Boyfriend help

justanotherregularuser

I am as my user name suggest another regular user hiding. Earlier on i was on facebook and my boyfriend was messing around asking to look at my messages. I have nothing to hide so i let him have a look and there was nothing interesting for him to look at. I the jokingly said let me look at yours now see what secrets you have. The look on his face was a picture. :eek: So i pushed a bit more and insisted that he log in and let me look. He really didn't want to and tried to tell me that he couldn't remember his password etc but eventually he did log in. He reluctantly showed me a few of the messages at the top and then closed the page and refused to go back saying he'd shown me what i wanted to see. He didn't log out though and later on i reopened the page and managed to read his messages. There was nothing there to worry me at all and if he'd just have shown me in the first place then there wouldn't have been a problem. We've just spoken now and he said he was worried about messages that other people had sent him coming on to him. So i said that would have been fine because he would of course have being saying thanks but no thanks. :rotfl::mad: Now he's turning it all on me and saying that i don't trust him and that he does so much for me i should just leave him alone etc and got angry with me.

I don't even know why i'm posting this cause i know what everyone will say. I think i just need to confirm i'm not mad and he has got something to hide cause he's very good at making everything my fault.

minnie123

The first thing that springs to my mind is he has deleted the dodgy messages in between showing you the top few and you looking at it later. Sorry it sounds like he deleted them then left it open for you to look at later. If he is angry that makes me think he is guilty.

leos-mummy

Some men are good at digging holes for themselves! The way I see it if they've nothing to hide then they shouldn't!

Money_maker

Sounds a little odd but at the end of the day, if there's no other strange behaviour then perhaps just assume that you are making a mountain out of a molehill.

In the 'good old days' before facebook, couples could generally tell if there was a problem inside their relationship. If its good in every other respect then forget about it and trust him.

relic

Facebook is honestly the worst thing that has ever happened, ever.

justanotherregularuser

He can't have deleted them because he closed his page and then went out and i went straight on the computer to see if he'd logged out which he hadn't. He was worried about something, i think he couldn't remember what messages he'd deleted and which ones he hadn't especially because fb is saving all the chat as messages too now.

justanotherregularuser

It wouldn't be the first time he's done something like this. He's really secretive with his phone too and it never leaves his pocket when i'm around.

themull1

justanotherregularuser wrote: »

It wouldn't be the first time he's done something like this. He's really secretive with his phone too and it never leaves his pocket when i'm around.

Thats how it started with my ex..the old 'lets never let my phone out of my sight routine'....

roadiegirl

Me and my boyfriend have a 'no looking at each others' messages thing, because we trust each other not to be messing about, and if the other wanted to look they'd be more than welcome too! I don't let him look at mine as me and and a few friends regularly talk about our boyfriends (large friendship circle), and I wouldn't want him going telling the lads what they had said, and vice versa!
If I were you, I'd let it lie a bit, then maybe in a few weeks you bring up the conversation like "ooo lets have a look at your messages then!", and if he gets cagey, then I'd re-approach the subject in a different manner.

Money_maker

justanotherregularuser wrote: »

It wouldn't be the first time he's done something like this. He's really secretive with his phone too and it never leaves his pocket when i'm around.

Well that sounds more like you have a problem, now. Time for a little snooping. Is he out with the lads much, late from work etc?

justanotherregularuser

No he's not really, he doesn't go out much at all. The times before it's always been online like this but different sites.