Stop me before I do something rash!!!

jcr16

shes 17, of course she's not gonna wanna go . she just sounds like she is being a typical 17 yr old and venting for a reaction. i'd just forget it and not worry. once she is there and over the strop she wil prob enjoy it ( not that she will let on to anyone,lol)

Person_one

smartpicture wrote: »

There are 3 other similar-aged teenagers going, including two of my own, so I do have some idea what teenagers like. My own two are really excited about doing some of the activities and we've negotiated how much time they can spend on their own and how much doing family stuff, and they seem happy - either that, or they know which side their bed is buttered if they want any more free holidays! :rotfl:

Excellent typo, and maybe an idea for a practical joke during the holiday...

itzmee

I'd be more inclined to put my own moany message on facebook saying something like "Sick of whiny and ungrateful people not pulling their weight - why is everything always left for me to do!" Or maybe a bit more subtle "Looking forward to a well-deserved relaxing weekend away - it's hard work planning this single handedly!" Maybe everyone will get the message then!

However having said this it does seem as though you are taking on a lot and getting no support or recognition for it. Maybe it's time to step back and let everyone else help. Tell them that you're too busy and can they take over - and why is it costing YOU money to do these things, isn't everyone else contributing?

rachbc

I have to say I can't understand why you expect a 17 year old to be grateful for organising a trip she doesn't even want to go on..... I found family get togethers cringeworthy at that age and now only find them bearable if I can play with all the small people and stop comparing school results/ uni applications/ jobs/ houses (delete as appropriate for age) with cousins who I only see a these events

And as a guest at these sort of events a wound up host/ organiser just about puts the kybosh on any enjoyment. Sounds like all the fun has been organised out of the weekend - not just for you but for everyone. I'm sure your parents will appreciate having their family around them all together in one place but above and beyound that all the rest of the stuff (cakes, decorations, activities etc etc) don't really matter. So step back, chill out and relax and enjoy your weekend.

picnmix

My mum and dad rang me last week to tell me of a great familiy gathering in September for a Ruby Wedding, they were so excited, I can't think of anything worse - and I'm nearly 40.

Just ignore it - if you are organising an event for 18 people, no matter how hard you try you are never going to please everyone. In future delegate a bit more. You'll have a great time with your familiy, they'll be praising you for your organisational skills, and just ignore the grumpy teenager in the corner.

Person_one

itzmee wrote: »

I'd be more inclined to put my own moany message on facebook saying something like "Sick of whiny and ungrateful people not pulling their weight - why is everything always left for me to do!" Or maybe a bit more subtle "Looking forward to a well-deserved relaxing weekend away - it's hard work planning this single handedly!" Maybe everyone will get the message then!

Passive aggressive vaguebooking? Leave that to the actual teenagers, adults shouldn't be stooping to that level of immaturity.

honeypop

smartpicture wrote: »

It wasn't my decision, I'm just the messenger getting shot for it!

I would simply point this out to her then by saying "XXX made the decision of no dogs, not me, so I hope you don't blame me for it all weekend"

I know some are saying not to respond to it, but she's indirectly accusing you of something that was not your decision. and if it were me, I'd like her to know she was incorrect.

make_me_wise

smartpicture wrote: »

I sooooo want to respond telling her that she should grow up and stop being selfish and grateful, that the reason we're not taking dogs has nothing to do with the death of my dog, but perhaps when she has lost a loved pet she won't be so dismissive of someone else's loss. And that I don't want to spend my time and my money on a holiday with an ungrateful teenager either, but I'm doing it because it's her nan and grampy's special day and I'm trying to do something nice for them because it might be the last time they get to have all their family around them. And that I've worked really hard and spent a lot of money to make sure that everyone, including her, has a nice time, and if she does anything to spoil their once-in-a-lifetime event then I shall personally throttle her.

And breathe..............

I know I can't. But I so, so want to.

I dont see why you cant tell her exactly what you have written above. She sounds incredibly immature, rude and selfish. It wont come across well to her group of friends, she appears to be having a toddler tantrum. Families, who would have them!!!!!

With her current attitude that stroppy little teenager will really struggle in the big wide world. Something tells me she is a touch spoilt.

the_cat

Life was so much better without Facebook

A 17 year old is going to moan to her friends about doing ANYTHING remotely connected to her family. That is just what teenagers do. Even if she were really looking forward to it, do you seriously think that she would post that for her friends to see???? No, far 'cooler' to say she doesn't want to go......

In my youth we would all kick off about parents/family/anything in general. The only difference was this was not in earshot of the adults concerned. If you don't like the pointless, inane ramblings of teenage girls all trying to look cool and fit in, then stop looking at her facebook page!

pinkshoes

I'd just reply to the message on FB saying "ooohhh, what a b*tch your aunt sounds! I'm pleased I don't have an aunt who spends time and effort organising a ruby wedding anniversary to make two old people very happy and have all their family around them"