Family bereavement - no closure

beasygirl

Bo_Nidle wrote: »

No body, no death cert, no government knowledge he was even there !

Sounds like that guy in the canoe who faked his dissapearance. Perhaps rather than to claim insurance this way your FIL is trying to escape his debts.

He was not escaping his debts, he would not have given two hoots about his financial situation so please don't make comments along those lines. He was not a bad man, he has just left us in a very confusing situation with no chance of getting any answers.

CH27

Surely the Cambodian authorities could identify him from dental records?
What have they done with the body?

beasygirl

kazwookie wrote: »

Most odd

I would start with the police locally

Then start to contact the officals in the Country, how does anyone know he is dead if there is no body?

I would start ot put pressure on the firend who has the lap top etc.

I would tell the banks in this country, what you DO know as FACT, and tell them to freeze any accoutn till further notice.

My SIL told us not to contact the police as it was not his wishes, again with the freind, She has told us politely but firmly that she has no more information for us or messages to pass on. That was the end of that ray of hope.

We went into the bank and explained the situation as best they could but again they cannot freeze the account as we are not account holders but she did tell us the account was cleared out 3 days after he dies. We later found out this money went to my SIL.

Not that the money is an issue, but we feel that we have been left with nothing but hassle (from RBS) whereas everyone else he was close to received something from him after his death.

jackieglasgow

and you were left with the debt? I am sorry, for your's and your husbands loss, but he sounds like a very selfish man to have behaved in this manner, and you should go to the police and report him as missing.

McKneff

SIL has no right to tell you what to do, just do what you have to. Cheeky cow.

So, he may well be still alive then, you have to admit its a bit fishy and the fishiest one in SIL>

Tell her you (or your OH) are going to do it and just do it.

beasygirl

jackieglasgow wrote: »

and you were left with the debt? I am sorry, for your's and your husbands loss, but he sounds like a very selfish man to have behaved in this manner, and you should go to the police and report him as missing.

I must admit, my parents think the same thing and have promised me that they would never do anything like it.

Do we go to the police even though it was his wishes for it all to go like this. We have battled with this from the word go. Honour his wishes or 'open up a whole can of worms' as SIL puts it.

CH27

Do you know SILs address?

If so I would give her name & address to all the creditors & tell them to contact her.

I think he has been extremely selfish.

LittleMissAspie

How did SIL get access to the account and why did she clear it out? Have you seen any these goodbye emails from FIL to other people?

jackieglasgow

Well to be blunt he's dead now, what can he do if you don't honour his wishes? Some things are too unreasonable to be accepted.

lostinrates

Yes, you go to the police even if he wouldn't have wanted it.