babys ears pierced

melancholly

if it was a whim and not a big deal, having to sign something and lying that she was the guardian should have brought the reality home. that's pretty appalling to be honest.

whatever anyone's opinions are about what it looks like for a baby to have pierced ears, it's the choice of the parents. this is about so much more than the ear-rings, it's her thinking that she knows better, and then acting on it without even bothering to make a phone call. some MILs leave it at making comments, which is irritating enough. going off on her own like this without consulting anyone is shocking.

i hope she changes her behaviour and that this doesn't cause a rift that can't be healed. (and if it does, even if the rift is in the short term, remember that this is her fault - don't feel any guilt - most people in your situation would have used some fairly colourful language!! you don't need to feel bad that this situation occured)

candygirl

I'd have been absolutely fuming:mad::mad:I hate seeing babies with their ears pierced, it's cruel and I think kids should only have them pierced when they are old enough to make their own mind up:p:p

moodydonkey

Another one to agree, I would have gone mental. My MIL tried to baptise my child and I went mental.

Get your OH to stand up for you! And him! Your wishes as a family! She obviously doesn't see these boundaries so you need to set them. Probably again, it can't have been the first time she has bulldozered you.

I know it's just a repeat of many many post but just wanted to add support for op.

Dave101t

well its child abuse and assault, get her locked up.

rachel6188

my sisters ex-mil took my 6 month old niece out one day and brought her back with her ears done. my sister wouldn't allow her to have the kids after that alone xx - my sister had told her previously she didn't want the baby's ears pierced x

skylight

moodydonkey wrote: »

My MIL tried to baptise my child and I went mental.

I got angry just thinking about the ears.

That baptisim thing would have driven me almost mad.

balletshoes

moodydonkey wrote: »

My MIL tried to baptise my child and I went mental.

:eek: how far did she get?

rumdiddlyum

oh my god i think you are toatlly justfied in your response i would be mortified if my mil did that and would tell her she cant see the kids again im sorry but that is abuse if you tap your kids on the legs it wrong nowadays but to pierce her ears my god i can remeber having mine done when i was 12 and it hurt like hell and i was allergic so had to take them out and have them peirced with titanium studs and the people who peirce them should have not done it in the first place she could have got an infection, she cant tell you properly if she is well or not oh my god i couldnt beleive it when i read what you put and you want to tell you wuss of a OH to stand up to his mother that is pathetic oh my god i feel for you i would have killed her:mad:

meritaten

ceridwen wrote: »

...I'm guessing that his culture is a foreign one then - and not some "layer" or other in British culture iyswim??

I've no idea what's the norm in other countries - just what is expected in Britain and how to interpret accordingly...

its not uncommon in some European countries to have babies ears pierced. I have seen it in Italy and I think its common in Spain too.

Personally I abhor it - I almost fell out with a friend when she had her one year old daughters ears pierced - apparently she had seen locals babies when she was on holiday in Spain and thought it looked 'cute'. she was most offended when I told her I thought it was child abuse. Then I did fall out with her when she left her dogs locked in garage while she was on holiday for a fortnight and sent me a text asking me to feed and water them! I also fell out with the RSPCA who replied to my complaint about her abandoning the dogs with the immortal words 'So, you are feeding and watering them what do you expect us to do about it!'. Not the point, I am not always able to get about and if I had been laid up those dogs could have died in a couple of days. the garage was tin and the weather was hot! besides which I am sure 'friend' expected me to clean up the dog mess every day - which I didnt do for the last week as I thought she deserved a lesson! hence the row! she sounds the same type as your MIL - her point of view is the only one that matters and if you disagree you are wrong! even when she is patently in the wrong!

Bloomin_Freezing2

flashnazia wrote: »

I think some answers need to be taken with a pinch of salt.

Talk of 'waiting for the day she drops down dead' and 'take this further as it could be assault' are not helpful.

My MIL did the same thing btw. She is a nice person and didn't so it to spite me. She just thinks there is nothing wrong with piercing a baby girls ears that's all.

Although it is serious, blowing this thing up will not help. It may even affect the OPs marriage.

The MIL sounds like the sort of person who would not react well to angry words anyway. And whatever happens she will always be the partner's mum - nothing you can do about that I'm afraid, so starting a war with her isn't going to help.

Sounds like the FIL is a sensible person. Be sensible and you can deal with this. Rage and getting on a high horse rarely helps.

I was talking about MY grand MIL, not the op's MIL. I really do wish my G.MIL dead, she's a miserable, nasty, interferring old bag!