babys ears pierced

bestpud

Wow, she wouldn't be having my child again!

That is truly shocking!!

FWIW I hate seeing babies with pierced ears as it looks awful, and I think it's painful to have them done!

mich13x

Neddy_Seagoon wrote: »

..I'm not convinced you get how serious this is?

I assure you i do, but i will not be reporting my MIL to the police or anything if thats the lines you are going down.

balletshoes

mich13x wrote: »

No he hasnt dismissed them, and he also feels that our daughter was too young but that me giving his mum a mouthful earlier was enough to stop her doing anything like that again, whereas i feel we need to talk to her about what she can and cant do while the children are in her care (which isnt very often)

I agree with you there - you as the parents of your children clearly need to spell out to your MIL what she can and cannot do while she is looking after your children. Whats scary is that you have to consider what this is now and what it may be in the future, because your MIL obviously has an issue with boundaries and limits :eek:.

lessonlearned

No, no, no, you have not over-reacted. I too would have gone ballistic.

I also suggest you investigate this and take it further, trading standards, etc.

Your OH needs to wake up too. The haircut was bad enough, now the ears - what on earth next.

Is she right in the head???!!!

Tackle her again about this - (try not to swear but God knows you were well justified). Try and keep calm when you talk to her. Give her an ultimatum - no messing with my children or no access - full stop. Make it plain you mean business.

If she won't comply - then it's up to you - but I would be taking out an injunction. You would be perfectly within your legal rights to do this.

She may have paid your house deposit but she didn't buy you or your children.

Totally unacceptable.

relic

I suggest inviting her over, let her sleep in a spare room, then shave her head and draw a moustache.

When she wakes up totally ignore it!

balletshoes

relic wrote: »

I suggest inviting her over, let her sleep in a spare room, then shave her head and draw a moustache.

When she wakes up totally ignore it!

:T:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

delain

Neddy_Seagoon wrote: »

...homicidal? no, where am I? This was totally wrong end of story...no excuses...hey you justify it if you can....I struggle and can't.

Home and safe with mum...that makes it okay to abuse your grandchild then?

Errr... no. I didn't say that!

I gave my ex mil a shedload of grief for cutting my DD1's hair (herself!!) so it went diagonally up her forehead and was at her eyebrows at one end and half a inch long at the other.

There is no telling what I would have said to her if she had peirced their ears. She is not English, ear piercing babies is more common where she is from and i did make perfectly clear that in the UK it's considered to be 'common' lol just so that it didn't come up!

ETA When you have made ten posts the newbie thing goes away. 4 more to go for you

make_me_wise

Put some hair remover on her eyebrows too then she can look like a proper egg head.

Dont forget to use some pliers and pierce her nose, then put a ring through it.

relic

Neddy_Seagoon wrote: »

...what's this newbie alert crap on the left of my posts...can I opt out?

No, you are a newbie, therefore you have the newbie alert poster!

Silly newbie! :xmassign:

kevin_M

Wow

I might be overacting but hell if my MIL ever did that with my daughter or son I would never talk to her again. Or at lest not take my daughter out ever again.

TBH I dont think the shop has done wrong as you MIL prob signed the consent form.

My daughter who's 9 now got hers done a few years ago and that's only because she asked to get them done. If my OH wanted done earlier I would of let her. BUT its your choice as the kids mother.

What's going to happen next when she's 16 is you MIL going to take her for a tattoo?
Best to set the boundaries now and not let yourself being walked over. Your MIL was 100% in the wrong. Who cares what you told your MIL you where upset and had good right to be.