babys ears pierced

Valli

do you know Meritaten you have possibly hit on something there.

IF the staff in this salon KNOW the MIL thay must have had some idea she wasn't actually the legal guardian of this infant. So I wouldn't be going into them - I would be going to the council, or to the CAB and questioning the salon's acceptance of this and wanting some action.

Mind you I would have been on to the local rag too - and let THEM get their teeth into it...

BigBlackcat

flashnazia wrote: »

I think some answers need to be taken with a pinch of salt.

Talk of 'waiting for the day she drops down dead' and 'take this further as it could be assault' are not helpful.

My MIL did the same thing btw. She is a nice person and didn't so it to spite me. She just thinks there is nothing wrong with piercing a baby girls ears that's all.

Although it is serious, blowing this thing up will not help. It may even affect the OPs marriage.

The MIL sounds like the sort of person who would not react well to angry words anyway. And whatever happens she will always be the partner's mum - nothing you can do about that I'm afraid, so starting a war with her isn't going to help.

Sounds like the FIL is a sensible person. Be sensible and you can deal with this. Rage and getting on a high horse rarely helps.

I really don't like this way of thinking..Being related to someone doesn't mean they get to behave any way they want and that you have to put up with said behaviour.

If OP's DH was to side with his mother over such a serious breach of trust, then OP doesn't just have a MIL problem, she has a DH problem.

Sweet_Pea_2

I agree with all the other posters that MIL was totally and utterly out of order.

Also if the OP had left the earrings in, when the little girl got a bit older she would have to have them redone because the holes and earrings would be right at the bottom of he earlobes as her ears grow, surely with the stud right at the bottom of the lobe it could easily have been pulled out at school in playground etc. Also nurseries and schools may well have wanted them removed. Obviously MIL put no thought into it at all, had the thought and immediately followed through with the action. I would definately be complaining to the salon that did it ( if they knew MIL they may well have suggested it would look nice, as they can't be particularly sensible to have carried out the piercing in the first place) and also I would be advising the salon that I would be complaining higher, this will hopefully stop them from doing something similar to any other young children.

Broomstick

OP, can you get your baby seen by the GP or the Health Visitor in the morning on the excuse that you need to double check about keeping the wounds clean and helping them to heal properly, but actually to make sure that a medical record exists of what your MiL did to your child.

If, in the future, she does something like this again, or worse, there will then be some evidence about what has happened this time. You could let her know once you have been to the GP that you have done this and why.

I would also go to Trading Standards, or whoever it is that licenses premises for piercings, and ask them to deal with the shop. It may be too late for your little girl but you may be able to stop something like this happening to someone else's baby. This needs to be done by the authorities not by you.

(If this had happened to one of my children, I would have gone to the Police and have stopped all contact with MiL for good.)

B x

Dee_Mented

The OP was quite right in her reaction to her MIL - I would have done the same and used even more choice words (and I am probably a lot older than said MIL!!).

Btw - I am a granny of five and I DON'T INTERFERE!!!!:)

flashnazia

Broomstick wrote: »

OP, can you get your baby seen by the GP or the Health Visitor in the morning on the excuse that you need to double check about keeping the wounds clean and helping them to heal properly, but actually to make sure that a medical record exists of what your MiL did to your child.

If, in the future, she does something like this again, or worse, there will then be some evidence about what has happened this time. You could let her know once you have been to the GP that you have done this and why.

I would also go to Trading Standards, or whoever it is that licenses premises for piercings, and ask them to deal with the shop. It may be too late for your little girl but you may be able to stop something like this happening to someone else's baby. This needs to be done by the authorities not by you.

(If this had happened to one of my children, I would have gone to the Police and have stopped all contact with MiL for good.)

B x

The Police! Don't you think they have more pressing things to worry about?

It's getting a bit hysterical in here. Good job the MIL's address isn't known otherwise the'd be a lynch mob outside.

And what has any of this got to do with moneysaving anyway?

relic

flashnazia wrote: »

The Police! Don't you think they have more pressing things to worry about?

It's getting a bit hysterical in here. Good job the MIL's address isn't known otherwise the'd be a lynch mob outside.

And what has any of this got to do with moneysaving anyway?

The MIL could have saved money not getting the babies ear done, there you go, happy now?

roadiegirl

I had my ears pierced at 9 months old, my mother is Greek and it was my first family holiday to 'show me off' as it were. Whilst I was there I had my ears pierced with a small gold stud, which were a present from my Great Grandma and Grandpa, and although I no longer wear those earrings, I still have them as they are something special to me. And just to add, I still wear my earrings (I have about 12 piercings in my ears at the moment), and none of them have ripped out. It was my Mothers choice and it was just the 'done thing'.
However, I do believe that children should have the choice as to when they want them done. When I have children I wouldn't just take them to get them done, I'd wait until they asked.

sashadesade

Very late to the party here but I've got to agree with everyone else. In OP's situation I would have absolutely flipped. Doing something like that to someone else's kid is a serious breech of trust as far as I'm concerned and she wouldn't be seeing the kid alone again. Not to mention earrings on babies look horrible and tacky. And the things about her buying your baby a bandeau bikini and shaving patterns into your son's hair? What the heck is she trying to do to those kids? Next thing you know she'll be buying your daughter thongs and taking your son for a tattoo.

Evren

To be honest, I dont think ANYONE should be pierced with a gun anyway, should be done with a sterilized needle thankyouverymuch.

I dont agree with piercing a babies ears, there's no reason for it, I didnt want my ears done till I was about 9 or 10, and thats when my mom took me, when I asked. *shrugs*