babys ears pierced

mich13x

minimoneysaver wrote: »

OP, are you going to spill the beans on where the piercing was done? I really hope that you have made contact with who ever it was and informed them that they have done a babies ears without parental consent.

I know where the piercing was done, but i will not be naming them on this forum as its a place local to me and i dont want to risk my own privacy if you see what i am saying. Its not a chain store, its an independant beauty salon.

Abbafan1972

I agree with what everyone else has said and I think it was shocking what your MIL did! I think piercings on babies look awful, not to mention the pain inflicted on the poor little mites!

I would definitely take it further with the salon.

At least it seems you have FIL on your side.

Mrs_Arcanum

mich13x wrote: »

She is her happy little self today thankfully, she seems to have got over the trauma a lot faster than Mum has
Her ears are still slightly red but seem to be healing over nicely fingers crossed.

She is still a little out of sorts though, napping at all different times than usual, hopefully i can get her settled back into her normal routine soon, we have playgroup today which is her favourite activity of the week.

FIL called OH last night and apologised again, hes really embarrased about the whole thing. I spoke to him afterwards though and said I could not trust MIL on her own with the children for the time being though and he fully understood. MIL and FIL are complete opposites.

FiL sounds like a lovely chap. I shudder to think what your MiL would be like without him. :eek:

Do hope your DD settles soon

yellowbear

Does your MIL have any other grandchildren? Has she done similar to them?

My MIL is a lovely woman too and has helped us out no end with money BUT if she ever took one of my kids to get their ears pierced, that would be the last time she had unsupervised access.

southoftheriver

Wow i'm really angry just reading this and it wasn't even my child. What blatant disregard for your role as parents and the pain of your little one! Glad she has been put in her place.

minimoneysaver

Did you go down to the salon for a chat? Maybe it is worth pointing out to them, that although you may have no intention of taking it any further, they have put themselves in a difficult position and left themselves wide open to litigation by allowing a grandparent to sign a consent form. I don't think this question has been asked yet, but does the grandmother look like she could be a parent to your child or is she much older? I just wonder if she looks younger, the salon may have (wrongly) assumed that your daughter was actually her daughter.

barbiedoll

OP, as you're going to be stuck with MIL for a few years yet (she must be youngish, 70 year olds don't get their eyebrows waxed, do they? :eek:) you will probably have to find a way to work with her.

The next time you get to see her, try to have a little chat and tell her that you know she loves the grandchildren but that there has to be some boundaries. Buying clothes for the children is fine and you're grateful (if they're that horrid, just let the kids wear them when they see her!) but changing their appearance and mutilating babies is most definitely not. They are YOUR children and it is for you and OH to decide how they look, it's none of her business. Explain to her exactly why you don't approve of small girls wearing bandeau tops and earrings, tell her that you don't want your children to be sexualised at a young age. Let her know that you want the children to have a relationship with their grandmother but they are not trophies to be shown off, they are human beings to be respected and loved.

If, after a bit of reasoning, she still kicks off, send her to the naughty step! :rotfl::rotfl:

meritaten

Thanks for the update on your baby Mich! you did the right thing taking the studs out.
MIL now knows that she was in the wrong and as a result will not get babysitting rights in the near future.
I would still pop into the salon though - it must be made clear to them that YOUR children are not under MILs guardianship and that they should be tightening up their consent procedures.
I think you handled it very well - maturely and responsibly. obviously your OH chose the direct opposite of his mother to marry! Your FIL sounds nice though!

PolishBigSpender

I'd go mad. I hate pierced ears in babies, I think it's so chavvy, but apart from that, this is a serious ingeration in your child's body. That's just wrong to do something like that withoout the parents' consent.

sashadesade

Glad to hear dd is feeling better and mil has been warned off treating her grandkids like fashion accessories. Hope she doesn't try to pull anything else!