babys ears pierced

polejunkie

I have had my fair share of family over stepping the mark but if my BABY was returned to me with pierced ears I would be on a assault charge, I hate hate hate seeing babies with ear rings, I had mine done at 15 and they were so painful I dread to think how your baby is feeling.

tanith

I hope baby had a good night and that her ears are soon healed... and also that MIL rings up repentant and sorry for what she did...

aliasojo

Just > :eek:

Apology or not, if it were me, that would be the last time the baby was ever left alone with Granny I'm afraid.

It seems obvious from this incident and the hair one that Granny doesn't view things the way most people would so I would never be able to trust her to make the right judgement on any future potential issues tbh.

make_me_wise

How is your little girl this morning OP? Hope you both had a settled night.

Alot of posters, myself included, have suggested speaking again with the mil. I think that could cause additional stress to be honest. She sounds like a very thick (skinned) individual and comes across as someone who sees her way as right, disregarding anyone elses opinion. I would advise writing her a letter expressing how her behaviour has made you feel and that you no longer trust her alone around your children. She cannot ignore what is written in black and white. Put the earings back in the enevelope.

You get to say all you want to this way without her getting huffy and annoyed and ignoring half of it.

mich13x

make_me_wise wrote: »

How is your little girl this morning OP? Hope you both had a settled night.

Alot of posters, myself included, have suggested speaking again with the mil. I think that could cause additional stress to be honest. She sounds like a very thick (skinned) individual and comes across as someone who sees her way as right, disregarding anyone elses opinion. I would advise writing her a letter expressing how her behaviour has made you feel and that you no longer trust her alone around your children. She cannot ignore what is written in black and white. Put the earings back in the enevelope.

You get to say all you want to this way without her getting huffy and annoyed and ignoring half of it.

Bubs didnt have a very good night, she was very unsettled, so much so that she ended up in bed with me for the first time ever so as not to wake her brother as they still share a room at the moment.

After the lack of sleep OH is now slightly more annoyed at his mother as he can see now that bubs is upset. She called this morning to confirm details for lunch today, its FILs birthday and they have invited us over. She never mentioned yesterdays events but when OH told her how upset bubs was overnight, she said something along the lines of "oh my little girl, granny will give her a cuddle later" and that was about it.

Definately will be making it crystal clear to her today how unacceptable her actions were, although i will be keeping calm so as not to ruin FILs day. I would write to her but she would probably just dismiss this as me being melo dramatic anyway, this womans always right, in her mind at least.

j.e.j.

I haven't read all the posts in this thread, but OMG :eek:

Are they even allowed to pierce a 9-month-old baby's ears without parental permission?? Evidently they did!

Hopefully all will be ok and no infection, etc, but i might just mention it to the doctor next time you go, - tell him/her what happened.

Have you broached the subject with other family members? Would they all think what M-I-L did was perfectly ok, too?

Blue_Monkey

I'm outraged she did this... I wouldn't trust her to look after my children again. Good for you for "keeping the peace" at FIL's lunch... Have you any idea how you'll move forward from here? I'd be tempted to leave it for now and next time she thinks she'll be taking the kids out, I'd say "sorry, after last time I just don't trust you to respect me as their mother, so I'm not comfortable with you spending time with the kids without me or OH there". No drama, just truth. If there is drama off the back of that, it'll will be her creating, not you... Good luck. She sounds like a right piece of work.

Valli

This must be a first for the forum

EVERY poster has agreed with OP - WOW!

OP are you going to report the salon to trading standards and/or the council?

If it were me I would.

Mind you I'd have phoned the MIL up in the middle of the night when the baby was crying and pointing out, in no uncertain terms, that I held her responsible for the state of the poor, unsettled baby - if MY night was going to be disturbed hers would have been, too;)

busiscoming2

You did not overreact at all. You should not apologise, the fact you swore at her (when you don't usually) shows her how annoyed you were.

The fact now is that you will never quite trust her again. Her loss I'm sure.

I'd probably tell her I couldn't go for dinner as the little one is 'unwell'.

pulliptears

mich, pick up some sea salt and use that in warm water. if you can keep the ear soaked for a minute or two all the better. Dab dry with kitchen roll. Please dont be tempted to put any creams on etc as they clog the hole and could lead to infection. A good salt water soak twice a day should heal it in no time with the studs out.

As for your MIL, I'm afraid I can't post my thoughts on a family forum...