Boyfriend help

relic

no-oneknowsme wrote: »

Given that you quoted ME in your reply I think it was fair of me to assume that it was me to whom you were referring......

Because your comment refered to using keyloggers in order to find out what the other half was doing. I wouldn't quote some random other post, when in fact I was replying to YOUR post.

scooby088

I think that if my OH asked to see my phone or any messages i had sent i'd say get lost too, it's not that i dont care what she does but she needs to have privacy too, if it's something important i am sure she would tell me and like wise i'd do the same.

no-oneknowsme

relic wrote: »

I wasn't refering to you, and I pointed that out in my second post.

relic wrote: »

I have explained now three times that the comment wasn't for you.

relic wrote: »

in fact I was replying to YOUR post.

Wow.....seems you are a little confused and undecided today relic!

So...which is it then...is it as in quote 1+2 that you WERNT referring to me and my post or is it as in quote 3 were you say that you were indeed referring to me!!!

Seems each post you make contradicts the previous one:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

relic

no-oneknowsme wrote: »

Wow.....seems you are a little confused and undecided today relic!

So...which is it then...is it as in quote 1+2 that you WERNT referring to me and my post or is it as in quote 3 were you say that you were indeed referring to me!!!

Seems each post you make contradicts the previous one:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Replying and refering aren't the same thing, you know?

I replied to the content in your post.

I wasn't refering to you in my replies.

Come on, if you want to go on a tirade using smileys, at least get the basic facts right. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Percy1983

no-oneknowsme wrote: »

Have you considered using a program on your pc which can tell you EVERYTHING he has been saying/doing/looking at online?

I can pm you the name of a program which can do this if you are interested.

relic wrote: »

You really shouldn't be with anyone if you're having to go to those lengths.

Just to stop you spamming this thread any further, you mentioned using keyloggers and relic said you should need to use them, I took the comment as a general comment about relationships to which you where quoted as being the one to suggest it. I didn't read it as an attack on you, to which you seem to think it was and keep defending something which was never attacked, please drop it.

The_Rizler

Please, no-oneknows me and relic, enough already we get the message(s), get back to the OP's issue.

Rizler

kaz0705

I've skimmed through but I don't think you say how old you are? But this sounds very much like my first big relationship when I was 17-21.

I would hazard a guess that he's been in contact with his ex or other girls and been doing some online FB flirting. It is more than likely just ego-boosting stuff, if- as you say- he's not one for going out.

Guess its down to you where a line gets drawn. Is online flirting acceptable to you? And how far does the flirting go (hard to know without seeing the messages but worth considering). My 'first love' (I laugh about it now whilst cringing about the stuff I let him get away with) texted a girl saying she was 'his number one girl' and stuff like that. Not acceptable really!

Regardless of this specific issue, I always advise people to use the percentage rule: If you're unhappy for more than 20% of the time, the relationship is unlikely to be worth it (funnily enough, when I was 22 or so, this was 60/40 but as I've had more and better relationships I would say 20% is the minimum. When I'm feeling smug, I'd say my boyfriend makes me happy 96% of the time!).

anyway, you're probably not going mad, you're instincts are probably right. He most likely hasn't physically cheated on you but he's very likely to be flirting online (and couldnt remember if he'd deleted recent incriminating messages or not!).

Best of luck.

Kaz

no-oneknowsme

The_Rizler wrote: »

Please, no-oneknows me and relic, enough already we get the message(s), get back to the OP's issue.

Rizler

How nice of you to use only your SECOND post on the site to tell others what to do.......

Please mind your own!

no-oneknowsme

relic wrote: »

Replying and refering aren't the same thing, you know?

I replied to the content in your post.

I wasn't refering to you in my replies.

Come on, if you want to go on a tirade using smileys, at least get the basic facts right. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Ever heard the phrase "grasping at straws" ? How childish are you!:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

no-oneknowsme

RELIC - Could I respectfully ask you to refrain from sending me derogatory private messages please.

Thank you.