babys ears pierced

jpwhittle

Oh my word, seriously if that was my mother in law i would have screamed and shouted as well, im not a swearer either but this would cause me to, its out of order, and not just an abuse of the child but also of your ights. My daughter would never be allowed to stay in her company again. I dont let my children stay with my inlaws becase they once said they would put a lock on DS's bedroom door so he couldnt get out in the night.

I would have punched anyone that actually did something to my child that was permanant

kathy206

Bl00dy hell I wouldn't speak to my MIL again if she did that to my child! Your DH needs to tell her straight that this and the stupid shaving head thing she did to your son were WAY out of line and if she wants to see her grandchildren again she needs to back off and apologise.Your poor baby and her poor ears:(
I really don't know what goes through some people's minds when they think this sort of thing is a good idea:mad:

eta no matter how much money the stupid woman gave you, NO amount gives her the right to impose her views and "fashion" ideas on your children without your and your DH's express permission:mad:

shelley_crow

onlyroz wrote: »

Have just read this on a number of sites:



So either granny pretended to be the baby's mother, or the shop performed the procedure without getting the proper consent.

That's what my OH said when I read the OP out to him, she must have signed SOMETHING to say she gave her consent, OP do you know where she got your daughter's ears pierced? Could you go and ask them?

viktory

relic wrote: »

Considering your avatar, you don't quite get sarcasm very well, do you?

Yes.

Blah, blah, blah

marywooyeah

OP I wouldnt go to the meal. your MIL was so out of order and she caused your child pain and distress - theres no way you could sit and have a civilised dinner with her the day afterwards and its likely to descend into arguments - which is likely to spoil your FIL's birthday.
I would tell her you're not coming cos of what she did, that you don't apologise for swearing because it was an appropriate response to what she did! I'd also stress that you don't trust her to look after your daughter - who on earth would given what she's done? she also doesnt appear to be at all concerned with the pain caused to your daughter, the effect it's had on all of you last night in terms of upset/anger/hurt and the lack of sleep, and until she sees that she can p**s off! I'm shocked at her insensitivity and selfishness

Savvy_Sue

jackieglasgow wrote: »

And FWIW I don't think it was a spur of the moment thing, it sounds like your children have become her trophies.

I think you could be right!

I'm not sure I'd trust myself at a family do either. Yes, I'd apologise for swearing at her, because I always feel I'm stooping to someone else's level when I'm pushed into swearing, but I think I'd do it in writing, and send it with DH, and keep at least the baby home with me.

and I'd definitely communicate, in some shape or form, that she was NEVER going to be left alone with them again!

Does FIL stand up to her at all? If he's a reasonable man I'd get him on side too.

Violetta_2

Oh OP, your poor wee girl. Were there any developments over lunch? I honestly don't know what I would do if someone had done that to my child. I think I would get mil a tattoo or is it possible to get people branded (that would be really painful) with something like "BEWARE IDIOT" on her forehead.
I haven't spoken to my mil since Xmas it's been bliss, good luck.

Enterprise_1701C

I would probably just say nothing, but I would take the earrings out and let it heal over.

However, she would not look after her again without supervision, even if it was difficult for myself to manage.

Don't get me wrong, I would be furious, but I have had a similar experience. We took my son, complete with booster seat, to stay with his grandparents when he was about 2 (22 years ago, before rear seatbelt laws), and showed them how to put it into the front seat etc.

When we returned we had to remove the seat from the REAR seat (no seatbelt). Apparently they thought it was not so safe for him in the front seat, so decided to put him in the rear seat (set up to be catapaulted through the windscreen ), and when asked what if there had been an accident, apparently nanny was there to hold him!! More like squash him!)

They did not get to have him, or my daughter, again until they had a car with rear seatbelts - a good 2-3 years.

You have not overreacted, and it could actually be classed as assault.

purplephoenix85

Neddy_Seagoon wrote: »

...a nice tattoo next?....Gran maimed me?

That has a nice Jeremy Kyle ring to it!

Bloomin_Freezing2

OMG, stupid silly old b**ch! You've already been in her company today but I'd keep the kids away from her for a while and if she ever wanted to see them again she's not be left alone.

Of course, OP, you saw sense and removed the earrings. What on earth was she thinking??!!

My Grand MIL always thought she knew best, would physically remove my baby from my arms to squeeze, pass along to everyone who'd just returned inside from smoking, get in my babys face and make her cry etc. Last time she did any of that was over 4 years ago. I finally lost it on a phone call, let rip about everytime she'd done or said anything stupid and told her she'd never see my daughter again, have since had a 2nd she'll never see. Honestly I wish for the day she drops down dead!