Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

poppyfield19

Yes I think he will be - I hope so!

Shelldean

looby75 wrote: »

well you know that we are all here for you! Ok it's not quite the same as someone who can give you a hug IRL but in other ways can be even better because no matter what the time is there is usually someone around with a sympathetic ear.


And then there are the trolls to laugh at too

Or simply just sit and gasp at what they've said this time:eek::eek::eek: have done it myself a fewtimes on this thread alone x

POPPYOSCAR

looby75 wrote: »

well you know that we are all here for you! Ok it's not quite the same as someone who can give you a hug IRL but in other ways can be even better because no matter what the time is there is usually someone around with a sympathetic ear.


And then there are the trolls to laugh at too

:T

..... and feel sorry for at the same time - sad, sad people.

poppyfield19

I think the reason I want to know the father now is because I'm worried that if she hasn't agreed to anything, she isn't getting any support for that side of things when she needs it, if that makes sense.

Zoetoes

poppyfield19 wrote: »

I have asked her dad to phone me when he can, we still talk, not 'friends' but he is still seeing the kids when he can, a couple of times a month. He's not got back to me yet, he's usually really busy with his work but he will definitely know as soon as he gets a chance to phone back. My daughter is okay with him knowing as long as she doesn't have to try and tell him.

I think my sister rang and told my dad because I couldn't face telling him.

poppyfield19

Yes - the support on this thread has been really, really amazing and really helpful. I really appreciate the support you've given all of you. x

looby75

poppyfield19 wrote: »

Yes I think he will be - I hope so!

just a little word of advice.....be ready for him to hit the roof at first.

in my experience Dads don't handle the idea of their little girls having sex very well no matter what age they are. Never mind pregnancy.

I'm sure he'll calm down after he gets over the shock but be ready for a bit of a fall out at first. (hope I'm wrong)

Nimeth

First off to the OP, you sound like a brilliant mum! It says a lot about how good your relationship is with your daughter that she felt she could tell you. I disagree with the poster who said she is being immature, from what you've said OP, she's anything but! Lots of (((hugs))) to you both and hope all works out well for you. I didn't just want to read and run.

Second, with regard to the law (as certain posters seem intent on bleating their ignorant opinions). Laws are often written in black and white, but life is lived in shades of grey. That's why we have police, certain agencies and juries, to humanise and interpret those blacks & whites. I also think certain posters would do well to remember the saying 'If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.'

Back to the topic, as long as the OPs daughter understands that mum is there to protect, support and love her no matter what, I'm sure she'll open up about the father at some point.

poet123

Yes, you do need to take care, once you are out of the "doing" mode and things settle, the shock will probably hit you. From what you say this has come out of the blue, so you will need time to come to terms with whatever decsion is arrived at.

With regard to her dad, be prepared for him to have a really angry reaction, ime men tend to react badly to things like this when their little girl is involved. It will be best if he stays away till he can be calm and measured in his approach.

peachyprice

Zoetoes wrote: »

I don't think it's a good idea to focus too much on who the father is at the moment, she had only just plucked up the courage to tell her mum that she's pregnant and she has to get her head round this without being stressed about having to disclose who the father is.

What if it turns out to be a lad who turned 16 the day before? Then what? Call the police?

If that were the case I'm sure Poppy would thank the lord.

The reason Poppy is so concerned is that her DD has no boyfriend, as far as she knows has been nowhere she could have slept with a boy of her age and there is a real possibility that it is a person older in a position of trust.