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Boyfriend help

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  • no-oneknowsme
    no-oneknowsme Posts: 1,955 Forumite
    justanotherregularuser wrote: »
    He can't have deleted them because he closed his page and then went out and i went straight on the computer to see if he'd logged out which he hadn't. He was worried about something, i think he couldn't remember what messages he'd deleted and which ones he hadn't especially because fb is saving all the chat as messages too now.


    Could he have used his phone to access facebook as soon as he left the house to delete any messages he didnt want you to see?

    My Daughters access facebook through their phones and just thought maybe this is how your OH managed to delete the messages.
    The loopy one has gone :j
  • justanotherregularuser
    justanotherregularuser Posts: 24 Forumite
    No i don't think his phone is even capable of going online and i went on there as soon as he went out. He's hiding something i'm sure.
  • no-oneknowsme
    no-oneknowsme Posts: 1,955 Forumite
    justanotherregularuser wrote: »
    No i don't think his phone is even capable of going online and i went on there as soon as he went out. He's hiding something i'm sure.


    Most newish phones can access the internet.

    Have you considered using a program on your pc which can tell you EVERYTHING he has been saying/doing/looking at online?

    I can pm you the name of a program which can do this if you are interested.
    The loopy one has gone :j
  • relic
    relic Posts: 2,153 Forumite
    no-oneknowsme wrote: »
    Most newish phones can access the internet.

    Have you considered using a program on your pc which can tell you EVERYTHING he has been saying/doing/looking at online?

    I can pm you the name of a program which can do this if you are interested.

    You really shouldn't be with anyone if you're having to go to those lengths.
    Per Mare Per Terram
  • no-oneknowsme
    no-oneknowsme Posts: 1,955 Forumite
    relic wrote: »
    You really shouldn't be with anyone if you're having to go to those lengths.


    Think you will find that I am perfectly able to trust MY other half....it is the OP who has an issue in their relationship!
    The loopy one has gone :j
  • relic
    relic Posts: 2,153 Forumite
    no-oneknowsme wrote: »
    Think you will find that I am perfectly able to trust MY other half....it is the OP who has an issue in their relationship!

    I think you completely misread my post!
    Per Mare Per Terram
  • Evren
    Evren Posts: 33 Forumite
    If he's mature enough, and you are as well, then you should be able to talk about it like adults, facebook is terrible for worried people, and even worse when your SO doesnt want you to see things, it might just be embarrassment or something daft.
    Who knows what goes on in the minds of men.
    A work in progress. <3
  • dreavi
    dreavi Posts: 143 Forumite
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    no-oneknowsme wrote: »
    Most newish phones can access the internet.

    Have you considered using a program on your pc which can tell you EVERYTHING he has been saying/doing/looking at online?

    I can pm you the name of a program which can do this if you are interested.

    This seems like a surefire way to end a relationship, if I found such a program on my PC my girlfriend's stuff would be on the lawn.

    I have nothing discriminating in my inbox but if my girlfriend wanted to look I would say no it my private business
  • no-oneknowsme
    no-oneknowsme Posts: 1,955 Forumite
    relic wrote: »
    You really shouldn't be with anyone if you're having to go to those lengths.

    No Relic , I dont think I do need to re-read your post. Given that you said the above and quote ME then I think it was a safe bet for me to assume that you were referring to me!

    Just thought I would point out that I didnt have any trust issues in my relationship as the OP has.
    The loopy one has gone :j
  • no-oneknowsme
    no-oneknowsme Posts: 1,955 Forumite
    dreavi wrote: »
    This seems like a surefire way to end a relationship, if I found such a program on my PC my girlfriend's stuff would be on the lawn.

    I have nothing discriminating in my inbox but if my girlfriend wanted to look I would say no it my private business


    Ever heard the saying "those with nothing to hide HIDE NOTHING!

    Your Gf should be able to look at anything she wishes , be it emails , facebook or text messages. The same should go for you.

    If there is nothing in there that you shouldnt be have a problem with her being on there.

    Both myself and my Husband have the passwords to each others email accounts and both mobile phones are just left sitting around the house when we are at home and if one of them bleeps with a text then it is picked up and read by whoever happens to be closest to it at that particular time.

    At the end of the day neither of us have the worry that any text or email received will get us into "trouble" with the other one if it is read by them as we are confident that we are completely open , honest and transparent with the other.

    Isnt this how it should be with ALL relationships? I know it is how I like mine to be.....
    The loopy one has gone :j
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