Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

Errata

Poppy - something that crossed my mind was the fact that you will need some support to see you through this situation in the short term, and perhaps in the long term. Do you have anyone? Your GP practice may have a counsellor that you could talk through your thoughts and feelings with. Sometimes doing that gives strength to carry on.

poppyfield19

I have asked her dad to phone me when he can, we still talk, not 'friends' but he is still seeing the kids when he can, a couple of times a month. He's not got back to me yet, he's usually really busy with his work but he will definitely know as soon as he gets a chance to phone back. My daughter is okay with him knowing as long as she doesn't have to try and tell him.

Welshdebtor

Vax I really wish I had your skills/owned a crystal ball like you.How do you know it is a man??????But even if it is, your claims of the offense committed are still false.

poppyfield19

Errata wrote: »

Poppy - something that crossed my mind was the fact that you will need some support to see you through this situation in the short term, and perhaps in the long term. Do you have anyone? Your GP practice may have a counsellor that you could talk through your thoughts and feelings with. Sometimes doing that gives strength to carry on.

Counselling isn't something that would work for me - have tried it once before - was way before I had my kids but knowing me it wouldn't really help. Not really got anyone but will talk it through with her dad which should help some. Thank you for the concern.

Emmzi

drive by hug. No advice; you are doing fine. Stay strong. (but if you need a wee cry you and daughter can have a wee cry together, no shame in it)

POPPYOSCAR

Thats good that you will have someone to share the burden with you.

Do you think he will be supportive of your daughter whatever she decides to do?

looby75

poppyfield19 wrote: »

Counselling isn't something that would work for me - have tried it once before - was way before I had my kids but knowing me it wouldn't really help. Not really got anyone but will talk it through with her dad which should help some. Thank you for the concern.

well you know that we are all here for you! Ok it's not quite the same as someone who can give you a hug IRL but in other ways can be even better because no matter what the time is there is usually someone around with a sympathetic ear.


And then there are the trolls to laugh at too

Zoetoes

I don't think it's a good idea to focus too much on who the father is at the moment, she had only just plucked up the courage to tell her mum that she's pregnant and she has to get her head round this without being stressed about having to disclose who the father is.

What if it turns out to be a lad who turned 16 the day before? Then what? Call the police?

OP I agree that it needs to come out at some point to make sure she did consent and that it was someone around her age and not someone much older, but I'd tread carefully, she might even come to you once she feels comfortable, she obviously trusts you.

And you are handling this brilliantly, she is lucky to have such a supportive mum.

Errata

poppyfield19 wrote: »

Counselling isn't something that would work for me - have tried it once before - was way before I had my kids but knowing me it wouldn't really help. Not really got anyone but will talk it through with her dad which should help some. Thank you for the concern.

Good to hear. Dads being dads, he's going to want to know who the father is for sure. Might be an idea to make sure your daughter realises that.

pelirocco

vax2002 wrote: »

So the TRUTH is spam now, or "offensive", well it speaks volumes about the intelligence levied upon here.
But lets be totally honest, the most offensive things you hear are usually true.
To those who think an under-age child having Sex with a man is acceptable behaviour, well I just hope your neighbours never find out. You disgust me !

Is it only underage children having sex with men that disgust you? , it happens to boys too

And why would you be so worried about your neigbours finding out? , are they more important then your own children ?

I dont know how old your children are , but i have found it always best not to predict the future , you really never know what is around the corner

When my daughter was a teenager i used worry about her getting pregnant , then one day a friend said , if getting pregnant was the worse thing that happened to her daughters , then she could count herself lucky ..........