babys ears pierced

pleasedelete

Checked. You need parental permission (or a legal guardian).

Either she lied or the shop didn't comply. Or both.

I would report it to trading standards

make_me_wise

mich13x wrote: »

Shes not talking to us now because i swore at her earlier on but i dont feel she has the right to huff and i certainly dont feel i should be the one to make up!

Enjoy the peace and quiet, at least whilst she is not speaking to you, you dont have to listen to her waffle. Seriously the crazy bint is well out of order. If I had assaulted someones child, which is pretty much what she has done, I would expect far more than the odd swear word to be thrown at me.

Until she acknowledges just how awfully she has behaved and apologises have nothing to do with her. As for hubby burying his head in the sand and not liking confrontation - he needs to grow a back bone, stick up for you and your child and tell her to fcuk off.

Any

balletshoes wrote: »

Hmm I'm not sure the OPs OH deserves a tongue-lashing over the head of this - his mum was totally totally wrong and should be thoroughly ashamed of herself. But the OH might not feel strongly about it either way (I know for example my OH wouldn't lose sleep over it, as its in his culture for girls to have their ears pierced very young). OP you gave MIL a good telling-off, as was your absolute right to do - good on you.

Even so, if the mother (ie OP) is not happy he has no right to dissmis her feelings.

mich13x

whitewing wrote: »

I would put in a major complaint with the owner/manager, and even the police.

I am still really angry on your behalf.

As for your OH, my goodness, I'd be cross with him too for thinking it's no big deal. It's not that it's MIL (well, that would be a factor), it could be anyone. Did OH know she was thinking about it?

No he didnt know, shes never mentioned it to us before, she had her for 3 hours and went to get her own eyebrows waxed then did it on the spur of the moment :mad:

When she dropped bubs home, i admit she was her usual happy little self so i think OH has just thought well shes ok now no harm done. But later at bed time i could tell her ears were annoying her even with the earrings out.

Ill be bathing her ears everyday until they are fully healed.

balletshoes

Any wrote: »

Even so, if the mother is not happy he has no right to dissmis her feelings.

Did he dismiss your feelings OP? I know you said he thought you'd overreacted, but does he agree with you that his MIL was wrong now you've told him how upset you are about it and why?

pleasedelete

Report them to trading standards. They then decide whether to involve the police etc. That way you are not reporting mil but are just reporting the salon. A visit from trading standards or police may well be enough to stop her in the future.

delain

Neddy_Seagoon wrote: »

..I'm not convinced you get how serious this is?

We are all angry on the OP's behalf... we are not feeling homicidal like you seem to be!

Yes the OP's daughter had something horrible done to her, but she is now home and safe with mum, not in intensive care, so you don't need to be so angry, really

mich13x

balletshoes wrote: »

Did he dismiss your feelings OP? I know you said he thought you'd overreacted, but does he agree with you that his MIL was wrong now you've told him how upset you are about it and why?

No he hasnt dismissed them, and he also feels that our daughter was too young but that me giving his mum a mouthful earlier was enough to stop her doing anything like that again, whereas i feel we need to talk to her about what she can and cant do while the children are in her care (which isnt very often)

pleasedelete

But the shop shouldn't have done it.

ellay864

Don't think I've seen a thread with 4 pages all supporting OP. No you didn't over-react at all...in fact if you'd had the same reaction to your son's hair shaving I wouldn't have blamed you. It just isn't her place to do things like that with your children without getting the OK from you or your OH. And as your OH won't stand up to her you need to spell it out to her that she needs to check with BOTH of you, not just him. Tel her if she wants to do something for the kids she can buy them clothes or toys (that you can always accidentally lose, wash too hot or break if you don't like ) but she absolutely is not to do anything involving them, their hair etc.
If it was me I'd not be letting her alone with them for a while and make very sure she knows why