Stop me before I do something rash!!!

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I've been organising a family long weekend away for 18 people for my mum and dad's ruby anniversary, no help from anyone else and a few comments about how they would do things differently (without actually volunteering to DO anything), but I've gritted my teeth and got on with it - so far.

Today I see my 17-year-old niece has put this on her Facebook status:
"Aparantly im going on holiday to a place i dont want to go without my dog because my aunts dog died AGES ago, and so we have to go through all this trouble to get my dog taken care of i am NOT happy and theres no way i am gonna speak to her."

I sooooo want to respond telling her that she should grow up and stop being selfish and grateful, that the reason we're not taking dogs has nothing to do with the death of my dog, but perhaps when she has lost a loved pet she won't be so dismissive of someone else's loss. And that I don't want to spend my time and my money on a holiday with an ungrateful teenager either, but I'm doing it because it's her nan and grampy's special day and I'm trying to do something nice for them because it might be the last time they get to have all their family around them. And that I've worked really hard and spent a lot of money to make sure that everyone, including her, has a nice time, and if she does anything to spoil their once-in-a-lifetime event then I shall personally throttle her.

And breathe..............

I know I can't. But I so, so want to.

DON79

Maybe just post a gentle reminder lol! "Hi (niece) how are you and your lovely dog?" as a comment to her little post - I am sure she will be red faced in no time....

Agutka

She's seventeen. Of COURSE she doesn't want to go away with you lot. Of course she's going to be grumpy. Just ignore her and she might brighten up on occasion. She'll cherish the memories in the future. Don't ruin it for yourself fighting a lost cause. Have a great time!

SkintGypsy

If you are her friend on FB I might 'like' her post, so she knows you saw what a spiteful little biatch she is. Vile girl!

kate1976

Just do what I do when my son posts statuses whining about me, like it then just put a comment saying something like 'ooh isn't life hard' or 'diddums, let me know when you want your toys back in your pram' I love winding my son up on facebook!!

goodgirl80

Tell her not to come

onlyroz

I had a friend at school who spent years moaning about how her family didn't have any money, and how she never got taken on a decent holiday. Then her mum came into some money and took them all for a fortnight's holiday to Colorado - and my friend spent the whole time in the run-up to the trip moaning about how she didn't want to go. I could have happily throttled her then, and I hope, for her mum's sake that she didn't say anything of the sort to her.

I think you need to accept that a weekend away with family is not going to be any 17 year old's idea of fun - just ignore her and don't let her spoil your trip.

bluenoseam

In what world does a 17 year old really want to be hanging with a Ruby Wedding crowd? I get it, family do, whatever, but realise that not everyone is really into that sort of thing and frankly if she doesn't want to be there then she shouldn't feel forced into it or did you think the fact that no one helped you organise this was more to do with the fact they're lazy rather than not thinking it was really all that grand an idea?

McKneff

At 17 its not surprising she doesnt want to attend. Could you not have a word with her parents saying that
you feel she doesnt want to attend and that its okay if she doesnt. Unless of course they dont want to leave her on her own.

bluenoseam

besides, the thought of a long weekend away with my family - i'm gonna be honest, i love them to bits, but i'd rather walk buck naked down Argyle Street in Glasgow than spend any more than a couple of hours with them, i'd be done for murder before Songs of Praise was on!

Person_one

"Hi niece, if there's something you want to discuss about the trip, please feel free to give me a ring for a chat about it, your mum has my number. I've tried very hard to accommodate the needs of all 18 people but it isn't easy!"

Polite, no b****iness, no syrupy sarcastic niceness, no stooping to her level. You win the moral high ground.

I predict her response to the above comment would be to delete the whole post though!

I think her beef is with her parents who are probably forcing her to go. At 17 she should be allowed to stay at home and look after the dog, it'd save money on kennels anyway!