Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

Person_one

shop-to-drop wrote: »

Just wondering would a 15 year old boy and his parents be able to apply for joint custody of the child?

He would be able to apply for access just like any other dad, assuming no abuse he would have the right to see his child, same as any other dad.

No court though would hand a newborn over to a 15 year old boy for days at a time, especially if the mother chose to breastfeed. I'm sure arrangements could be adjusted over time depending on how circumstances pan out.

POPPYOSCAR

Gavin83 wrote: »

What if he's not interested? It's a very real possibility. I also don't see why his parents should be financially responsible either.

He will still have to pay when/if he is working even if he is not the slightest bit interested.

I think most parents would feel duty bound to give some financial support, I know I would.

Oldernotwiser

Gavin83 wrote: »

What if he's not interested? It's a very real possibility..

You don't have to be "interested" to have a responsibility to support a child you've fathered and it doesn't have to be voluntary.

WelshBluebird

Person_one wrote: »

If a pregnant woman aborts there is absolutely no legal or moral obligation to tell the father she was ever pregnant. Its confidential medical info, just like she doesn't need to tell anyone if she has her tonsils out or a hysterectomy.

Fathers don't have any rights, and certainly no ownership, regarding a baby until it is born and they either sign the birth certificate, marry the mother or take a DNA test.

Legally of course you are 100% correct, but IMO morally it is a different story. The baby is as much his as it is hers and he should have every right to know. Of course, morals vary from person to person (as we have seen in this thread with things like abortion etc etc).

savingmummy

Poet her mum and elder sister were yes as far as i remember her sister was on income support due to lazyitis She chose not to follow suit!
She could of just gave it all up and stayed with them doing the same but she didnt.

At 15/16 i would of been absolutely useless i could just about take care of myself.

Person_one

WelshBluebird wrote: »

Legally of course you are 100% correct, but IMO morally it is a different story. The baby is as much his as it is hers and he should have every right to know. Of course, morals vary from person to person (as we have seen in this thread with things like abortion etc etc).

Why? What good comes of him knowing that he helped to create a pregnancy that was then aborted? I'm genuinely asking because I can see no reason at all why he needs to ever know if she doesn't want him to. Surely we can all agree he doesn't actually get a say in whether the pregnancy is continued or aborted, that's all her decision.

Best case scenario he says "Oh, I'm sorry you had to go through that without my support, but I would have completely respected your decision", no real gain there. Worst case scenario the OP's daughter gets a load of grief from him and his family for no good reason. I wouldn't take the chance if I were a pregnant 15 year old and not 100% sure I could count on my boyfriend's love and support. This girl apparently doesn't even have a boyfriend.

Ames

krisskross wrote: »

You are only responsible for you. Not you AND a baby. You are able to make choices to suit just you without having to consider the welfare of someone totally dependent on you.

Your situation of not fulfilling your perceived potential because of your own ill health is totally different to that of a young teenager having a baby.

I'm not saying the situations are the same. I'm just pointing out that when life chucks a massive boulder in your path, you don't have to just stop, you can find a different way around it to get back to where you wanted to be.

POPPYOSCAR

WelshBluebird wrote: »

Legally of course you are 100% correct, but IMO morally it is a different story. The baby is as much his as it is hers and he should have every right to know. Of course, morals vary from person to person (as we have seen in this thread with things like abortion etc etc).

Sometimes people are better off not knowing things for their own good.

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WelshBluebird wrote: »

Legally of course you are 100% correct, but IMO morally it is a different story. The baby is as much his as it is hers and he should have every right to know. Of course, morals vary from person to person (as we have seen in this thread with things like abortion etc etc).

And do precisely what with the knowledge? Have mass said every Thursday? Sit shiva for a week?

POPPYOSCAR

Welshbluebird


I would worry about a baby that was born and that you did not get to see more than anything else.- now that is morally wrong.