Government cuts have led us to question our marrage?

ceridwen

Well - if O.H. went ahead and had a child after you had said this wasnt to happen (a 4th one at that) - then she clearly doesnt think very much of you.

Is this what is at the bottom of your query - ie "I have a wife who thinks so little of me - that she goes ahead and gets pregnant/stays pregnant against my wishes? (even though we already have 3 children at that....)?"

In which case - you have BIG problems with your marriage - NOT the Government.

Decisions as major as having a child/another child are JOINT - and if she did that on her own then she is the problem - not the Government.

(sits back...knowing very well that the "women can fall pregnant" Brigade will be on my case any minute now....but it IS true..and needs pointing out).

no-oneknowsme

beezbonnet wrote: »

4th child, I was waiting to go for vasectomy at time. Id made it very clear I didn't want more children.
OH was supposed to be on pill.
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Awww , so your wife didnt take care of the family planning correctly......if you dont mind me asking.....what exactly did happen to the condom you were using?

teabag29

coolcait wrote: »

That's a new excuse for getting out of a relationship:

"It's not you, it's the government...."

hahahahaha I bout fell off my chair laughing when I read this! lmao:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

thorsoak

OK Beezbonnet - why not grow a pair - and tell your wife "this marriage is over - we no longer want the same things" - and make arrangements to split up.

I think that then you will start to worry about finances!

Don't blame the government though for the failure of you and your wife to make your relationship work - it is up to both of you!

globetraveller

thorsoak wrote: »

OK Beezbonnet - why not grow a pair - and tell your wife "this marriage is over - we no longer want the same things" - and make arrangements to split up.

I think that then you will start to worry about finances!

Don't blame the government though for the failure of you and your wife to make your relationship work - it is up to both of you!

Can you imagine the opener to the conversation-
there are three of us in this marriage- you, me and David Cameron

beezbonnet

Originally Posted by jetta_wales
Child benefit is only being cut if the person claiming it earns over £40k isn't it? In this case it would be the Mum and she isn't earning over that so would still receive it.

Somebody feel free to correct me and give a link if I've got that wrong?

Nope, if someone in the household is in higher tax bracket you should not claim and can be fined etc when the change comes in.

Think it's even worse than that. If you receive Child Allowance and are not working I think the years receiving child benefit are seen as you paying NI so you build up your state pension entitlement.
No Child Allowance no NI contribution!

Bambywamby

globetraveller wrote: »

Can you imagine the opener to the conversation-
there are three of us in this marriage- you, me and David Cameron

You, me and the ghost of Gordon Brown is more apt imo...I think Labour are more responsible for causing the cuts than Camer-legg.

beezbonnet

Wifes 2 houses and savings, no those would become my house.
And my house which is worth more would become hers.

Like it, lump it. think what you like of my marriage. I don't care.

For what its worth we don't argue about much
1) we have different ambitions,
2) OH thinks I spoil the children.

I enjoy walking and travel taking the children on days out. OH wont participate. If we do argue its because I spent £100 on taking kids to Alton Towers, I never spend more money than comes in.
We can work our marriage out yes but it takes time and work.
If I live a few houses down the street the kids will be happy, Ill be happy, David Cameron , Ed Milliband and every other politician will be happy because we'll now be the kind of people hes seeking votes from.
OH will learn to take responsibility for her finances her self.
Well get a break from each other and hey maybe a couple of years down the line we will have more respect for what we did for each other and try again.

I understand why those people who value value marriage should be outraged.
We can laugh about David Cameron but single income traditional families are now a minority.
If your a single income family your not a big concern for votes and you are currently getting trampled on.

Now I got to go skateboarding with the kids bye

sabz3008

ANYYYYYYYYYYWAYS, in other news...

Expecting an ickle baby girl~ 14th September 2011

Aw congratulations Bambywamby!

happierdaystocome

OP if you have been working away from home on a regula basis for a number of years and are now at home, it will take time and effort for you and OH to learn to live together and adjust as both of you will have to learn to compromise.

If you really have a strong sense of family, for me the first call would be for you and OH to contact relate and see if your are able to make your marriage work.