babys ears pierced

mich13x

My MIL was looking after my nine month old daughter for us today and returned her to us with pierced ears.

I am just so upset about this, i did not want my daughter to have her ears pierced until she was old enough to ask herself. MIL didnt see anything wrong and was acting as though she did me a favour!

I admit i got angry and gave her a few choice words i maybe shouldnt have but i felt she overstepped the mark. Shes always a pushy woman but this has went too far for me. OH prefers to stick his head in the sand and told me i was being too harsh on his mum and to just let it go, but i cant this time im too upset. I feel she has breached my trust in her.

Does anyone else think i have overreacted? Any thoughts on babies having their ears pierced in general?

To top it off bubs is normally sleeping by 7 but has been very grouchy and hard to settle tonight i think her little ears are sore

delain

mich13x wrote: »

My MIL was looking after my nine month old daughter for us today and returned her to us with pierced ears.

I am just so upset about this, i did not want my daughter to have her ears pierced until she was old enough to ask herself. MIL didnt see anything wrong and was acting as though she did me a favour!

I admit i got angry and gave her a few choice words i maybe shouldnt have but i felt she overstepped the mark. Shes always a pushy woman but this has went too far for me. OH prefers to stick his head in the sand and told me i was being too harsh on his mum and to just let it go, but i cant this time im too upset. I feel she has breached my trust in her.

Does anyone else think i have overreacted? Any thoughts on babies having their ears pierced in general?

To top it off bubs is normally sleeping by 7 but has been very grouchy and hard to settle tonight i think her little ears are sore

I would have gone absolutely bonkers, so you're not alone!

fannyanna

I would be fuming. My MIL would NEVER EVER do that!!!

piglet6

For what its worth, I don't think you have overreacted. In your place I would be furious - I don't like to see tiny babies/toddlers with pierced ears either, and I would probably have accused MIL of mutilating my baby!

I know she is family, but if a baby's ears are going to be pierced, I think it should at least be Mum & Dad's decision, and no further removed than that...

I'd probably casually drop into the next conversation with MIL that I would prefer it if she could leave any plans for tattoos until the child can at least walk!

P x

4nnabella

Oh my god, I would be spitting feathers!

Can you take the earrings out and let them heal over?

tanith

If it had been me I would of hit the roof and then some... how dare anyone and I include grandparents in that, disfigure a 9mth old baby never mind without permission.. I think babies/small children with pierced ears look awful apart from it being damaging and damn painful.. no wonder the poor mite is grouchy.... it would take me an awful long time ,if ever to forgive someone who did that to my child... what was she thinking.. can't believe that your OH is just going to accept this without a word...

Plans_all_plans

Well I know in some cultures they do pierce the children's ears early, but I must admit in my opinion, young children with pierced ears look chavvy.

If I were you I'd take them out and let them heal up. I'd also ring her tomorrow and tell her if she goes near your child again and does something like this without your consent then you will not let her have unsupervised access.

I'd have hit the roof if anyone did that to my child (whatever age they were ) if I'd not consented to it. You are within your rights to give her what for. You need to nip this sort of thing in the bud with her, otherwise you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of her undermining you.

Even if your husband wasn't against the idea of piercing her ears, he needs to spell out to his mum that she CANNOT do these things without you consenting.

peardrops_2

Oh my god - I would be absolutely LIVID! I'm having a battle with myself regarding letting my 12 year old son have this done - if he went to stay at my MIL's house and came home with them I would screw!

That surely is abuse of some sort? I don't know what to suggest because what I would do would probably be an arrestable offence!

Ms_Chocaholic

I too would be livid and as a granny I would never even think of doing this without the parents consent, and definitely not to a 9 month baby. Just wondered whether it could be cultural though, are the in-laws travellers and maybe that's why she thought she was doing you a favour, no excuse even if they are tho.

redpete

Sticking needles in a baby's ears is a ridiculous thing for anyone to do, even more so for someone who is not the baby's parent, even more so without getting permission first.

peachyprice

mich13x wrote: »

Does anyone else think i have overreacted? Any thoughts on babies having their ears pierced in general?

Absolutely not. Your MIL was serioulsy out of order assaulting your child like that. Disgraceful.

I hope you've taken them out. Poor little mite must be so uncomfortable