Female neighbour always asking my husband for help round the house

yummymummy1987_2

We also had a neighbour that was similar. She would knock loads though
"can you watch the baby while i go to the bins"
"can you watch the baby while i carry the pram/shopping/post etc" up
do you have xyz that i can borrow
She would also txt constantly just random things like "did you hear that noise..."

Tbh it was really draining and i found it hard to understand why she put so much trust in a neighbour ie looking after her children and why she could not do things i did with 2 children in tow

Needless to say after a while i started getting dp to answer the door, funnily enough it stopped after that and she hasnt bothered us for ages.

Primarni

HeidiHi wrote: »

You don't think it's at all strange to keep asking a complete stranger to do your DIY for you because you don't want to wait for your LL or ask your father, or your fella to help you? Her hulking great son could help with the "it's too heavy" stuff for goodness sake. What have I got to be jealous of?

I think asking to borrow a tool from a complete stranger ten minutes after your dad has left your house carrying a tool box is odd.

Knocking on a stranger's door saying you need this stranger's help because something is" too heavy" for you to do alone when your teenage son is home and strong enough to help you, and your boyfriend is at the end of the phone, and it's only about 25 minutes since your dad left - is odd.

Not dreadful and wicked, but definitely odd.

I don't see that you have anything to be jealous of from a woman who is coming across as a bit weird, useless, needy and socially challenged. Especially as your husband is running away from her! :rotfl:

Primarni

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

Has your husband said how this woman behaves towards him when he is in her house? Does she hang around him flirtatiously, or keep out of his way apart from to thank him sincerely when the job is done?

I'm wondering whether you are worried that there might be more to this than meets the eye... and I wouldn't blame you.

He doesn't go round does he? He just says no.

Bogof_Babe

Primarni wrote: »

I don't see that you have anything to be jealous of from a woman who is coming across as a bit weird useless, needy and socially challenged. Especially as your husband is running away from her! :rotfl:

Where did she say she's jealous? Annoyed and fed up maybe, but there's been no mention of jealousy. Not by the OP anyway.

Primarni

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

Where did she say she's jealous? Annoyed and fed up maybe, but there's been no mention of jealousy. Not by the OP anyway.

Oh I know, I was agreeing with her.

Bogof_Babe

Primarni wrote: »

He doesn't go round does he? He just says no.

Sorry if I got that wrong. I agree the initial post seems to suggest that he hasn't actually gone around and done anything yet, but I can't understand why she hasn't taken the hint if she KEEPS asking and he NEVER goes round. Must have the hide of a rhino.

Primarni

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

Sorry if I got that wrong. I agree the initial post seems to suggest that he hasn't actually gone around and done anything yet, but I can't understand why she hasn't taken the hint if she KEEPS asking and he NEVER goes round. Must have the hide of a rhino.

Me either. Hide of a rhino doesn't even cover it. She can see the man's got kids and a job and a home of his own. She's been told that he's doing night school as well. She doesn't give a crap does she? :mad:

ska_lover

HeidiHi wrote: »

I don't think I'm a menopausal woman being mean to a more attractive younger woman either. I am menopausal, and she is younger and more attractive, but I'm not being unkind to her at all.

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No you aren't darling - sorry the silly earlier argument between myself and a few others wasn't aimed at you - it was a completely off topic silly thing.

You make some very valid points - and I would be just as fed up as you are if my neighbour was acting like this. Time is a very precious commodity for us all and to have yours infringed upon by a virtual stranger, just because they live next door isn't acceptable.

JonnyBravo

HeidiHi wrote: »

she is younger and more attractive

Can we get a pic so we can judge just how hard a job this is?

I'll get me coat.

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Idiophreak

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

My OH had to go around to someone to collect some money. She was expecting him and answered the door in nothing but a towel saying oops sorry just got out of the bath.

Oh man, I had a couple of plumbers round earlier in the week and they came a few minutes early - so I was just getting out of the shower.

I hoped they'd assume that I was just getting ready for work, not that I was a bunny-boiling homo looking for someone to check my pipes