babys ears pierced

Hard_up,_not_happy

My mil would still be circling the solar system such would be the force of my kick up her a!s" if she did this to my kids.

OP the first thing id be worried about is where this was done. No reputable ear piercing business would do this to such a young baby, who was so obviously not with its parents. I'd be very concerned about the state of the needle that might have been used.

Phone your MIL now and ask her where exactly this was done and leave her in no doubt how furious you are.

Any

I feel this is not about WHAT was done (as said,some cultures believe it's better earlier rather then later as the child won't remember),, but that someone decided that it is their decision to do so.
It is complete breach of trust, your MIL is NOT in position to make these kind of decisions without consulting you!!
I would go bonkers and quite possibly told her the same as you!

balletshoes

fannyanna wrote: »

And with regards to your OH...........

My husband is a bit of a p*ssy (bless him ) and wouldn't say boo to a goose. I've just asked what he'd do if we were in this situation and even he has said that he'd go mental at his Mum.

So if I were you and be fuming with the MIL and the OH!

Hmm I'm not sure the OPs OH deserves a tongue-lashing over the head of this - his mum was totally totally wrong and should be thoroughly ashamed of herself. But the OH might not feel strongly about it either way (I know for example my OH wouldn't lose sleep over it, as its in his culture for girls to have their ears pierced very young). OP you gave MIL a good telling-off, as was your absolute right to do - good on you.

LittleMissMPB

I would have done the same thing as you. You didn't over react at all, in fact, if it was me it would be a very long time till I let her see the children outside of my own house (and even that would only be for the kids sake). My daughter is almost 4 and has started asking for earings, but the answer is still no as I don't think she fully understands what it is, when she is old enough to ask for it, understand exactly what is involved and how to take care of it herself, then I will say yes. I had to wait until I was 16.

I'm sure I've seen something on here before, about getting a letter from a solicitor saying about haircuts on children without parental permission can be classed as assult when the children didn't want it done? If they ask it may be different - however a 9month old is certainly not able to ask to have her ears peirced. Is it worth getting one of those letters, regarding both children, about haircuts, peircings and anything else you can think of? (I really don't want to suggest having tattoos on there as I really hope it wouldn't be necessary...)

In fact... I would be tempted to hold her down and force her to get a(nother?) peircing... but that's just me. I understand that in some cultures it's normal, and some parents like it by choice, but I can't help but think that it's just causing pain to a baby who can't understand why it hurts.

Queen_Of_The_Jungle

Just reading this thread has made me angry and stressed out for you. You are not over reacting and hopefully from the responses made here you can see that you were totally normal with your motherly reactions x

pleasedelete

whitewing wrote: »

Well the shop should have checked more carefully. Shop has no excuse as far as I'm concerned. I'd put in a complaint.

Hi. I think you took my post the wrong way. I meant that she must have lied on the form- possibly said she was the parent?

I imagine there may be some element of law breaking in what she did. Did she claim parental responsibility?

I think you get a copy to take away of the forms?

whitewing

mich13x wrote: »

She had her ears done at a beauty salon on the high street near where she lives. I dont use this salon but i walk by it regularly so i will be popping in to have a word with the girl that did it. My MIL doesnt look particularly old so she could maybe have passed my daughter off as hers but i didnt get to ask her, she was out the door as soon as i said the f word I dont normally swear but i was very upset...
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I would put in a major complaint with the owner/manager, and even the police.

I am still really angry on your behalf.

As for your OH, my goodness, I'd be cross with him too for thinking it's no big deal. It's not that it's MIL (well, that would be a factor), it could be anyone. Did OH know she was thinking about it?

Any

mich13x wrote: »

She had her ears done at a beauty salon on the high street near where she lives. I dont use this salon but i walk by it regularly so i will be popping in to have a word with the girl that did it. My MIL doesnt look particularly old so she could maybe have passed my daughter off as hers but i didnt get to ask her, she was out the door as soon as i said the f word I dont normally swear but i was very upset...

OH telling me i overreacted made me doubt myself a little as i do tend to do that alot where the children are concerned but this thread has reassured me and i will be making sure my MIL understands this sort of thing isnt on.

Your OH needs to grow a pair.
If my OH said this to me, he would get possibly the same choice of words as your MIL.
His mummy might be making decisions for him, but in no way, shape or form is she entitled to make decisions for me!!

jackieb

That's plain cruel. I would be fuming.

whitewing

pleasedelete wrote: »

Hi. I think you took my post the wrong way. I meant that she must have lied on the form- possibly said she was the parent?

I imagine there may be some element of law breaking in what she did.

If MIL did sign as the parent, that would be so creepy. Still it would be as well to get a copy of the written evidence!

OP, I know we're not helping, but try to calm down so little 'un gets more settled, they can tell when mum is upset. You can deal with it on Monday.