babys ears pierced

relic

What an idiot, honestly she shouldn't be looking after anybody if she thinks that sort of thing is okay.

BigBlackcat

You are definitely NOT overreaccting. That would be the last time MIL ever got to look after my child. I am furious for you!

ovoreo

I'm nearly 30 and hate the idea of getting my ears pierced so the thought of a defenceless 9mth old is making me upset! Especially as this has been done to your child but somebody you trust! I think MIL must understand how this has made you feel and what a bad decision it was. Just to make sure she doesn't made any poor decisions about your child in the future. Even if she would peirce her own child's ears it has no bearing whatsoever on your child. I really feel for you. x

balletshoes

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

I too would be livid and as a granny I would never even think of doing this without the parents consent, and definitely not to a 9 month baby. Just wondered whether it could be cultural though, are the in-laws travellers and maybe that's why she thought she was doing you a favour, no excuse even if they are tho.

you're right, thats no excuse - and even if it was cultural on MIL's part, you'd have thought if she thought she was doing OP a favour she would have discussed it with her and her OH before going off and getting it done! OP I'd really struggle to leave my baby alone with a MIL who would do something like that - goodness only knows what she'd take on herself to do next time :eek:!

gravitytolls

Absolutely outrageous! As others have said, I'd be inclined to remove and allow them to heal.

Wicked, stupid, selfish woman.

mich13x

I took the earrings out immediately, apart from the fact i dont like the look of earrings on babies, i also dont want to risk infection.

Shes had a pattern shaved on my sons hair before that i didnt appreciate but wasnt as big of a deal because it wasnt painful or permanent.

OH hates causing a fuss about anything but particulary because his mother is very good to us in regards to money ( gave us a lump sum towards our house deposit a few years ago) which of course i appreciate but i cant just let this one go.

Shes not talking to us now because i swore at her earlier on but i dont feel she has the right to huff and i certainly dont feel i should be the one to make up!

Plans_all_plans

Well OP, I think it's unanimous (a rarity on here) that you haven't overreacted!!!

Whether or not people agree with some of our perceptions of children with pierced ears, it's clear that EVERYONE has a problem with her disrespecting you by not seeking consent in the first place.

You need to take them out in my opinion, otherwsie she'll think she has carte blanche to do what she wants.

ETA: just read she got a pattern shaved on your son's head previously...I have an image in my head of the sort of person she is now. You seriously can't let this go.

make_me_wise

mich13x wrote: »

My MIL was looking after my nine month old daughter for us today and returned her to us with pierced ears.

I am just so upset about this, i did not want my daughter to have her ears pierced until she was old enough to ask herself. MIL didnt see anything wrong and was acting as though she did me a favour!

I admit i got angry and gave her a few choice words i maybe shouldnt have but i felt she overstepped the mark. Shes always a pushy woman but this has went too far for me. OH prefers to stick his head in the sand and told me i was being too harsh on his mum and to just let it go, but i cant this time im too upset. I feel she has breached my trust in her.

Does anyone else think i have overreacted? Any thoughts on babies having their ears pierced in general?

To top it off bubs is normally sleeping by 7 but has been very grouchy and hard to settle tonight i think her little ears are sore

If my monster-in-law dares do that to my baby when its born I would go beserk.

To try to make you smile thank god she left it at just the ears. She could have gone the whole hog and got a belly, tongue and eye brow piercing done to complete the look.

Dont let them out alone again your dd might come back with a tattoo.

*Robin*

Is your MIL from a culture that routinely pierces baby girls' ears? (My Spanish DIL brought her newborn daughter home from the maternity hospital with pierced ears, which shocked me a bit, but she said it was quite normal).
Even if it is usual in MIL's culture, I absolutely agree that the woman had no right to do such a thing without your express permission.
I would remove the earrings, make sure the wounds are clean and let the baby's ears heal.
MIL shouldn't be surprised when she's only allowed supervised access from now on.

mich13x

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

I too would be livid and as a granny I would never even think of doing this without the parents consent, and definitely not to a 9 month baby. Just wondered whether it could be cultural though, are the in-laws travellers and maybe that's why she thought she was doing you a favour, no excuse even if they are tho.

No not a cultural thing and she isnt a traveller, just one of those people who thinks she knows best all the time