Boyfriend help

relic

no-oneknowsme wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: let me tell you this.....I couldnt trust my Husband any more if I tried which is why your comment [STRIKE]is more ridiculous than you could ever imagine[/STRIKE] made me laugh.

Let me explain ..... I am 36 , I have been with my Husband since I was 13 years old . We have 3 kiddies together , my Husband is a hard working man who NEVER goes out boozing with friends . He is there unconditionally for myself and our children and never once in the 23 years we have been together has he given me any reason to mistrust him.

Infact I trust this man with my life.

So please , before you make your catty (attempt at being cocky) remarks please try not to tar everyone with the same brush as yourself!

Why are you trying so hard, I have explained now three times that the comment wasn't for you.

Now I have your life story of why you trust your husband.

As for your last comment, i've never commented on my partner, as trust is just something that either works or it doesn't. Obviously for us, it does, since I don't have to write on a forum about how much i trust my partner.

emsywoo123

justanotherregularuser wrote: »

I Spoke to him about it last night and he just avoided the questions and started having a go at me instead. He said that an ex of his had sent him messages on fb before saying she missed him etc. That's what he was worried about me seeing. That would have been fine with me though and he knows it. I can imagine the conversation wasn't as one sided as he'd like me to believe though. He's quite angry with me now for dragging up the past when he's been having rude conversations with other women and i've found out about it. i didn't mention the other times though last night i just told him not to lie to me. He gets like this when he's feeling guilty.



I think he thinks i'm not very bright and i'll believe all the bullsheet that comes out of his mouth.

Are you actually me a couple of years ago?? I feel like I have travelled back in time to make this thread.. :rotfl:

IMHO, this relationship is doomed. I clung onto mine, far far longer than I should have done. (With the exception of the fact I now have DS )

skypie123_2

justanotherregularuser wrote: »

Thank you for the replies

I Spoke to him about it last night and he just avoided the questions and started having a go at me instead. He said that an ex of his had sent him messages on fb before saying she missed him etc. That's what he was worried about me seeing. That would have been fine with me though and he knows it. I can imagine the conversation wasn't as one sided as he'd like me to believe though. He's quite angry with me now for dragging up the past when he's been having rude conversations with other women and i've found out about it. i didn't mention the other times though last night i just told him not to lie to me. He gets like this when he's feeling guilty.

I think he thinks i'm not very bright and i'll believe all the bullsheet that comes out of his mouth.

I think you can do so much better than this joke of a man.
Dump him and leave him to his pathetic messaging of other women.
You can't trust him.
Find a decent man you can trust and have a wonderful life! There are lots of them out there (decent men I mean!)
xxxx

scooby088

justanotherregularuser wrote: »

It wouldn't be the first time he's done something like this. He's really secretive with his phone too and it never leaves his pocket when i'm around.

I keep my phone on me at all times only ever leave it on the table when i don't need it, why would i want my OH to look at it? I have nothing to hide so if she asked to see it she could easily ask instead of going and doing it in secret. As for facebook i believe it to be the one of the most pointless things i have ever come across, only ever use it for the games and to keep in touch with a few old school and work mates.

Why would anyone have an ex on facebook?? They are an ex for a reason and why keep or add them to your profile? To me if there arent any kids involved then why keep an ex or add to facebook.

justanotherregularuser

I didn't go and look in secret though ( well i did but not until afterwards ) he was looking at mine so i jokingly asked to look at his too. I haven't gone looking for stuff for ages and i thought things were going really well between us. His reaction was way over the top for if he had nothing to hide.

He's not going to tell me the truth now anyway now he knows there's no evidence. He'll just make up some more rubbish. I don't know what to do. I almost feel resigned to the fact that he does this. It's happened so many times i almost feel like i don't care and that i should just let him do whatever because he'll never stop.

Percy1983

As a bloke who is amazig at digging holes for myself I never registered on facebook, got to say if my other half asked to see my e-mails I would ask why? if there wasn't a logical reason I wouldn't give he the password.

As it is I use outlook and it only needs a password to download new messages so she could read everything if she wanted.

Same with phones they sit on the side and if one buzzes/ringings etc I will pick up her phone and give it to her and she would do the same for me. Sometimes she may ask me to read a message if she is driving etc but I will only look if asked to and likewise the other way around.

Anyway if I was him I wouldn't let you look, not because there is anything dodgy but because its nothing to do with you, just because you are ok with him seeing yours doesn't mean he has to be ok with you seeing his.

skypie123_2

You do know what to do OP.
Deep down.
Is this how you want to spend your life?
You deserve better.
xxx

albionrovers

Yip sounds to me ike it's pretty much over anyway, Facebook or not.

brians_daughter

TBH if my oh insisted on looking at my fb messages i would tell him where to shove it - i have nothing to hide but i do value my privacy. Mind you tho. i would never ask to see his either.

same with my phone, infact i have a pin lock on mine - again nothing to hide but if i thought my oh was snopping there would be huge issues.

in the 12 years we have been together i have never felt the need/urge to check up on him, and i would hope its mutual

no-oneknowsme

relic wrote: »

Why are you trying so hard, I have explained now three times that the comment wasn't for you.

Now I have your life story of why you trust your husband.

As for your last comment, i've never commented on my partner, as trust is just something that either works or it doesn't. Obviously for us, it does, since I don't have to write on a forum about how much i trust my partner.

Given that you quoted ME in your reply I think it was fair of me to assume that it was me to whom you were referring......