Baby due soon, what to do regarding visitors?

pelirocco

Person_one wrote: »

Yeah, that was a long time ago. I've changed my nephew's nappies, does that mean I permanently have the right to see him naked no matter how old he is!?! :eek:

Your Oh might have seen every part of you , but trust me during labour , your bits arent looking at their best !!:rotfl:

Person_one

supermaiden wrote: »

I thought this would be a thread about people visiting after the birth but I see its not. I wouldnt really have issues with my mum being there, my husband doesnt want it though and I understand his reasons. She is busy right now though so probably wont even get to see baby the day he is born, Im not sure really.

My problem is all of these people who I havent seen for years suddenly coming out and saying they cant wait to see little one and visit etc, but I just want some time with me, husband, and baby so we can get settled and some visits from close family but that is all. Im not sure how to put this to people who want to visit straight away. I may say just come to the hospital and then its done and theyre not invading my home lol. I even have one person saying to call in to see them on the way home from hospital! Not likely!

You could always do this:

http://www.stfuparentsblog.com/post/6566415906/click-to-enlarge-trends-ok-im-calling

Actually, don't!

gratefulforhelp_2

building_with_lego wrote: »

HOME BIRTH! :TYou can tell anyone to do anything, or not.

Seconded.

The !!!!!! parents thing is a bit OTT but so are the pitch invasion tactics of neighbours and relatives who want to see baby first.

Have a babymoon.

YORKSHIRELASS

Hi, its a very personal thing isnt it. I also love my Mum to bits but would have most definitely not wanted her present while I was giving birth.

The other thing about Mum is that things have changed a lot since she gave birth and and I found she was giving me very different advice to the midwives and health visitors which was confusing. I actually think there is a lot to be said for just having some time with your partner, the baby and any siblings for a few days and keeping other visits to a minimum.

You can always say "sorry we have had a bad night with the baby and we dont really want to be bothered with visitors today". Most people will understand.

Good luck with it all, its a very special time in your life and try and enjoy as much of it as you can.

pinkclouds

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Person_one

pinkclouds wrote: »

Good on you, changing his nappies. Your mom is different to your nephew. For a start, you haven't seen your nephew from the inside.

Sorry but I don't see a problem with having your own mom present when you give birth. I didn't mean to imply that your mom has a "right" to see you naked until you die. Plus, surely it's difficult to be embarrassed about being naked (or partially naked - I wore a dress both times because I saw no reason to expose my upper body) in front of the person who pushed you out through her bottom? I might have had my mom there if she lived nearer to me.

Anyway, each to their own. We'll maybe agree to differ?

We certainly differ on some biological facts! I haven't seen my mum from the inside, my eyes were closed, she certainly hasn't seen the inside of me, and if she pushed me out through her 'bottom' she should be studied.

You are more than welcome to feel comfortable about your mother seeing you naked, what you really shouldn't do is tell other people they should be ok with it too.

3v3

pelirocco wrote: »

Your Oh might have seen every part of you , but trust me during labour , your bits arent looking at their best !!:rotfl:

They'll never look the same again after either, so he may as well get used to that idea too

pinkclouds

Person_one wrote: »

We certainly differ on some biological facts! I haven't seen my mum from the inside, my eyes were closed, she certainly hasn't seen the inside of me, and if she pushed me out through her 'bottom' she should be studied.

You are more than welcome to feel comfortable about your mother seeing you naked, what you really shouldn't do is tell other people they should be ok with it too.

Sure. I didn't mean to tell people what to do. I just meant to tell people what I felt. And I suppose I was equating your nephew to your mom, although I agree that it doesn't make biological sense. For that matter, I was also using "bottom" as a euphemism.

I hope nobody feels they should *have* to be okay with having their mom (or anyone else) present during labour or birth. You should always have only the people you feel comfortable with in the room. You are entitled to keep everyone out of the room, except essential medical personnel.

If anyone has felt offended or upset, then I offer my apologies. I don't know what else to say on this particular issue. But I can edit the posts for you.

3v3

supermaiden wrote: »

I thought this would be a thread about people visiting after the birth ...

:rotfl: Yes, most people seeing the title would agree with you.

"Visitors" is such a loose term (and conjures up a really good comedy sketch in this context actually! "Visitor tours of the labour suite in action, £15 per head - must meet the NHS deficit y'know!" ) whereas "birthing partner" is far more .. well, 'appropriate' to the actual discussion

ska_lover

Every girl needs her mum in these situations