babys ears pierced

moodydonkey

They refused because her father and I weren't there. My daughter was in the church during worship and MIL took her forward to be 'done'

Seventh Day Adventist, MIL was babysitting. I would rather she wasn't even there at all but hey.

Spirit_2

If MIL thinks having your son's hair restyled and baby's ears pierced are decisions she can take without consulting you then I think there can never be a time when she looks after your children alone as she just does not have 'normal' boundaries and judgement.

You seem to be taking this very well - I would be apoplectic.

AppleTurnover

Jeez OP, you did not do well in the MIL lottery did you? Poor you and poor bubba.

I'm with some of the other posters - I would let it lie for a bit, invite her over when things have calmed down, enjoy a couple of glasses of wine and ..........when she nods off tatoo ' gnorw netfo ma I' (so that she can see it in the mirror every time) on her forehead and shave her eyebrows!

Failing that, give her a really wide berth from now on and do not let her have your children unsupervised until she learns the seriousness of her actions.

Good luck to you.

Apple

Jinx

Well she wouldnt be having my child unsupervised if she pulls stunts like that (earrings, haircuts, or baptisms!!). I might have actually thumped my mum had she done anything like that to my daughter. Do these people not understand that you do NOT supersede the authority of mum and dad?!

rosalie-lavender

My Mil is very good at offering her opinion of what she thinks we should or shouldn't be doing but she would never dream of doing something like that. We had to have words over her stuffing the children full of sweets and chocolate which apparently is "a grandma's privilege." I would have gone berserk if she had ever done something like piercing my baby's ears.

I agree with the other posters that have said you need to make it very clear that nothing is to be done to your children without your permission. When your children get older and start asking for piercings, dyed hair, unsuitable clothes etc if you haven't laid the ground rules now then MIL is likely to cause more problems. If Mum won't agree to it go and see grandma etc.

I would be making sure she didn't have my children unsupervised from now on until I was be sure she could be trusted.

Kate78

Completely out of order. Not her child, not her place. How dare she! :mad:

Valli

D'you know I KNEW there were advantages to being divorced...

snowdrop1967

Another supporter here - what disgraceful behaviour. I remember going into Claires one day last year when I saw a similar aged baby having her ears pierced, it really upset me hearing her cry and I felt so angry at the mother. In my opinion babies are gorgeous enough without gold in their ears.

the_cat

Valli wrote: »

D'you know I KNEW there were advantages to being divorced...

And if I'm brutally honest, my OH not being just as
outraged as I was and backing me up 100% in telling MIL EXACTLY what is what, divorce would be a distinct possibility:mad:

I hope that now he has had a chance to consider what has happened, he is preparing to tackle his mother HIMSELF on this issue and stop hiding behind the OP, letting her do the dirty work

meritaten

now your OH knows that his dad was outraged too - perhaps it will stiffen his backbone a bit!
I really would pop into the salon tomorow hun - if your MIL goes there regularly and its the place where they gave son the haircut and your baby the piercing - they know her and think she has the right to sign as guardian. YOU must let them know that she doesnt! and let them know that now they know - any 'treatments' by them on your children will result in you taking legal action. thats all you need to tell them. but they do need to know, otherwise you never know what else will pop into her head or when they get older they will know that grandma will let them have it!