15am cos I just couldn't take anymore. Never mind, have got lots done!
Hope everyone keeping strong, AnW's mum, must be so hard to have to go over it all and Stormy reading the hospital report almost forcing you to live through it again! Is there never any end to it? Wishing your daughter good luck with the little one, how lovely!

It is 3 months today since Keith died, which I guess is a sort of milestone. I have had the post mortem report back and spoken to the consultant but as the official explanation is that there really is no explanation, it's not been a huge help!! Apparently he died of a relatively common staphloccol (sp?) infection but where he got it, how it so completely overwhelmed his system and why he did not display the right symptoms to give anyone a clue that he was as ill as he was all remain a mystery. The doctor's best guess was that he was a drug user, so they checked, twice! Thankfully he wasn't. But that leaves us without answers.

I am exhausted, bored of being sad and quite angry, to say the least!

The children are doing great and when I look at them I know all the effort and pushing myself is worth it, they seem so secure and comfortable to express whatever it is they want to express. Christi, middle one, won a silver medal in a gymnaastics competition last weekend and was so excited!!! Whilst I'm kind of sick of hearing people saying it, they will get me through this! All of us will get through this with the help of our little ones!

Smokybabe - how are you doing? Silly question I know, all I can say is that you will surprise yourself, we all do, but OMG it's hard and I feel so sorry for you and the children. We are always all here for you and I hope you have good friends in the "real" world, I know my friends have been invaluable. Thinking of you, sending you hugs.

Shelanne

Stormybay

Hi Shelanne, and WELL DONE.................3 months is indeed a mile stone for you, as is every minute of every day, so pat on the back to you. Aslo well done to your daughter for her gymnastics medal, that's great stuff. I am constantly amazed how well children seem to pick themselves up and get on with things. Mine have certainly taught me many a lesson in the past 18 months.
I've had DD2, Jade and my grandson Ryan here all day, we've made cakes and had a water fight in the garden. Although Ryan ate most of the cake mix whilst we were mixing it. They've just gone now, and I'm exhausted.
So, I'm off for a cuppa and one of the fairy cakes that Ryan 'let Nana keep'. He took the rest home for his daddy!
Smokybabe, how are you? Please call in and say Hi, shout if you need anything, and we'll be here.
I'm all excited about Thursday, when my new Grandson, Rhys arrives
It's really strange how life goes on, when you are convinced it comes to a grinding halt when your loved one decides to go!!!
Love to all
Stormy

elantan

this thread never ceases to amaze me the love and support on here really touches my heart i would like to add my love and support to smokey babe and anyone else that needs it