Abortion help :(

facingthefuture

Did anyone ever consider that females in exactly the situation that I have illustrated (childless with this past experience and over 40 and wanting one now) would find it too painful to read this thread? Sure they don't have to but it doesn't make their feelings/experiences any less relevant to the situation. I just would like the op to be 100% sure. As for all those pregnant females reading this thread that are going to have their babies - good luck. An abortion is not something anyone would go in to lightly,I really am sorry for them both.Really.

secretsuperdry

Im VERY sure which is why I said in my FIRST post that I didn't want this to turn into a debate.

Amber_Sunshine

facingthefuture wrote: »

Did anyone ever consider that females in exactly the situation that I have illustrated (childless with this past experience and over 40 and wanting one now) would find it too painful to read this thread?

Then I guess they wouldn't read it.

I see no reason why OP shouldn't be able to have a child in the future - IF and WHEN she wants one.

facingthefuture

make_me_wise wrote: »

Yes we did, you dont have the monopoly on being able to think things through. I am really done with being polite with you now. Why dont you stop trying to derail this thread with your sanctimonious drivle and just fcuk off.

1) I am not religious

2) Polite? Surely a few people would think the subject would warrant just one little bit of extra consideration.

Again, good luck to the OP.

secretsuperdry

Amber_Sunshine wrote: »

Then I guess they wouldn't read it.

I see no reason why OP shouldn't be able to have a child in the future - IF and WHEN she wants one.

Thank you!

Don’t get me wrong I would like kids one day, but I want a family. A secure home with a man I love

I honestly think bringing a child into a life where I am technically homeless is not a great idea for me (I know others do it though),

My friend has been great in letting me live on his sofa for the time and he’s said he’s happy for me to stay until I get myself sorted (nice nice friend). But if I had a child I would need to go to the council for accommodation and I really don’t want that!!

relic

facingthefuture wrote: »

1) I am not religious

2) Polite? Surely a few people would think the subject would warrant just one little bit of extra consideration.

Again, good luck to the OP.

secretsuperdry wrote: »

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I've just found out im pregnant and Im not in a situation to even dream of keeping it I have no idea how far gone I am as I was on the pill (yeh great, thanks for not working!) but the clearblue said +3 weeks so thats anything really!

I havent spoken to the dad in 4 weeks due to rather a nasty breakup but I know he doesn't want kids (I will obviously talk to him about it) so know he will agree that an abortion is the right answer for us. Me? Well Im not in any situation to bring up a child. Im currently out of work and have been for a few months (I relocated to be with boyfriend and have now come back to 'home') and am currently sofa surfing with very nice friends!

I have nothing against people who don't work and have kids but I really do not want to bring a child up in these situations. I don't unfortunately have family around me, so it's just my friends (who are great, but not like that. Lol).

I've looked online and it appears the only abortion clinic in my area is at a private hospital? Will they still do it on the NHS? Im a bit confused!!

Just needed to tell someone as my friends won't understand

Please don't turn this into a pro v anti abortion argument as I will just ignore it.

I know what I have to do, Im just not sure how to do it.

Thank you for listening.

No, they wouldn't.

make_me_wise

facingthefuture wrote: »

Surely a few people would think the subject would warrant just one little bit of extra consideration.

The OP stated right at the start that she only wanted advice on her next steps. She made it clear she had already decided what she wanted to do. We have all respected that.

If she had said she was unsure and wanted some opinions on what she might do then of course people could have given her reasons for and against such a decision. It would then be up to the OP to take what she wanted from that advice, give extra consideration to it all and make a decision from there.

In all of your responses you are talking to people on here like we are idiots giving flippant responses to a serious issue. Your remarks to the OP have been offensive. Are you really so unaware of how you come across?

littlestar1981

Just wishing you the best OP, I had a termination 4 years ago. I went to my GP, they gave me a letter and the phone number for Marie Stopes. I rang Marie Stopes, gave them the letter when I went in so I didn't pay anything. They gave me a scan, found I was 7 weeks gone then talked me through my options and the termination was done the following week under sedation.

If you want to chat any time feel free to PM me...

michelle1506

Excuse me but I am 42 years old and pregnant with twins! Just because you are over 40 it doesn't mean you can't conceive! You know what I was almost feeling a bit sorry for you, as I see you have been given quite a lot of flack on here, but now I just feel even more annoyed!

There are plenty of women having babies over 40 today you know!! There is ALWAYS something that can be done, even if it means having fertility treatment! :mad:

facingthefuture wrote: »

Did anyone ever consider that females in exactly the situation that I have illustrated (childless with this past experience and over 40 and wanting one now) would find it too painful to read this thread? Sure they don't have to but it doesn't make their feelings/experiences any less relevant to the situation. I just would like the op to be 100% sure. As for all those pregnant females reading this thread that are going to have their babies - good luck. An abortion is not something anyone would go in to lightly,I really am sorry for them both.Really.

LittleMissMPB

Just wanted to wish you the best of luck.

Go and see your GP, who will ask you roughly how far along you are (when I was pregnant, I was told by my midwife that those clearblue sticks are known for being very wrong sometimes, it told me I was 2-3weeks when I was actually 9weeks). If you really don't know, they will take the first day of your last period and use that.

The GP will then send a referral to the hospital and you should get an appointment to see someone. They will scan you to find an accurate gestational age (you don't see the screen), and then you will then most likely speak to someone about 'how' you would like it to be done (if there is a choice, depending on area and how far along you are). An appointment would then be made to have the procedure carried out. Counselling is always avaliable afterwards if you need it.

It shouldn't affect your chances of having children in the future when you are in a better position, just speak to the dr and make sure you are 100% aware of what is involved as it's not an easy thing to have to do. Feel free to PM me if you want.