babys ears pierced

delain

Money_maker wrote: »

My jaw dropped open when I read the OP - OMG!

She'd get a bit more than swearing by me. On a 9 month old - is she nuts? Who did the piercing - surely shops don't do babies at the drop of a hat?

Apparently they do... this has come up a few times on a parenting forum I visit.

You'd think they'd want parental consent (my mum had to come with me when I had mine done at 11) but now they don't seem to care!

Valli

peardrops wrote: »

Your husband needs to grow a back bone and your MIL needs to apologise to YOU for having a pin effectively shot through your baby daughter's ear lobe.

She may have donated money to you for your house deposit, this does not give her the go ahead to harming and disfiguring your child. At least you only swore at her - that isn't permanent, what she did was a permanent disfigurement.

ditto to this

I would have gone BALLISTIC - I remember being HORRIFIED when my friend told me her MIL cut her soon's hair while she was 'looking after' him.

I would ALSO be finding out WHERE the piercing had taken place and would be kicking up a mega fuss that they allow ANYBODY to walk in of the street and get piercings done to infants - surely your MIL didn't pass herself off as the mother of your baby to do this...

Two pages in and NO-ONE thinks your MIL was in the right? Result!

fannyanna

And with regards to your OH...........

My husband is a bit of a p*ssy (bless him ) and wouldn't say boo to a goose. I've just asked what he'd do if we were in this situation and even he has said that he'd go mental at his Mum.

So if I were you and be fuming with the MIL and the OH!

Queen_Of_The_Jungle

Seriously though I would be fuming, really fuming and would let all and sundry know, away from the children. I am going mad for you here!!!

whitewing

pleasedelete wrote: »

Ypu were right to take them out. I have seen so many children with torn lobes scarred for life where earrings are pulled when young.

She must have signed something at the shop to say she gave permission

Well the shop should have checked more carefully. Shop has no excuse as far as I'm concerned. I'd put in a complaint.

vax2002

How did the shop doing the piercing obtain parental permission and know if she has any allergies ?
A quick call to council licensing department may be in order here as well.

belfastgirl23

I think you should apologise to her for swearing (as an opener to enable her to apologise) and explain that you were, and still are, incredibly upset about what she did. I would then be expecting an apology in return for her overstepping her limits. At the bare minimum I would need a solemn promise that she will ask before she does anything semi-permanent to either of your children again. And not let her be alone with them till she made such a promise.

This is truly awful behaviour!

peachyprice

She's not talking to you? Tough titties, she shouldn't have done that to your baby.

Did she get the stuff to bathe the ears with? Best to do this for a while until the holes close.

Queen_Of_The_Jungle

Why did she not just punch the baby in the face?? Its abuse, poor baby! The pain it must have felt.

mich13x

whitewing wrote: »

I would be livid. There is no way I would let her have baby unsupervised again.

Who actually did the piercing? I would be putting in a complaint there too. They should not be piercing children without parents' written consent, surely?

She had her ears done at a beauty salon on the high street near where she lives. I dont use this salon but i walk by it regularly so i will be popping in to have a word with the girl that did it. My MIL doesnt look particularly old so she could maybe have passed my daughter off as hers but i didnt get to ask her, she was out the door as soon as i said the f word I dont normally swear but i was very upset...

OH telling me i overreacted made me doubt myself a little as i do tend to do that alot where the children are concerned but this thread has reassured me and i will be making sure my MIL understands this sort of thing isnt on.