babys ears pierced

clairec79

I don't remember having to sign anything when I took my 5 year old to have her ears pierced, (but then both she and I were asking for it and she was calling me Mummy so I guess there was implied verbal consent) so there may not be a way to prove she lied and forged parental consent.

I would likely apologise for lying but inform them she will never be left alone with one of my children again until I feel they are old enough/she has proved herself, and if that involved me taking them with me to the toilet whenever we met so be it

viktory

Your MIL was most certainly way out of line in having your child's ear pierced - but man, there has been some serious overreactions on here. Some are actually quite disturbing. For example:

Neddy_Seagoon wrote: »

....she'd be wearing my size 9's so far up her a r s e her teeth would spell ADIDAS. I'd speak to the police and see if anything could be done...this is child abuse.

Queen_Of_The_Jungle wrote: »

Why did she not just punch the baby in the face?? Its abuse, poor baby! The pain it must have felt.

Hard_up,_not_happy wrote: »

My mil would still be circling the solar system such would be the force of my kick up her a!s" if she did this to my kids.

LittleMissMPB wrote: »

In fact... I would be tempted to hold her down and force her to get a(nother?) peircing... but that's just me.

And my personal favourite:

make_me_wise wrote: »

Put some hair remover on her eyebrows too then she can look like a proper egg head.

Dont forget to use some pliers and pierce her nose, then put a ring through it.

Best advice, was this:

belfastgirl23 wrote: »

I think you should apologise to her for swearing (as an opener to enable her to apologise) and explain that you were, and still are, incredibly upset about what she did. I would then be expecting an apology in return for her overstepping her limits. At the bare minimum I would need a solemn promise that she will ask before she does anything semi-permanent to either of your children again. And not let her be alone with them till she made such a promise.

This is truly awful behaviour!

RacyRed

Make sure you do nothing to save MIL's ear drums if bubs starts screaming during the family lunch.

And make absolutely certain MIL understands that she was completely out of line on this one and will no longer be trusted alone with your children.

What the hell posessed her to even think that was a good idea! :eek:

relic

viktory wrote: »

Your MIL was most certainly way out of line in having your child's ear pierced - but man, there has been some serious overreactions on here. Some are actually quite disturbing. For example:










And my personal favourite:



Best advice, was this:

Considering your avatar, you don't quite get sarcasm very well, do you?

the_cat

The absolute LAST thing I would be doing today is a family get together!

I'd be incapable of remaining calm.... if I didn't give her both barrels verbally, I might just resort to physical. Ok so its FIL birthday, so what?
It's about time she had a consequence to acting like that!

make_me_wise

relic wrote: »

Considering your avatar, you don't quite get sarcasm very well, do you?

Well said, my thoughts exactly.

consumers_revenge

Bring the MIL and OH round to me..

I've got a electric handy nail gun in the shed and I can do her ears for you...

and if your OH doesnt grow a bigger set I can put a nail in those too....

Hope you and little one are now ok.

shelley_crow

The impression that I get of this woman, based on what you have said is that she probably won't apologise, she won't see what she has done as wrong. If she does apologise, if will be very half !!!!!d and just an attempt to placate you. If she was my kids grandmother, she would not be left unsupervised with my children again. She has not taken your or your childrens feeling or views into consideration before ploughing ahead with what she wants, this is a recipe for disaster, as you have found.

I would not go to the meal. Don't pu$$yfoot around and pander to her, people like her need information directly and straight between the eyes, don't mince your words. Say what you mean and make sure there is no room for misunderstanding.

FWIW i would personlly be reporting it to the police, if someone pinned her down and pierced her skin without her permission, I'm sure she'd have something to say about it, why is it any different because she did it to a child?

ETA: the poster above with the nail gun has the right idea

onlyroz

Have just read this on a number of sites:

A person under the age of 18 years may receive body piercing provided that you have received written permission from, or the treatment is performed in the presence of, the person's parent or guardian.

So either granny pretended to be the baby's mother, or the shop performed the procedure without getting the proper consent.

jackieglasgow

OP have you read Gobbeldy Gook's adventures with her MIL? They sound like they are the same woman, I would not be letting her anywhere near my children again if it was me, I admire you for being prepared to go today so as not to upset FIL, again its not something I could have done, she deserves to feel the full force of your unhappiness, and if meant upsetting her husband to make the point to her about her behaviour, then so be it. Hopefully if he has any decency he would be of the same opinion as yourself. And FWIW I don't think it was a spur of the moment thing, it sounds like your children have become her trophies.