Uni's going to try and change her life for the better.....

Knitting_Nora

*big hugs*

Whether it feels like it or not, you're very brave and strong. You have the right to feel safe, supported and comfortable in your own home, and it doesn't sound like you were getting any of that. The shaking is normal - rest and tlc will set you on the right track.

And when you can, make a list of the various experiences you've had to deal with as a result (directly or indirectly) of SS's behaviour/attitude. There may come a time when you or others need a reminder/evidence of what brought you all to this point. Time and distance can tend to give us rose tinted glasses...

*more hugs*

Nora.x

lucielle

Aww Uni, stand firm. I think the final straw has hit the proverbial camels back. Can he not cook? Sorry stupid question........sending lots of positive vibes and hugs through the ether.
L

chevalier

So very sorry to hear that SS has upset you again. But well done for throwing him out. He is really the limit, and if I had been you, he would have been out well before December, so you are far more restrained than I would have been.

Now you just have to keep your resolve. I would imagine this might be difficult if OH starts on at you. Just say no thanks when he asks for him back.

chev

Keiss_21

I agree with chev, well said!

Hope you can keep strong Unix :grouphug:

The_Dragon

Hugs Uni, not what you need but well done for telling him to sling his hook

Uniscots97

Thanks guys, he slunk back yesterday and kept apologising profusely. I've told him the only way he's staying if he pulls his weight and quits the moaning. He has a very cushy life with us and he knows it otherwise he wouldn't have been back. He's been told to keep his room tidy, clean the bathroom,, empty the dishwasher daily and help out. Not much to ask is it? We went out last night (work) and he texted me (not his Dad, my OH) to ask if he could use the phone to call for a takeaway. Today we went to get the tile cutter (I'll explain about that in a minute), we saw one of his old friends at the bus stop so gave him a lift to where he was going (wouldn't see someone stuck like that), when we got back as SS was watching a film (he wants a Sky box in his room but expects us to pay for it.... no way). We said we'd seen his friend and that his friend is leaving to go into the marines in 3 weeks but he wasn't interested. He couldn't wait to get out of the livingroom once his film was finished. We'll see if his behaviour lasts, he's been told first sign of a moan or groan and his bags will be packed no second chances..... and its me that said it so he knows its true.



Went to see my friend and although it was awkward to start, they had replaced our tile cutter and we spent nearly all afternoon there, listening to music and chatting. Have just texted her to say good to see her and looking forward to seeing her later this month (we invited them to a Burn's night we're going to and they said yes).

lucielle

Good to hear that your friend had some moral fibre and did the decent thing.
L

Lemon_Tree

glad your friend replaced the tile cutter, but sorry she messed you around so much in the process. I worry about borrowing things incase i break them. I know my sister once borrowed someone's strimmer, burnt it out, bought a much better one to replace it which she returned full of genuine appologies and the person was really really ar$y with her, i could understand if she'd not replaced it, or gotten a much cheaper one but she didn't. I guess you just can't please someone.

hugs over what's been going on with your SS, hope he toes the line and holds up his end of the bargain but just remember if he breaks the rules even once and doesn't get kicked out he'll never respect them again. (not that he seems to respect much anyway)

Uniscots97

Thanks guys, will write a proper update tomorrow.

Uniscots97

Morning All, Egg/BC is now £2 lower. My next direct debit is due the 3/2 (not the 30th as I thought). I'm hoping to get this paid off early. This is due to finish March but even one month early is better than nothing! Once Egg/BC is out of the way i'm going to concentrate on Beanz (currently at £8754.68). I listed a couple of books on Amazon but don't hold out much hope (I find Amazon slow at the best of times). I'll also list a few more things on Ebay this week (missed the free insertion fees weekend).

Today, so far I have spent 95p on cereal and milk (bad I know as this is money that could go to my debt, I may bring cereal in with me but would still have to buy milk at 30p). I have my packed lunch with me (pasta), a muffin and brought in a box of Tracker bars I got in the yellow sticky area in the co-op. I stopped there yesterday about an hour before they closed and got:-

1 Kg Onions 30p
4 blueberry muffins 30p
ecover dishwasher tablets £1.50
500g Lurpak £1.50
1 Kg Broccoli 40p


I'm finding they have the best YS bargains rather than the big supermarkets, although the cashier said they are getting a lot of people now coming in just before they close to get the bargains. The chap in front of me (eldery) got 10 ready meals (haggis, shepherds pie etc) for 50p each.