Boyfriend help

peachyprice

Percy1983 wrote: »

Just to stop you spamming this thread any further, you mentioned using keyloggers and relic said you should need to use them, I took the comment as a general comment about relationships to which you where quoted as being the one to suggest it. I didn't read it as an attack on you, to which you seem to think it was and keep defending something which was never attacked, please drop it.

Yes, that's how I read it too.

I think it's probably best to drop it now no-oneknows me before you make yourself look very foolish and certainly childish.

Polmop

Am I missing something here

brian_723

I hate Facebook ....................

relic

no-oneknowsme wrote: »

RELIC - Could I respectfully ask you to refrain from sending me derogatory private messages please.

Thank you.

I said, just leave it, and act like a grown up when you write things on here. Hardly derogatory. I was actually trying to steer this topic in the right direction, I suggest you do the same.

no-oneknowsme

peachyprice wrote: »

Yes, that's how I read it too.

I think it's probably best to drop it now no-oneknows me before you make yourself look very foolish and certainly childish.

So sorry Peachprice - I didnt notice your board guide/moderator status....did I miss it?

Percy1983

kaz0705 wrote: »

I'd say my boyfriend makes me happy 96% of the time!

96%!, I would only get 90% with my other half, the other 10% would be hormones I can do nothing about.:rotfl:

peachyprice wrote: »

Yes, that's how I read it too.

I think it's probably best to drop it now no-oneknows me before you make yourself look very foolish and certainly childish.

To late for me, its like a dog with a bone, please don't reply to the child relic, you won't get anywhere.

peachyprice

no-oneknowsme wrote: »

So sorry Peachprice - I didnt notice your board guide/moderator status....did I miss it?

You really aren't and idiot aren't you.

Why are you so intent on hijacking this thread?




Ignore button activated twice in one day, sad.

justanotherregularuser

Can we stop all the arguing please.

kaz0705 wrote: »

I've skimmed through but I don't think you say how old you are? But this sounds very much like my first big relationship when I was 17-21.

I'm 36 and he's 38 so we're not youngesters so to speak, it all does feel a bit childish though sometimes.

I would hazard a guess that he's been in contact with his ex or other girls and been doing some online FB flirting. It is more than likely just ego-boosting stuff, if- as you say- he's not one for going out.

This is what i think too.

Guess its down to you where a line gets drawn. Is online flirting acceptable to you? And how far does the flirting go (hard to know without seeing the messages but worth considering). My 'first love' (I laugh about it now whilst cringing about the stuff I let him get away with) texted a girl saying she was 'his number one girl' and stuff like that. Not acceptable really!

Once it was full on cyber sex with web cams etc and other times it's been flirting.

Regardless of this specific issue, I always advise people to use the percentage rule: If you're unhappy for more than 20% of the time, the relationship is unlikely to be worth it (funnily enough, when I was 22 or so, this was 60/40 but as I've had more and better relationships I would say 20% is the minimum. When I'm feeling smug, I'd say my boyfriend makes me happy 96% of the time!).

This is something to think on thanks

anyway, you're probably not going mad, you're instincts are probably right. He most likely hasn't physically cheated on you but he's very likely to be flirting online (and couldnt remember if he'd deleted recent incriminating messages or not!).

Again this is what i think.

Best of luck.

Kaz

Flyboy152

brians_daughter wrote: »

TBH if my oh insisted on looking at my fb messages i would tell him where to shove it - i have nothing to hide but i do value my privacy. Mind you tho. i would never ask to see his either.

same with my phone, infact i have a pin lock on mine - again nothing to hide but if i thought my oh was snopping there would be huge issues.

in the 12 years we have been together i have never felt the need/urge to check up on him, and i would hope its mutual

Personally, if Mrs Flyboy ever asked such a thing I would be wondering why she doesn't trust me. In the thirty years we have been together, she has never made such a request (of course, back then the carrier pigeons wouldn't have told her anyway ) and neither have I. Neither of us have ever felt the need and we respect each others privacy as a matter of total trust.

justanotherregularuser

It's lovely if you can 100% trust your partner but i can't for very good reasons.